Successful pregnancy after losing a baby at 22 weeks

[Shannybaby78]

On June 11th I gave birth to my first child..a son at 22 weeks of pregnancy.  He did not survive.  I have so many questions and I'm still so very sad.  Has anyone experienced something similar?  My pregnancy was fine until week 20 then everything went down hill.  20 week u/s was fine but I started having back pain.  The pain got very severe to where I could not sleep or eat and I ended up in the hospital to find I had hydronephrosis.  I was sent home with a follow up appt scheduled with a dr to talk about stenting my kidney.  Not even a week later I started bleeding and went back to the hospital to find I was 8 cm dilated already.  My severe back pain prevented me from knowing I was in labor.  Has anyone ever had hydronephrosis during their pregnancy?  How about pregnancies after having a preterm baby?  Any help or advice is appreciated.  I think I really just want someone to talk to who understands what I am going through :)

[MomofLillyCierra22]

I know this is an old post, but I relate a lot to your situation. I am 20 yrs old and i was pregnant with my first child and also at 22 weeks I had lost my daughter on June 22. Results later had showed there was absolutely nothing wrong just went in for a check up and there wasnt a heart beat and nobody could tell me why but they had to induce my labor and i had to give birth to her. I also have an older sister she is 21 and has two kids of her own. While i was in the hospital my sister had sent a mass text to everybody (im from a small town so word gets around quick) saying i had lost my child and had to diliver vaginally and had also taken a picture of my daughter, Lilly Cierra, and had sent it out in a mass text also. I had no idea that she did that until i was planning the cremation of Lilly when a friend had showed me the msgs. It was very hurtful and still to this day cannot get over that she did that, my mom or nobody showed any concern for the situation and just thought what she did was fine and pretty much told me to get over it.  Being in a situation like your sister, there really aren't any words or really anything anybody can do to make you feel better. What does help is knowing somebody is there for you, somebody you can trust not just anybody. My step dad who has been in my life since i was 2 didnt say anything to me never said sorry he didn't even act like anything occured which also was very hurtful. My advice is just to let her know youre there for her if she wants to talk about it, sometimes its hard to talk about so wait for her to come to you. I'm really sorry for the loss it's really a tough thing to go through and is something we'll never get over but having friends and family that are willing to help is the next best thing. I wish you guys all the best that goes to anybody who has lost a child, neice, nephew, grandchild, or cousin, things will hopefully start to look up its been a few months and yet its still hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but its there and we'll get there I truely believe that.

[geminikayla]

Its terible what life throws at you sometimes totally cruel unfair and unprodictable, my sister is 18 an was rushed into labour yesterday att 22weeks! Shed had a terrible pregnancy anot bein able to keep any food atall down an she's extremly thin but we just don't. Understand he's u/s 2weeks ago showed him. Perfect an healthy. Then 2weeks later her waters broke the umbilical called. Had detactched from him an he was starved of oxygen she then had to give birth tto him she had to dress him tttoday an say goodbye an will be arranging the funeral this week I was there every step of ttthe way through her labour an my heart is breaking for her its the hardest fing any one could ever do she seems to be coping really well at the moment but think she's in extreme shock what do we do whatt do we say! I'm a state myself atm had to explain to my 5year old daughter that he's in heaven with the angels its all happend so quik with no. Reason. I love my sistter an justt wana help to take the pain away! Please help

[geminikayla]

Its terible what life throws at you sometimes totally cruel unfair and unprodictable, my sister is 18 an was rushed into labour yesterday att 22weeks! Shed had a terrible pregnancy anot bein able to keep any food atall down an she's extremly thin but we just don't. Understand he's u/s 2weeks ago showed him. Perfect an healthy. Then 2weeks later her waters broke the umbilical called. Had detactched from him an he was starved of oxygen she then had to give birth tto him she had to dress him tttoday an say goodbye an will be arranging the funeral this week I was there every step of ttthe way through her labour an my heart is breaking for her its the hardest fing any one could ever do she seems to be coping really well at the moment but think she's in extreme shock what do we do whatt do we say! I'm a state myself atm had to explain to my 5year old daughter that he's in heaven with the angels its all happend so quik with no. Reason. I love my sistter an justt wana help to take the pain away! Please help

[leanne12a]

I lost my son 2 weeks ago, he was born at 22 weeks he was absolutely perfect. It's taken a big toll on me and my partner ive become totally paranoid that he is going to leave me now aswell. I put on a brave front to friends and family to stop them worrying but inside something died after i lost him, i miss him so much im just hoping wen i go bk to the hospital they can tell me why this happened. I already have a 4 yr old son who is my world and the only thing that's keeping me going. Has this situation made any1 else really paranoid to the point your convinced ur bf has cheated? X

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I just cry over all of these losses I am reading about here.  My heart goes out to each and every one of you!!!

If any of you are diagnosed with an incompetent cervix, it could very well happen again, BUT there is something that can be done to help.  The doctor can put what is called a cerclage in the cervix.  This is basically a stitch to keep the cervix from dialating prematurely.  It is possible that you may also require some bedrest, but maybe not.  Once you reach a safe place in the pregnancy, the cerclage is removed.

Again, I am so sorry for you all and honestly cannot imagine loss like this.

[Lucy0704]

on the 7th April 2011 we had the most beautiful baby girl named her Jessica she was born with lots of heart problems that we did not kno about whilst I was pregnant. We were refferred down to hospital and said she would need major heart surgery between 3-6 months. But a couple of weeks of being home we got rushed bk into hospital where she needed an operation to help her oxygen levels to get back up. After her opertaion she looked fine and 3 hours later we lost her. I feel so lost and alone and I miss her everyday. I don't feel like doing anything or seeing anyone, I was so good in pregnancy no smoking not even one drop of alcohol. It has been 7 weeks since giving birth and I want to try and have another baby again. I feel bad for feeling like this. I would never forget my gorgeous first born baby but I am scared about having another child. has anyone been on to have a healthy baby after losing one?