Am I too Pushy?

[feellost]

I met a guy through a dating website, and I kinda like him. But I told him that I am not ready for sex yet and he said he would wait, although he would orally says something naughty but never really be pushy in action, and we haven't even holden hands yet. We have gone out once or twice week for about one and half months. Things seem to go well, although I am not so sure about his feeling about me, as he seems to be a bit distant sometimes. He can be affectionate sometimes though. Just recently I texted him and hoped that he could open his heart to me as well (as he gave a card to me saying 'thanks for openning your heart to me'). But he never replies since then (about two days now). I guess I kinda have burnt the spout. Am I too pushy? What shall I do? Shall I contact him or just wait?

Any help will very much appreciated!

[feellost]

Thanks guys! Really appreciated!

[huneybunz2012]

yo...its him..if i was you I would jus leave him alone. there are otha fish in  the sea...If a guy doesnt text me bac there is a problem. To be completely honest, he probably wants sex from you and since he has 2 wait he doesnt like that. If a man cant wait for me to give it up, then hes not worth having. Let him go sweety.

[mami1323]

Two months is not a long time.  Especially with men.  I hate to say this but most men begin relationships or begin dating someone with the intention that they will get the person into bed.  They are not looking at this as a deep emotional connection.  They want sex.  It's when they are forced to take their time do they connect on another level.  He's saying and doing sweet things to inevitably get you to sleep with him.  It doesn't make him a bad person, it's just what happens.  Take your time, don't show him too much of yourself right away.  Let him get to know you but don't start off all lovey dovey, make him get to know you.  Then as the relationship progresses, you can start telling him how you feel.  Right now it's too soon.  If you don't hear from him again, maybe he just felt like you were too into him and he's not really wanting that.  

[teko]

Relationships need time to mature. Pushing for more too soon will cause flight syndrome. With that said, wait and see. If he is interested in pursuing the relationship you will hear from him again, but going from dating and opening the heart to other things after only a couple of months is kind of iffy. It takes time to develop feelings outside of the bedroom. Slow down and see where it leads.

[specialmom]

Well, wait and see what happens.  Sometimes when we are patient, we get what we really want.  I hope that you do!  good luck

[feellost]

Thanks for your advice! Really appreciated. I guess the more I want to get him the more frangile it seems to be. We have been talking to each other for about two months now either through MSN or seeing in person. He sometimes can be very affectionate, which gave me wrong impress that he is keen, but once I return my affection to him then he seems to be turned off instantly...I don't know. I guess I am more into him than he is to me...unfortunately...

Thanks! I will wait...

[Judy246]

Hi fellost,

You don't state your age, but here are a few "red flags" that caught my attention right away:

* You "kinda" liked him.
* Only dated 1-2 in over a month.
* He seems distant.
* You text him and he doesn't reply.

I would say, count your blessings that you did sleep with the guy early on, because I think you both are not ready for an exclusive committed relationship at this point. You both really don't know each other and he is showing signs that he likes you, but that is as far as it's going to go, so proceed with caution and make sure to keep your heart and emotions in check to avoid this very short term relationship from breaking your heart. If he is not replying to your messages, that is his way of saying, I'm not that much into you, so proceed with caution or better yet, dump the guy and move on.

[specialmom]

How long have you been seeing him?  Maybe the text came at a bad moment but the sentiment isn't bad as he sent you a card with the same.  Maybe he didn't know what you meant and it scared him.  Maybe he is just busy.  I'd wait a day or two and then just give him a call to see  how he is doing.  I can't judge from your post how long you had been dating and the level of emotional closeness.  Do you feel you are more into him than he is you?  That never feels good and is hopefully not the case.  But I'd try your best to just be yourself and let things progress naturally.  good luck