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problems in relationship
hi im having sum problems with my relationship...my bf and i been going out for 1month and 3wreeks...and sumtimes i wud call him he pick up but other times he doesnt answer and wen i ask him y h didnt answer he say hes fone wuz on silent or hes friend wuz using his fone..then wen i say ok well didnt u c the missed call he sed NO he doesnt...but i understand becuz he has a lil baby girl to take care off...but wen were together sumtimes i get really shy to tlk to him about wutz on my mind i mean i tell him but i stop in the middle of the convo...everytime i tell him i have to tlk 2 him we tlk about it wut botherign me but last time we tlk about a problem that i wuz having 2days ago on the fone he hung up the fone on my face and wen i call him baqq he get ignoring my calls like he pick up then he hung up...
so wut do yuh think i shud do aboutt this matter and i like to much to break up with him for sum reason i just cant do it....
so plz help me
so wut do yuh think i shud do aboutt this matter and i like to much to break up with him for sum reason i just cant do it....
so plz help me
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Dear haitianP,
Right, the question is why you’re having trouble breaking up. The guy isn’t into you, doesn’t want to be involved. Either that or you wanting to talk and share just doesn’t work for him. He may just not be grown up enough.
So what ARE you afraid of if you break up? Loneliness? Lack of sex? Fear there’s no one else? Something else? You need to think about this. When you get to something, get back to me and we’ll work out how to get past it. Promise.
Also, I notice from your other postings that you’ve got a discharge that hasn’t been diagnosed. GET IT DONE. Yes, it might be a yeast infection, but who knows? Gynecological problems have to be taken care of, so that they don’t turn into major issues.
Lemme know!
Sincerely,
Dr. P.
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Your follow-up:
ummm idk y but i guess it bcuz i might be in love with him without me knwoing that i do...and yeh i will tlk to my doctor about my symptoms but i dont have any insurance so are they going to charge me if i go there by myself..
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Response to your follow-up from Dr. Pomerance:
Dear haitianP,
What does it mean for you to be “in love” if you’re treated this badly? If your love is not reciprocated? If it just causes you pain? That isn’t what love is about, at least in MY book. Think about it!!!
As for the insurance issue: I don’t have a great answer, but worst case, go to an emergency room at a local hospital, and see what they have to say. It may be simple and no/low cost.
In any case, don’t fool around with your health. Would you like to wind up chronically sick, damaged, or infertile? These things can happen to women when they ignore gynecological issues. Maybe not to you in this case (not my area) but could easily at some point if you neglect your health care. Be good to yourself!
Sincerely,
Dr. P.
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Your 2nd follow-up:
i know that when you love someone you would do anything for that person, always be there for them whenever they need you..but in this case as i look back to everything he's done to me and all the pains, and always crying everyt night thinking what is it that i am doing wrong...but i'm guessing im not the one with the problems i'm just with someone who doesn't want to be with me or like you said before have anything to do with me...and i'm guessing the best thing to do right now is to break up with him...
but is it rude to break up with someone over the phone while talking to them or no..then if that's the case i can break up with him over the phone..but the other problem is that i don't think i'll have the guts to break up with him face-to-face...
so what should i do now...
And ok i'll go the doctors and ask around how much would i have to pay to get treated...
but is there another to get treated at home or something..like is there a medication or other products that i could by to at least get rid of this infection..
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Response to your 2nd follow-up from Dr. Pomerance:
Dear haitianP,
If you decide he's not really with you, and doesn't really want to be, you can break up any way. Face to face is generally best, but if he tends to rope you in when you're with him physically, over the phone will do. If he says that "things will be different", say "show me." Then make sure he actually passes the test. Then see how he does the six months after that. Does he go back to how it is now? Are you just the cow he's herding back into the pen? Or does he REALLY and SUBSTANTIALLY and LASTINGLY change?
As to your physical health: if you have a yeast infection you'll no doubt need a prescription. You have to be checked out for this. It may be something else; we just don't know yet. NEVER be shy or cheap around significant health issues. Don't fool around with ineffectual over the counter stuff. That's nonsense and could endanger your health ongoing.
So: let's take care of business in these two important areas. I want you to be both happy and healthy, even if you have to sustain some discomfort to get there!
Cordially,
Dr. P.
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Your 3rd follow-up:
i tlked to him..and he sed hes willing to change, and he sed he doesnt want me to break up with him, cuz he really have alot of feelings for me..
so i think i shud give him another chance...
THANK YOU.
DR.P
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Response to your 3rd follow-up from Dr. Pomerance:
Dear HaitianP,
Ok, but don't emotionally get back in all the way. He's on probation. Reserve some of your heart, stand back and see objectively what happens. If he really changes and it really lasts, there'll be plenty of time for more of the trust that makes you feel so good.
Cordially,
Dr.P.
Right, the question is why you’re having trouble breaking up. The guy isn’t into you, doesn’t want to be involved. Either that or you wanting to talk and share just doesn’t work for him. He may just not be grown up enough.
So what ARE you afraid of if you break up? Loneliness? Lack of sex? Fear there’s no one else? Something else? You need to think about this. When you get to something, get back to me and we’ll work out how to get past it. Promise.
Also, I notice from your other postings that you’ve got a discharge that hasn’t been diagnosed. GET IT DONE. Yes, it might be a yeast infection, but who knows? Gynecological problems have to be taken care of, so that they don’t turn into major issues.
Lemme know!
Sincerely,
Dr. P.
--------------
Your follow-up:
ummm idk y but i guess it bcuz i might be in love with him without me knwoing that i do...and yeh i will tlk to my doctor about my symptoms but i dont have any insurance so are they going to charge me if i go there by myself..
=========
Response to your follow-up from Dr. Pomerance:
Dear haitianP,
What does it mean for you to be “in love” if you’re treated this badly? If your love is not reciprocated? If it just causes you pain? That isn’t what love is about, at least in MY book. Think about it!!!
As for the insurance issue: I don’t have a great answer, but worst case, go to an emergency room at a local hospital, and see what they have to say. It may be simple and no/low cost.
In any case, don’t fool around with your health. Would you like to wind up chronically sick, damaged, or infertile? These things can happen to women when they ignore gynecological issues. Maybe not to you in this case (not my area) but could easily at some point if you neglect your health care. Be good to yourself!
Sincerely,
Dr. P.
=============
Your 2nd follow-up:
i know that when you love someone you would do anything for that person, always be there for them whenever they need you..but in this case as i look back to everything he's done to me and all the pains, and always crying everyt night thinking what is it that i am doing wrong...but i'm guessing im not the one with the problems i'm just with someone who doesn't want to be with me or like you said before have anything to do with me...and i'm guessing the best thing to do right now is to break up with him...
but is it rude to break up with someone over the phone while talking to them or no..then if that's the case i can break up with him over the phone..but the other problem is that i don't think i'll have the guts to break up with him face-to-face...
so what should i do now...
And ok i'll go the doctors and ask around how much would i have to pay to get treated...
but is there another to get treated at home or something..like is there a medication or other products that i could by to at least get rid of this infection..
--------
Response to your 2nd follow-up from Dr. Pomerance:
Dear haitianP,
If you decide he's not really with you, and doesn't really want to be, you can break up any way. Face to face is generally best, but if he tends to rope you in when you're with him physically, over the phone will do. If he says that "things will be different", say "show me." Then make sure he actually passes the test. Then see how he does the six months after that. Does he go back to how it is now? Are you just the cow he's herding back into the pen? Or does he REALLY and SUBSTANTIALLY and LASTINGLY change?
As to your physical health: if you have a yeast infection you'll no doubt need a prescription. You have to be checked out for this. It may be something else; we just don't know yet. NEVER be shy or cheap around significant health issues. Don't fool around with ineffectual over the counter stuff. That's nonsense and could endanger your health ongoing.
So: let's take care of business in these two important areas. I want you to be both happy and healthy, even if you have to sustain some discomfort to get there!
Cordially,
Dr. P.
==========
Your 3rd follow-up:
i tlked to him..and he sed hes willing to change, and he sed he doesnt want me to break up with him, cuz he really have alot of feelings for me..
so i think i shud give him another chance...
THANK YOU.
DR.P
======
Response to your 3rd follow-up from Dr. Pomerance:
Dear HaitianP,
Ok, but don't emotionally get back in all the way. He's on probation. Reserve some of your heart, stand back and see objectively what happens. If he really changes and it really lasts, there'll be plenty of time for more of the trust that makes you feel so good.
Cordially,
Dr.P.
ok i will
Tahnk you very much
DR. P
Tahnk you very much
DR. P
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