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[DominiqueN573]

my MIL is throwing me a baby shower... I know its very nice of her but her and I aren't close. The only time I see her is for a holiday or when they have him and I over for dinner. In the seven years we have been together it has never been just her and I going out and doing something. Anyways.. she is inviting like 50 people and I don't know most of them.. I'm already uncomfortable in social situations but she told my fiance he can't come.. and saying its weird for him to be there and that if he comes she is going to have to invite everyone else's husbands and boyfriends etc..I'm really upset about it mainly BC I'm so uncomfortable.. not sure what to do.. I have never been to a baby shower or had one so maybe if I know what you do and what its like ilk feel better about the situation.  I'm very excited to have one and very thankful just nervous.

[lindyJay]

Do you have a good friend you could take with you to easy the awkwardness?

[BabyTurnip]

Bring ur man! I refused to have a baby shower with only women i think its just wrong! The guyd should be allowed to celebrate it too. I would just tell her, ur bringing ur hubby or ur not going at all. It took both of u to do this babybso both of u get to enjoy every part of it together!

Baby showers are basically, little games (which ***** i hate them all lol) food and the rest is just people staring at u opening presents and you going "oh my! What a lovely box of diapers could thing i have 15other boxes " lol just kidding.....but it is a whole lot of gifts opening and smiling and thank yous.

[DominiqueN573]

Lol he already mentioned it and she said No way that its weird and she doesn't want to have to invite all the men if he comes. :(

[DominiqueN573]

She won't let me take anyone with me either..

[Sarahdawn1990]

@BabyTurnip.  Hahahahaha!!! I love your description! Yes that's pretty much how mine went. We ate, played a few games and then opened presents and ate cake afterwards and everyone talked and hung out. It was kinda awkward opening all the presents cuz everyone makes a point not to even blink the entire time (or at least it feels like it lol). Luckily i had my husband there to help so it wasn't just me. Id take a best friend or a sister if your close or someone like that who can help you and make it less awkward. Just remember though, it only lasts a few hours and if you don't hardly know any of the ppl she's inviting, chances are you probably won't see them again so just have fun, smile, say lots of thank yous and im sure it will go better than you think. :)

[BabyTurnip]

Just tell her that this is ur baby and u dont want to go threw this without ur hubby. If shes not happy to bad! Hell have some beer there for the guys and have a bbq! I would not go without my hubby. Im stubborn that way. Either she invites the guys or ur not going. Tell her that ur not desperate for a baby shower and if she wont do it ur way then she can hit the highway (hihi! It rhymes :) i can entertained easily lol sorry) but yea....personally i would be firm with her. People get away just fine without a baby shower, its just a celebration for ur baby and EVERYONE should get to enjoy it. I refused to have one cuz 1. I hate getting attention, makes me anxious 2. I hate 90% of my family and my hubbys family  and 3. The girl who wanted to throw one didnt want to invite the guys.......so i told her this "you go right ahead and do it my dear, but im not going to show up so have fun".....im hard headed that way and i like things done the way i like them. I mean my hubby was a big part of this baby and i want him present for every event! Good luck momma :)

[DominiqueN573]

Thanks for the support ladies.. I thought I was being stupid.. we lost two babies in our second trimester and are finally pregnant with our third a beautiful little girl.  I just want him involved... it makes me sad and I'm not good with social situations.. she knows this and she knows him and I do EVERYTHING together.

[jackie507]

If its your shower your friends should be there and not people you don't know explain this to her I bet she'll understand.

[MommyDani01]

I'm in the same situation if my bf mom did that I wouldn't know what to do cause we aren't that close either! I would be very nervous cause of the attention and everything but yea you should tell her you at least want one friend to go. It wouldn't hurt but just go and it will be over before you know it! Look on the bright side, you get a whole bunch of stuff for your baby!

[lindyJay]

Im so thankful i am not having one its way to much BS... instead im having a "welcoming party" when bub is born that way people can go ohhh ahhh over the bub and can buy stuf for bub if the choose, also that way im not over crowded at the hospital lol

[lindyJay]

Oh plus i get to plan it and there are no stupid games :P

[BabyTurnip]

Im getting a "welcoming baby party" too. Much better i think. Its done after baby is born and settled in and its really just for fun. Not "who can get a bigger gift and wwjos better and gets to hold baby first".....trust me....you will get that -.-'

[babywhalen2]

Im gonna be the devils advocate here lol and tell you to grin and bear it. She obviously cares enough about you and baby to throw the party, and since she is the one planning, paying for and organizing it, let her do it her way...its just her trying to bless you in the way she knows how and is comfortable with. And what harm will it do you to smile, eat some cake and say a load of thank yous for a few hours in return for all the blessings your baby will recieve? I can understand your discomfort at not knowing many ppl, and it is a bit of an old fashioned traditiob to do women only...but it is her way of showing she cares...i dont think it would be unreasonable to ask however to bring one good girlfriend or sister. She shouldnt mind that. Just try to enjoy the food, games and gifts and remember it wont last forever.

[babydue07182013]

I'd go ahead and let her do it. You could always have more than one lol and hey more stuff