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Boyfriend won't commit to me or baby.
I'm 5 1/2 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I have only known each other for a little over 2 months. This pregnancy was not planned, but is definitely wanted. My lease is up next month anyway, and they're raising the rent. He's currently living w/his brother b/c he recently relocated. I think we should move in together b/c it will save $. Instead of paying 2 rents, we can pay 1 and split it. Also, he says he wants to stay with me but is reluctant to move in together. But he already stays at my apt at least 4-5 days a week anyway. He says he loves me and wants to be in my and the baby's life. But I feel that he is reluctant to commit and move in together. We're going to be raising a child together. It makes no sense for us to have separate residences if we're raising a child and actively dating, does it? Help! Am I pushing too fast? I don't think so. The baby and need stability. What's so wrong with that? We're already almost living together anyway. Help! Any advice is wanted.
It's so sad that you read only what you want to read. It was more than just the dress. I'm not going to push up my wedding just because I'm pregnant. What I have to do what everyone else does? I'm my own person with my own thoughts and if I choose to wait until after my son is born to get married than so be it. It's my decision, and I truly don't care what anyone thinks. My fiance and I are loving people who love eachother and are prepared to give this child that love as well. Who gives a rats a** if we are married today, tomorrow or next year. What matters to us now more than anything is our son's happiness. How do you explain all these posters who are married and want out of their marriage? Do you think just because someone is married they live happily, ever, after? Relationships are hard no matter how you slice it.
Jim - I'm not 13 years old and pregnant, thank you very much. I'm an adult, who knows who the babies father is and have been with him for years. We are very committed and very happy. So I don't know if you were referring to me, but I don't need to go on Maury to find out who my baby's daddy is. He's not leaving me anytime soon and if he were than it wouldn't matter if we were married or not now would it?
Jim - I'm not 13 years old and pregnant, thank you very much. I'm an adult, who knows who the babies father is and have been with him for years. We are very committed and very happy. So I don't know if you were referring to me, but I don't need to go on Maury to find out who my baby's daddy is. He's not leaving me anytime soon and if he were than it wouldn't matter if we were married or not now would it?
More the norm than not? I doubt that .................
But, that damn sure don't make it right !
But, that damn sure don't make it right !
It's takes 2 to Tango...the men are being just a naive in my eyes. Sleeping with girls and they are not making sure the lady is on reliable birth control? Or these guys aren't wearing condoms for their OWN protection? They should be wearing condoms to prevent the spread of STD's too.
If people think that these issues are new and just for the current generation, they need to think again. Men & woman have been having sex and producing children outside or marriage for a long, long time. It's actually more the norm than not. In fact, in the US in the early 1900's, many people had children and then got married. We are talking like this is a new concept and it's not. And check out Sweden where 80% of the children are born out of wedlock.
If people think that these issues are new and just for the current generation, they need to think again. Men & woman have been having sex and producing children outside or marriage for a long, long time. It's actually more the norm than not. In fact, in the US in the early 1900's, many people had children and then got married. We are talking like this is a new concept and it's not. And check out Sweden where 80% of the children are born out of wedlock.
LOL ! As a person of the male persuasion, I find it absolutely unbelievable how gullible girls are today regarding love, sex, and marriage. Suppose it all stems from the women's liberation movement? Boyfriend of 2 months? Pregnant? He wants to be involved? Postponed wedding because the dress don't fit? Good grief ! Give these guys a few weeks to get their stuff together, and they'll never be seen or heard from again. Well, at least not until they show up on the Maury Povich show to get paternity tested.
And these are the people that will be running the world in 40 or 50 years.
And now, let me tell you about this bridge I have for sale in Arizona. Yep, the one with the ocean view.............
And these are the people that will be running the world in 40 or 50 years.
And now, let me tell you about this bridge I have for sale in Arizona. Yep, the one with the ocean view.............
Laura - you didn't get "lucky" and end up with a husband, and a happy marriage and a happy home. You chose this life for yourself because that's the example you grew up with, and you held yourself to that standard and held your partner to that standard. The only "luck" involved in what you did is that you lucked into parents who showed you how to do this, and you followed their example.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
Why did you say "why should I change my wedding plans because I'm pregnant"?
What are you saying? You DID change your wedding plans because you are pregnant. And not for the better - most women will move UP their wedding plans when they find out they are pregnant, not cancel them.
I think you have no idea of the significance, and profound importance of marriage vows. All you get is, I already bought this dress and I'm going to wear it or not get married at all.
Chances are, honestly, you'll never fit in to that dress again. Even if you lose all your weight, your rib cage will have expanded out and your torso will be broader from the bone structure expansion.
Best laid plans, and all. You are trading off the real value of the wedding ceremony, and the marriage commitment, for a dress.
What are you saying? You DID change your wedding plans because you are pregnant. And not for the better - most women will move UP their wedding plans when they find out they are pregnant, not cancel them.
I think you have no idea of the significance, and profound importance of marriage vows. All you get is, I already bought this dress and I'm going to wear it or not get married at all.
Chances are, honestly, you'll never fit in to that dress again. Even if you lose all your weight, your rib cage will have expanded out and your torso will be broader from the bone structure expansion.
Best laid plans, and all. You are trading off the real value of the wedding ceremony, and the marriage commitment, for a dress.
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