Aa
wtf?!!
My mother in law and the rest of my family keep hounding me about having my baby now. They act like they have never had children before and they don't understand that they come when they are ready! I'll be 38 weeks Thursday and my mother in law wants him out because she's going out of town for a while and won't be here my due date. I just want everyone to back off a little. sorry for the rant :(
Omg lol. Totally sounds like my bfs mother! "Dont do this, dont do that. This is how u should do this"..u gotta let it out on her, I held back for sooo long let her tell us how to raise our son, I finally snapped. She backed off a bit but it still happens here and there. I totally know how u feel. She even went as far as calling my Dr and saying my son went to the emergency room (even tho it wasn't true) because she didn't want me taking the pain meds they gave me after my Csection with my last baby.
No its not ungrateful, you feel smothered I can't image having to deal with that. You don't want to be mean but how can you say something without having her get offended or not appreciated?! I feel for ya and hope you find a solution
Haha I feel like that day is going to come lol very soon! But thanks for the encouragement ladies. I thought maybe it was just me being mean and seeming "ungrateful".
Just become one with your inner pregnant hormonal b**** and tell her;) maybe the not so niceness will throw her for a loop. You don't need all that
Well im gkad he stands up for you but if i were you i would just flip and get it off your chest i mean your pregnant just blame it on the hormones haha but naybe then she will get your sick of the bull shizz
That is bull shizz girl you are the mom you andyourfianceneed to have a sit down and talk about what has been hoing on andyour feelings and if he truely loves you he should understand and if not ask him how he would feel if your mom was doing the things she is doing except to him ... Im sorry your going through this but i feel the best part sbout our men is they should be there for you and stand behind you and make you feel better
Amen^^!!!! Thats exactly how I feel. My fiance sees it sometimes and he talks to her. Well he yells at her and I feel bad. He tells me to stand up to her but I don't know how to tell someone to back the f*** up in a nice way. Im not worried about the room ordeal because I have already talked to my doctor about it.
There is a big difference between getting appreciation and expecting someone to bend over and kiss @$$!
She has no control over being in that room, YOU do. Does your man see this power trip or what? You just need to stand your ground. How you have held your tongue through all that is beyond me!
Exactly^^!!!! Thank you!! Everyone tells me I should be thankful for what she has done for us and I am very grateful!!! But I am the mother and she should still respect my position as the mother and understand that what I say goes period!!
Its just one thing after another.. the baptism ordeal, she didnt think the outfit i wanted to bring my son home in was good enough so she insisted she goes and buys something, she took over my baby shower, she tries to tell me how to raise my son and what I should and shouldn't do. Like for example I wanted a swing and im pro pacifiers. She said her kids hated swings and wouldn't take a pacifier so I shouldn't buy any. Im just sick of being told what to do. She had two kids and I helped my mom (a single mother of four) raise my siblings. I know how to take care of a baby. She's also upset that she's not allowed in the room when I go into labor. She said if my grandma or my mom goes in then she's going in regardless.
Only 3 more months girl!! You just need to express those feelings to your man and stick to your guns. Her being a full time babysitter just adds more fuel to her fire. I think that when you move out you should, in the most respectful way possible, tell her to back off:P You're the momma she is the grandma,she needs to learn to respect that
We're moving out in July. We only stayed because she insisted that we did so that my fiance could finish his last semester of college "stress free". I cant wait to move out but my fiance wants her to be our babysitter when I go back to work. I don't want to keep her from her grandkid but I also don't trust that she'll respect my word. I have a feeling she will do whatever the hell she wants to and I don't like that.
A lot of this stress would be a lot more distant if you didn't live with her. Get out asap!!;) i'm sure you guys living with her makes her feel more intitled to cross the line.
Is there anyway you guys can move out because I'm sure it will be a lot worst when your baby arrives
why would she think that is okay? when you are ready thats a decision you should make! i am personally having a baby dedication for my child but thats not everyones preference. just let her know nicely that he will get here when he gets here and her extra pressure/stress isnt helping
I have started to ignore her because she sounds ridiculous. She also wants me to take some of the baby's things and put them in another room downstairs (my fiance and I live with her) and I just feel like she wants to take over. She wants to go to my doctors appointment this Thursday but the last time she came she made the appointment all about her and basically bashed my piercings and tattoos when she saw them. I just want her to back off a bit. I kind of want to just run away and have my baby and then come back when I'm ready haha. Sorry for the rant but it gets annoying keeping it inside and not speaking to anyone a boy it. I don't like to be mean to her. I told her no once about getting my baby baptized but she still hasn't let it go and said she would do it and I didn't have to be there. Ughhh!! Lol
Seriously , i wouldn't write this as a rant but "Can you believe this????" and just laugh. . I mean, OMG!
This is the most ridiculous thing i ve ever heard..
Just ignore, hun!
This is the most ridiculous thing i ve ever heard..
Just ignore, hun!
That's upsetting I'm so sorry..
She's a bit selfish I think, I would just ignore it the baby will come when its ready :)
Hang in there hun
She's a bit selfish I think, I would just ignore it the baby will come when its ready :)
Hang in there hun
If it is comfortable then its okay. The baby will let you know when its no longer safe because it will be uncomfortable x
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