Worried il never find the right man

[blondie111]

At the moment i am in a relationship but i know his not the one for me because there is no Excitement there, i had another relatioshipship before this one that didn't last long either because one day i was in love with him and the next day i was allergic, i would love to know why does this keep happening to me, and will i ever find the right guy, alot of guys out there are justing looking for a one night stand and im not like that.. i am a lovely looking girl and i do get alot of attention when i go out, but i need a man who will give me a challenge not a guy that when i click my fingers(thats just a phase) he would do anything for me, the guys i do want its just not happening please can some one give me some info....

[blondie111]

Thank you all very much for your advice.

[bedtimestory]

Some people find their match at a young age, say 20 years. However, there are others who find their other half later on. It doesn't mean you are unlucky. Perhaps it is best that you go through this so that when the right person arrives then you'll be greatful and appreciate him. You said you were involved in a relationship where you weren't sure of your feelings basically since you would fluctuate between hating him and loving him basically. Perhaps you just don't know how to choose men or you have not encountered that certain level of maturity which allows you to forsee who is and who is not IT. but I mean..it's good that you go through ups and downs with guys because it teaches you to choose better next time.

If there is no excitement then hun don't wait until you're 60 years old to realize you wasted your precious time trying to work things out with the wrong person when you could have been out there exploring and searching for your man.

Don't worry, in the end we all end up finding the right person for us. Some people do not realize it until a defining moment opens your eyes, like laura's husband, who ended up making the right decision (he married her) after knowing she was about to give up on him and start looking some place else.

I'm sure you'll find your guy pretty soon. In the meantime enjoy life and be happy for we only live once. :)

[bip]

Im sure you will find the right guy for you.  It takes time. Dont rush yourself try to go out and have fun.......It is always one guy out there meant for you.....  Do you know what my mom told me you always have a secret admire and I bet you have one he is just waiting the right moment to go to you........

[blondie111]

Laura thank you so much for your advice, yes your so right in everything you said, we meet the nice guys who will do anything for us, but we go for the guys that we have to run after, to be honest i have never thought guys were like that to a challenge i must remember that one, i have a guy in mind i know his interested but at the moment im being friendly but im acting i dont care either but this is going on for 2 years even though i have had relationships while thinking this about him ha (which is not good) but i dunno should i hang in there or give up, for instance where i work i was looking out the window today and he past four times up and down and then sent me a text message, i have met this guy going back 2years ago but nothing came of it

[laura1977]

You know your special one and only is probably somewhere on another forum asking the same question.  "When will I ever find her"  You guys just have to find eachother.  He is out there and waiting.  I was dating my husbands best friend when I met my husband.  Turns out I didn't like his best friend, but I sure did like my husband.  hehe  (Their not friends anymore).  :)
Ahh how us girls want a challenge and not the nice guy that will do anything.  My husband was that challenge, and he almost didn't happen because I tried and tried but he didn't really want anything yet, until I said that I wasn't going to try anymore and that I was going to look somewhere else....... low and behold he called me that night, and that was 8 years ago, and we have been married 6.5 years.  So I know exactly what you mean by that you want a little bit of a challenge.  Guys are the same way too.