Are all men like this??? Men, please respond too!!! And be truthful!

[wunabnorm]

Ok... so my husband and I have been married for little over a year. He is a great stepdaddy to my 2 boys, but... he seems to have a problem. Ok...just for example... today, he called me from work, and I guess he was on break, and his coworker which is also his best friend, were getting breakfast at a resteraunt. We talked for a couple minutes, and then we said goodbye, and he hung up, (so he thought) Well... while I could overhear his complete conversation with his coworker, talking about how hot one of the girls that worked there was, then my husband was like "yeah... I wanna smash the little one". And, then the coworker was like and I wanna knock the other one up. Considering he already has 3 kids by one woman, and has another one pregnant right now, this disgusted me! I mean... all his friends are really nice guys in all, and would give you the shirt off their back if you needed it, but... they all seem to cheat on their wives, and or girlfriends, and wonder what it's like to be in every girl they sees pants. They are all in there mid to late 20's, but I feel like this is a problem, and I want to know do ALL men think this way, and some just don't say it aloud, or if they truly need help, because they have beautiful, loving wives at home, but they fantasize about these other girls! I just don't get it. I mean... it is one to THINK about something, but to say it is another. When I confronted my husband about it, he just said "aww... baby... I'm so sorry! I was just talking ****, I wasn't doing anything, and blah.blah... but, I feel like they must talk like this all the time, and if that's how they talk, then that must be how they think right? Basically, they all grew up in the same neighborhood where everyone messed around with everyone, and mostly everyones parents still live in that same neighborhood, and so they continue to be friends. Well, It must be in the water or something because they never change! They still all act like kids. I mean they have good jobs, and families and all, but... they just can't seem to change their boyish ways! I feel like he will NEVER change! So please tell me... Am I overreacting?

[chellybeans]

i know they exist, but they are one in a million.

[PlateletGal]

wunabnorm,

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/MensHealth/wwwboard.html

LOL!!!!

chellybeans --- I know a lot of guys myself and I've hung out with them as well. This isn't about making comments about how someone is attractive. This was an entirely different situation. There are guys out there who are decent and don't engage in such immature behavior.

[wiserlady]

Yes. Me thinks someone is clutching at straws. Desperate to hear that all men are the same, so that she will not feel that hers is that bad.  IF I say mine is not the same then it will be but how do you know? He is like that when you are not around.  No. He is not. And I DO know. Be more picky about who you marry and you will not have this problem. It would be a deal breaker for me.  But there again I am not a typical woman who needs a man. I have my own successful business etc and don't need a man for anything.

[chellybeans]

you don't have to accept it as fact.that's the joy of a forum.

i however am one of those girls that guys hang out with, i am "just one of the guys" the guys I know have all sunk to this at some point or another. that and the fact that i co-owned a construction company with my so for 9 years prior to parting ways. i have alot of experience with men in nonconventional co-ed environments and how they act when they think the girls are all away. like i said, not all, but most. and married guys did it even more in my experience. they didn't go act on it, but they talk as much or more trash as the single guys who can and would go act on it. even considering it "blowing off steam". after a couple years i stopped telling them they were being @sses and ignored it as part of what they do. rude, sure, but typical.

if you have a guy who does not EVER say anything about an attractive person, then good for you. they are very rare. i hope he is all you have him pegged to be :)

i stand by my OPIONION.

[wunabnorm]

I think I will! Where do I find that forum? haha!

[PlateletGal]

chellybeans --- I don't accept your opinion as fact. There are a lot of men who don't talk that way and especially those men who are married.

have 2 kids --- this isn't about admiring a man in passing --- this is about telling your girlfriends that you want to screw his brains out, even though you are married. Acceptable behavior in a marriage ? The only ones who can answer that are you & your husband. Doing it behind your husband's back is disrespectful -- would you not agree with this ?

wunbanorm --- maybe we should raid the men's health forum and try to recruit them to come over here ? LOL ! !   =  )

[have 2 kids]

I'm with perty on this one.  Most men talk that way at some time.  I've been with my girlfriends and we will definately admire a man in passing and I'm sure we've made comments.  The point is he didn't say it to you.  He said it in a private conversation with his best friend.