pregnant at the same time as my sister

[Courtney_ak]

My sister and I are two weeks apart in our pregnancies. She struggles with depression and has two boys 5&6. My family is very close so,  we see eachother almost daily. Every time we talk she is "miserable" and her behavior is rediculous. Verbally attacking everyone... She ***** the joy right out of every conversation I have about my growing love. I feel awful but I can't keep listening to her treat my parents and nephews with such disrespect. Not to mention if she cuts off another conversation im having about my baby to tell me how awful her life is I'm going to lose my damn mind. How do I talk to her about this without upsetting her more??? I love her and understand it's a difficult time for her but, this situation needs to be addressed.

[Courtney_ak]

Thanks! That is a great suggestion. I will definitely take the time to have a respectful conversation with her. Hopefully we can both gain something from it.

[mweshka]

Wow, excellent advice. I'm gonna use it on my mother.

[winniedecember]

I agree with Holly_jae. Very well said. Remember to stay positive and let her know that you're coming from a place of love.  If that doesn't work hopefully you have some more positive friends who you can share your pregnancy joys with.  

[Holly_Jae]

Well since she is already kind of negative and emotional,  if feel like anything you say to her she will take the wrong way. So just prepare yourself for that. However your family sounds ver tight and close, i doubt this will ruin your relationship.

Just pull her to the side where its just you to, and lay it all out as simply and kindly as you can.

Start by saying," You know i love you sister but there is something that has been bothering me lately. Ive notice everytime i talk about my baby and being happy, i feel like you cut me short and turn the conversation around to something else and often times it seems negative.  That bothers me because_________."

Just keep it simple, short and right to the point, so she gets it loud and clear. I would refrain from putting her down or making her feel bad, it will just get ugly.  

And if she gets deffensive and angry, just try your best to stay calm and composed. Tell her i had a feeling you might take it this way, i didnt mean to upset you. I just had to get this off my chest. I hope you have a wondercul rest of your day and i hope we can talk again when you are cooled down. I love you sister.

Or ahe can just be completely understanding and never thought about tge situation from your point of view.

As long as you dont get overly emotional it should go smooth and boil over fast. Good luck! !