OT Baby Shower *VENT*

[Aliciaw]

Okay I know I don't post on here that often but I need to get this out! I am going to start off by saying I love my family but...

My sister is so frustrating!! She thinks everything has to be about her and what she wants. Okay I got married in November and it was supposed to be the happiest time of my life right? Wrong!! Because of my sister I was pretty close to calling off my wedding all together. She kept having me change the date and time for when she could be there and what fit her schedule. Now it is happening with my baby shower. I hadn't heard anything about it yet so I emailed my mom and sister to see what was going on with it. If they had set a date or anything because the date my mom and I had talked about is only 3 weeks away. Well my other sister writes back and says that it isn't even January yet and that we would probably do it at the begining of February. And I said that we had originally said it would be Janurary 22nd and she responded with "Well I can tell you now that Arlene won't want to do it that month as Maddie and Shawn's Birthday is that month and since when did the pregnant woman decide the date???" That made me so mad! I wrote back and said that's fine I don't even need a shower. So she got with Arlene and they decided on February 12th. Am I out of line for being upset about this? I know I am not supposed to be involved with the planning of the shower but I was getting worried as I hadn't heard anything and needed to know when I needed to get addresses together for the invitations. Am I wrong for feeling like my sister is ruining my baby shower?

[Aliciaw]

Thank you! I feel like I am being pushy but I mean no one had said anything about it and I want to make sure the invitations and everything are sent out in plenty of time for people. I feel like if we have to change it for it to please everyone than it will never happen. Maybe I am just being Hormonal

[Aliciaw]

I know I do but I am the type of person that just wants to make everyone happy and will do things for others. But I feel like she ruined my wedding and hoping that she doesn't also ruin my baby shower this is my first pregnancy and I want it to be a happy experience.

[Shayne1989]

I agree with you, yes we are not supposed to have anything to do with the actual like making of the day happen, you should still have a say on the date its going to be on since there would be no baby shower without you there, not exactly something can go on without the momma to be ya know lol
I think if it gets bad enough that i would just tell her that look, yes you are planning it and i really appreciate what you are doing but it is YOUR special day for YOUR baby, you NEED to have a say on what day its on since you have to make sure you don't  have a doc appt or anything that can't be rescheduled that the same day. You have every right to be frustrated with her.
Hope everything calms down with her and she realizes that yes even though she's putting it together, the shower is still for you and to make you happy, its not about her.

[julianovak]

I dont think I'd switch my wedding date even for the queen of england. Thats your special day and rearranging the date like that is ridiculous. Im sorry you have to set her straight!!!! Seriously.

[Aliciaw]

Thank you!! That is how I felt when it was about my wedding. I felt like it's my special day and she should just shut up and be happy. And now I am feeling like that about my baby shower.

[julianovak]

NAW id be ticked too. Tell her straight, That is pretty pathetic of you schedualing YOUR wedding around HER schedual. HOW lame is that!??? She should put the time into HER life and be there for you when you need her. NOT vice versa ESP with something like a wedding. ANd about the baby shower she should make up her mind already. SHe isnt the pres of USA,.... SHE has the time. Maybe shes just lazY?