My husband and I have always got along well. Hardly any issues from the day we started dating 8.5 years ago. The one thing though that almost caused us to get divorce was his MOTHER, the ol' hag. Opps sorry. Take care. It will be okay. I am sorry that you are going though that though because it is no fun, and nothing it seems can be done to change a jealous mother. She'll get tired of doing it someday.
Thanks! Yes you are right and its commited! The good news today is that she found an old lady to take care of and her son is sending her there to work so far it is for three months so we will be three months in peace,let's see what happens afterwards. She is going to be in the house only from Saturday nights to Sunday nights and during that time i will get it to spend it with my parents as well so that things even up!
I do really appreciate your comments and suggestions, more or less confirm what i have been thinking of but the thing is that things go so well apart from that.. Well he knows i am tired of telling him what bothers me and that it has gotten to a point that we do not stand each other anymore.
In ocassions he has standed up for me and defend me on others he clains to feel sorry for her and so on, so he finally found her that job, let's see how it goes!!!!
I am definetely going to seat with him and let him know that i am not willing to leave with her under the same roof, don't have any reason why to accept, and live with that issue i am perfectly independent.
thanks
You're partner is a mother's boy. I used to have a boyfriend like this. His mom routinely played the "I gave up everything so you could have a good life" card. At first we got along, but as the relationship got more serious, she became more passive aggressive. When the conflict came to a head, he went running to her. She was much better at the waterworks than I was, which made me look cold. I was left in the dust and called all kinds of terrible things... controlling, manipulative, vindictive, etc. His mother was convinced that I even told her son what to eat. I had no idea these accusations were there until suddenly, when they all came out, and I was overwhelmed with defending myself alone. It was a very painful way to end a relationship, but it ended regardless because the fighting between that boyfriend and I was always fueled by his mother.
Unless your partner makes a stand for you against his mom, he's likely not ever going to find the strength to stand up for you - even when it's really going to count. Don't let what happened to me happen to you. Don't sell yourself short or doubt for a moment that you deserve better. This woman is scared and jealous that she has to share her son with you, and she will do anything to ensure that her son stays loyal to her. It's a losing battle. I've never known anyone who's won.
Well, sounds like you a stuck with her if you choose to live there. Sounds like she is playing the jealousy card.
She has had her son to herself, and now she has to share.
I would really sit down and have a long talk with your partner. Heres the thing though my husband never would believe that his mother was the mean person I discribed until I had proof of it. Get your proof and then move forward with it.
Even though you guys are partners, you are still in the same boat as many married couples with inlaws, it's like you not only marry your partner, but you marry their family.
You are probably like us females that expect to be first in their partners life, and the bad thing is some mothers can't let go and this is where the problems start.
I couldn't imagine being in your shoes and have to live with my mother-in-law. OMG would I just die! hehe
Your partner is a mammas boy, and it probably won't change.
I sense that you are a gay man - is that right? I know you can't legally marry in most states, but do you have a committed relationship, or is this kind of a "try it and see what develops" kind of thing?
I think you should move on. This relationship will be like this until she passes away.
Best wishes.