silly people

[littlegrape]

My bfs mum is really starting to annoy me. And I get the feeling she doesn't like me. She is sayin that I like my dads present more than hers. But she is saying these to my bf withoutyme being there. I don't even know how she got this from.as I didn't even see my dads untill he cam up as I hardly ever see him. Even so he is my dad. She is also saying I never said thank you for the presents when I definitely did. I always say thank you for everything. And I said thank you lotsvof times for thr present she got I even gave them both a hug. And showed the presentsoff ti everyone as I tthought they were cute. She is really annoying me and it is making me upset. And I really can't take it.

[giraffe1020]

The thank you card is a good idea. Who can say you never said thank you when its written right there? If its too late for that. Tell her how you will use her present. Peoples number one emotional need is to feel important. Let her feel that way but also know that when someone is insecure you can't fill this void. Its unfortunate but they blame others for what they lack and don't realize they push others away. Getting angry only makes you look bad and it gets turned on you quickly. Good luck

[pumpkin_buns]

My MIL is crazy-- she tells me all the time I need plastic surgery on my ears and boobs (my ears are fine and I was a 32D even before I was pregnant). She tells me I'll be a horrible parent for various reasons, even though she cheated on her husband, was very addicted to heroine, and was a prostitute for many years.
BUT!!!
Despite all her problems, she did the best she could and raised the man of my dreams:) my husband is SO amazing so she did SOMETHING right along the way.
here is what helps me maintain a good relationship with her:
I stand up for myself! No matter what, but when she finally stops lecturing me give her a hug and kiss her on the cheek and tell her how grateful I am that she is my MIL (even if I dont feel that way at the time. Sometimes it's SO hard to say!!!)
I tell her thank you and write her hand-written thank-you cards-- she's pretty crazy so I want proof;)
I tell her that I can't wait for my kids to meet her!
i ask for her advice-- even though I DO NOT plan to take most of it. She wants to be a good grandparent and it's hard for her that she can't physically be present like my parents can.
When we visit,  I clean her house,  make her food,  and make an effort to get to know her.
it does not fix the problem, but it helps her love me and helps me love her back!

[littlegrape]

15 weeks tomorrow. I will do. She just keeps having a go at him about me. And she complains about me not talking to her and makes it difficult for me to do so as she never lets me round anymore and when she does she goes straight upstairs to watch tv and im stuck going how am I meant to talk to her when she keeps avoiding me

[YoungLadyDay14]

How far along are you? Remember ur hormones are all over the place so u could get more sensitive. I would talk to ur bf then see about having a frank conversation with her.

[littlegrape]

I understand that but I mean up until its born just so im not stressed out any more

[PrincessLafaye]

That is still his mother so yes it would be wrong she can take u to court she has grandparents rights I mean ignore her and enjoy your pregnancy I mean I understand its upsetting you but to keep her from the baby is a bit irate

[littlegrape]

Would it be wrong to just not have her have anything to do with me or baby,