Babysitter/ mom relationship gone bad.

[Lucey12]

I babysat for this girl who has 3 kids. She asked how much for 2 full time and one before and after school for 10 hours a day. I suggested $50 for a day. She said that was outrageous and $35 is average. I agreed to do it for that price since I needed a job and this would be a good start for a daycare. I watched them fro 4 days at 4 hours each day and then 3 full days. On the last day her 3 year old son refused to get his diaper changed (not abnormal of him but all day he screamed bloody murder anytime I tried. He ended up soaking my couch with pee. I put him on the potty while I cleaned the couch. I did a cushion then went to check on him. He was off the potty so I put him back, told him to pee on the potty and sit there till I came back up. The next cushion was done (as best I could with a scrubber and soap) so I went back up there and he had peed and pooped on the floor ( I wasnt even gone 5 minutes) His excuse was that he wanted to poo on the floor. Mad I made him clean it up. He put the tp in the potty when I told himt o just put it in a pile (I was watching and told him no no no and he did anyway.) he then flushed even knowing teh whole time He was cleaning it up I said youve put too much in there dont flush it dont flush it. I was going to hold some out of the way with the scrubber so it wouldnt clog. He flushed it...twice. Yes I was supervising and telling him not to but he just kept doing it. My bathroom flooded twice so I sent him to watch cartoons while I cleaned it up. When I finally got a hold of the floods, I came down to him dumping his sisters whole bottle on her and my dog. It was a bad day.

Well after paying me 2 weeks late (I quit that day) they are now after me for a receipt. It was never agreed that I would sign one, they told me after they paid me. Well I set up a time and date and said call if you will later than 6:30. No call, no show. A few days later she is sending me text messages saying how badly she needs this receipt. Mad that she blew me off and took so long to pay me, I ignored her for a couple days. Tehn her friend is sending me messages saying she really needs this blah blah blah blah blah. I told her when she supplies me with a steam cleaner fro my couch she can get her receipt. Her friend said ok, I have one bobbi-jo and I will bring it over and clean the couch and get the receipt. I agreed. Then Bobbi-jos friend said that she was too tired from watching the kids and didnt want to get them dressed to bring them over to deal with all this. Then this conversations with Bobbi-jo and I...


Lucey October 7 at 5:55pm
Ok I have set up a time for you, Mendy has set up **** so you could get this favour. You dont seem to care enough. You want it and need it but when people set stuff up for you, you cant seem to make it. Figure your **** out and when you are able and willing to bring me a steam cleaner and come get the paper, let me know but Im not going out of my way anymore for this.

Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 6:12pm
k watch what u say,she was pissed that u werent giving me a receipt,u couldve answered my texts but u decided to i gnore them,btw i have 3 kids to get ready and
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Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 6:13pm
now is no good,if ur not willing to give me a receipt maturely ill go thru ur husbands chain of command as my work is wellaware u were watching my kids,ur call
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Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 6:20pm
well if u really were watching my kids,how did u get **** on the couch?
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Lucey October 7 at 6:58pm
I made plenty of opportunities for you to get what YOU wanted. You didnt meet the timings we agreed on and didnt even bother to call to let me know. Why the hell would you show up without it planned or calling me and then get mad at me for not being home. I told you I work now.
I went out of my way to get you your receipt more than once. I will set up a time at a later date for you to provide me with a steam cleaner and I will give you the receipt.


I cant believe she would be after me for this and when I set up more than one date, she cant do it. Im so mad.

[Judy246]

I agree with teko here. I just can't believed she paid you $35 for all this hassle! Definately a situation where you were underpaid, overworked, misunderstood and definately unappreciated. Give her a bill for cleaning, give her stupid receipt if you feel like it AFTER she give you the money to clean couch, the give her back the money she just gave you for couch, learn from experience and then she can take a hike.

[teko]

This was a bad business decision on your part number one. Number 2, it does not sound like you got anything in writing therefore, why the mess with a recpt? Thirdly, someone is in charge, it is either you, or the 3 year old. You are boss! No kid would sit on my couch with a pissy diaper regardless what he thought about it, nor would a 3 year old be left alone in a bathroom for any length of time, no matter what. Who was babysitting who? You were underpaid, overworked, misunderstood and unappreciated. Tell her to blow up someone elses phone and move on, as far as you are concerned your responsibility to her is over. Next time get day care! Then shut the phone off and dont respond anymore, or mail her the stupid recpt just to get her off your doorstep!

[jo929]

I really do not think you are getting it
when you took on the job even if it paid 1 dollar a day, remember you agreed to the price
and you took on the responsubility of the children, and what they do when they are in your care reflects upon you, no matter what the child did it is not 18 and you are responsible for anything they do while in your care if it poo pood on your furniture it is your resposibility, not a 3 year old, i have yaken care of many children, and have always took responsibility fot its actionds whether it destroyed or what ever it did while in my care you took the money for services rendered and she paid the deal is done it may not feel right by you but that is life, and you will learn that everything does not go as you wish it too   luck  jo

[Lucey12]

I took good darn care of those kids too. When they came to my house in the morning, their cups had koolaid in it. I gave them apple juice cut with water and there were no complaints and its healthier for them. I took them to the park everyday, colored (yes even if it meant all of them got broken) I wasnt so hung up on her paying for a cleaner for the couch till she took 2 weeks to pay me and made such a big deal about this receipt when she wouldnt even show up to get it!

Yes I was a good sitter but if I were her, I wouldnt have left my kids with me. On the basis that when she came over to meet me, she was here for 15 minutes (that was the first and only time I saw her) And when she came my house was a mess because we had JUST got back from camping and my dog was dying (died the next day) So had puked everywhere. Yes it was just bad timing and Im not a slob or anything but she had no clue and didnt seem to care. Mind you, her last sitter wasnt so great either. The last lady kept all the  kids in one room in the basement while she was playing solitaire all day. Her house smelled like cat pee too.

The mom is a total nut job for sure. She as 3 kids with 3 guys and bounces from guy to guy like a ball in a pin ball game. When I met her in june, she was with her second childs dad yet had a third child with someone else then went back to the other guy. She just started again with baby daddy #3 like a month before moving in with him! Oh and baby #3 was product of a fight with baby daddy #2 so she went for some 'comfort' from baby daddy #3 producing baby #3.

[imanaddict]

She dang sure couldn't take them to daycare for that cheap!! She should have been grateful to find someone who she could pay so little. What a nut job!

[Judy246]

I thought it would be $40-50 per week per child. She took advantage of you babysitting all day, couple of kids for $35.00.

[imanaddict]

$35 for 10 hour days is WELL below minimum wage no matter what state you live in! She asked you to do a LOT for so little money, and where I'm from, a full time babysitter/nanny's average pay is approx. $400/wk. so she definitely gave you the shaft!

Giving a receipt shouldn't have been a big deal, but she turned it into one and I see why you are so angry. I would've told her to come over and get the receipt, then tore it up right in her face...LOL!!! If I were you, I wouldn't ask for a steam cleaner. She could say you broke it on purpose or something. Get your couch professionally cleaned, and then take her to court (Judge Judy!) for the bill.

[jo929]

anyone who takes on the responsibility of baby sitting has to know that the unexpected will happen, and when you took the job there were no garantee that the child would do as it should so i feel that it is you responsibility to clean up and take care of your own furniture, as a 3 year old is not a grown up, and you knew they were just children when you took the job hence it is not the mothers job to pay for it,since you were supposed to be watching the child, you could have handled it better it sounds like you do not need to be baby sitting as while they are in your care all responsibility is yours and not the moms, and you were paid fot it so take your loss and let it go   jo

[Lucey12]

I totally agree. She has had 2 dates to do it and she has my number so if I wasnt home when she came over she should have called. One of the times she decided to show up without my knowledge, I was in the bath. She rang the doorbell once (the doorbell goes ding, thats it, easy to miss) Since the bathroom is at the top of the stairs and the door is at the bottom, I threw a towel on and looked out the door, she was gone already. She hadnt even waited a minute or called.

She is very immature and irresponsible and doesnt spend time with her kids. Her son is 3. He didnt know colors, numbers, how old he was...nothing. It was like he wasnt played with at all. I was trying to teach him his colors so I asked him what color the grass was and he said whats grass?

Did I mention what I got paid for this? Well I said $50 a day. She said no way you will get anyone for that price, so I asked what she paid her last sitter. $35 for 10 hour days, two kids full time and one before and after school. I was to supply all meals.

All I can say is Im not dealing with it anymore and Im glad I got out of it before it got too nasty.

[megochick101]

She is handling this really immaturely. If anyone babysat my kids and they peed on the couch i'd pay for the cleaning no problem as I know how difficult my son can be sometime lol

Tell her if she wants the receipt for the babysitting she needs to bring over the steam cleaner and then you will provide her with a receipt. Give her a couple different days and times that you will be home, and then tell her if she can't take the time to come over with the steam cleaner, then why should you take the time to give her a receipt. Tell her she is the one who wants the receipt and regardless of how it happened her son peed on your couch, and if she doesn't want to come over with a steam cleaner in order to get her receipt then she will not get it. Simple as that.

If she doesn't find it important enough to come over within the dates you gave her then obviously she doesn't need the receipt and that should be the end of it.

[Lucey12]

Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 7:18pm Report
u can borrow the steam cleaner but again,i shouldnt be responsible 4 that,u should have been watching them and it wouldnt have happened,i need the receipt this
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Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 7:18pm Report
wkd,thanks
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Lucey October 7 at 7:34pm
Did you even hear how it happened? Your son isnt disciplined enough to listen. He refused so many times to get his diaper changed and soaked the couch with ****.

If you needed it this weekend, maybe you should have picked one of the opportunities I gave you to get it.

Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 7:41pm Report
u better watch what u say about my children,hes 2 get over it,and put mr clean on it and scrub,stop ur f*cking insults and leave the receipt in ur mailbox,that
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Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 7:42pm Report
way u dont have to be there,enough,
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Lucey October 7 at 7:50pm
Hes 3 did you forget?

Lucey October 7 at 7:52pm
and it doesnt matter, hes your kid, you are responsible for replacing or fixing what he damages.

Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 7:54pm Report
he was 2 when u had him,stop ur sh*t leslie,grow up,dont talk to me,just give me the receipt and get on with it,
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Luceys October 7 at 7:58pm
Barely 2, he turned 3 A week later.

Bobbi-Jo Z October 7 at 8:00pm Report
grow up,stop talking to me


So if she goes to my husbands higherups, she will get in doo doo for it being so stupid. If say my husband and I divorced and he wasnt paying child support, I could get him in a world of hurt with his superiors. Needless to say, Im not leaving anything in the mail box for her. A receipt for babysitting is one of those things you work out prior. She told me after that i was to sign her book. A friend of mine said some people get you to sign their book and forge your signature for other ones. I do have one all written out and signed by a witness, photocopied and waiting but Im goign to ignore her like she requested. I dont think Ill be babysitting again and if I do, I wont be as desperate to take just any kids.

[Judy246]

Tell her that the sooner she provides the steam cleaner, the sooner you will give her the receipt she is asking about. No steam cleaner...no receipt. What is she going to do sue you over a receipt....I don't think so.  Another option you get the steam cleaner, present the bill, rental fee...everyting included then give her the receipt and get her off your back.

Word of advice, next time you want to baby sit anyone's kids, do it in their home :)