Am I overreacting?

[Colima]

I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months over a woman he is in contact with. She is 15 years younger than him. He and I are the same age. He is close to his ex-wife, ex-girlfriends, and has many female friends. None of that bothered me - except I had a weird feeling about this particular woman. Well, on Valentine's Day, he texted her asking her, "Will you be my Valentine?" He didn't ask me to be his Valentine. In fact, he did nothing for me for Valentine's Day. He told me he didn't believe in Valentine's Day! Then, I was the victim of an assault. He took me to the hospital. While I was in the exam room, he was outside texting her. She asked him to go to a show with him that night, and he agreed. He didn't say, "Hey, my girlfriend is in the hospital and really needs me right now so sorry I can't go," he said "Sure, I'd love to!" He didn't say anything about me to her at all. He also went to a party she hosted and lied to me about going - until a picture of him with her at the party showed up on Facebook. He says that they are just friends and that I am overreacting and I am unreasonably jealous and wrong. I say I have every reason to be upset. I say he's infatuated with her and that his behavior is inappropriate for someone in a committed relationship.

[Tiggywnks]

Well i think you did the right thing! good for you and dont men always turn the table around and try to blame the female ...maybe it makes them feel better but what men forget is us woman are 10 ahead most of the time from them and if you had that feeling i bet you you were right and as the saying goes ' what goes around comes around' and will bite his *** at some stage but by then you be happy with somebody else who appricates you :)

Tiggys.

[Richard Pomerance, Ph.D]

Dear Colima,

I'm supportive! I believe you did the right thing in breaking up with him. If the story is as you portray it, his behavior is inexcusable. His attempt to rationalize it away is ridiculous.
It appears that you were being used more like an appliance than a partner.

I hope you find someone truly worthy of your affection next time around.

Sincerely,

Dr. P.

[Colima]

I already broke up with him. I know I can't go back to him - not sure if that's even on the table. The main thing is I am feeling guilty because he put the onus on me saying I was being unreasonable, I was being unfairly suspicious, I was being jealous for no reason. I don't agree. If there was nothing going on, why did he lie so many times over her and hide things from me? He didn't do that with other female friends. And I have no problem with his other female friends. No I am not going back to him. I guess I just need some support and validation.