Think this girl is lying on pregnancy

[iphidig4123]

Do you think this girl is lying? I talked to this girl in october mid octtober...it was cool at first but i was talking to my ex as a friend...but mind you at first we wasnt going together at all the girl i was talking to....i told her she should get tested before we do anything she went got tested i did the same thing to make sure since we both were going to be doing this of coarse results were good negative on everything. that was a plus...but time went on and she wasnt the person i thought she was she just started to much drama gossping making up lies...but i still was friends with ex and i took my ex to atl new years eve .....then she tells me when i get back she finds out i went with her to atl but we wasnt going together at all...she tells me she is pregnant and she took the test but she was on birth control before me which i seen and that she didnt want a child now its a whole different story ...i have a daughter already of my own..so she sends a private message to my ex saying im pregnant by him to start some more drama....then calls the mother of my daughter and tells that she pregnant by me...but i still dnt believe this girl...i feel she is tryna make it hell for me i havent talk to this girl for half month...not a word.....if she was pregnant and that serious she would show proof....anyone can say there pregnant...then goes off telling the mother of myd aughter that oh yea he took his ex to atl and spent 1200 dolalrs wat in the +++++ why would i do that for some girl i wouldnt do that for me....people wills ay anyting these days...please give me some feedback

[Lola_mama]

I think you are doing EXACTLY what you should be doing... not allowing yourself to be sucked into her game playing!! I would have to agree w/ your hunch that she is most likely NOT pregnant. you are right when you say that IF she actually were truly pregnant as she claims, there would be no reason why she shouldn't easily be able to produce a positive pregnancy test to prove it. Don't give her any of the dramtic effect she is looking for, and I'm sure she'll either come back crying to you about how jealous she felt when you decided to spend New Years w/ your ex instead if you and how she just wanted your attention, OR she may just go away and disappear for good because she knows she's at a dead end and her little plan didn work w/ you, and now she's left alone and embarrased by her ridiculous behavior. If she does end up backing out of your life, be prepared for her to tell everyone she "had a miscarriage" or possibly an abortion, because that is much easier to say than acknowledging the fact that she acted crazy and made up a cruel lie out of jealous rage just to get attention and love from her boyfriend. You have no fault here (other than maybe by going out w/ your ex while you were in a relationship, but if that relationship was already in turmoil, or coming to an end anyway, then you have a right to go wherever you want, w/ whoever you want), so just keep riding out the storm the way you have been so far, and if people ask you about it (although it really isn't any of their business), just tell them that she is lying about being pregnant to get revenge, and that you are choosing not to entertain her accusations until you have proof that it is anything otherwise. Do try to keep in mind though, that while you are not to blame for her actions, and while you have absolutely NO obligation to give her the attention and results she's looking for by creating this mess, it is very clear that this girl has some serious issues in her life that have nothing to do w/ this current situation. She may have experienced things in her childhood that lead her to feel unwanted, unworthy, unloved, and unimportant, and as a result, feels like the only way to get the love and attention she so desperately yearns for, is to act out in ways that seem unreasonable, and even downright crazy, to most other normal and well rounded people. From what you've described, she sounds very insecure, immature, and needy, but unless she is just extremely psychologically unbalanced, it is highly probable that her feelings are very valid, and stem from a laundry list of actual events from her last that lead her to the point where she is convinced that no one could truly love and cherish her the way that she wants to be and deserves to be, and that is why she continues to create as much noise as she possibly can in everything she's a part of, so that she can fill that void she aches w/ inside. Again, this is not your doing, nor your responsibility to mend for her, but it is something to be aware of as you look for the answers behind her destructive behavior. Now that being said, I don't know if you are even interested in continuing to pursue a healthy, honest, and committed relationship w/ this girl (I say "girl" because it is very apparent by the way she handles herself, that she has not yet graduated to the title of woman), and that is a decision you will have to make. If you are not up for the challenge, and aren't all that crazy about her, or just don't find her to be someone who is worthy of the amount of efforts you would need to put forth in order to achieve a solid and lasting relationship w/, then by all means, cut your losses and move forward w/ your life! But, if there is some part of you that still has very strong and unrelenting feelings for her, that won't seem to subside no matter how hard you try to ignore them, then you need to sit down and have an honest discussion w/ yourself about what you are, and are not willing to do when it comes to working through these major issues, and then try to decide if you could ever be successful in your efforts. Realize that she needs a lot of support and help to be able to see the root of her problems, and why they came to be in the first place. IF, and ONLY IF, she is willing to recognize the magnitude of the damage she causes when she does the things she does, and IF she can put her pride and shame aside enough to be honest about the lie that she told you and the fact that she can no longer be trusted by the people she cares about, then you need to set some very clear expectations, and boundaries of what types of steps must be taken to restore your trust in her, and move in the direction towards a strong, relationship that doesn't contain any of these immature and reckless characteristics in it. From there, it will be a long road of progress and setbacks, before reaching the kind of loving relationship you are working towards, but w/ dedication and support from both sides, and the ability to acknowledge faults and grow from them, you can definitely make it work. It just takes a desire to change for the better, and to stick by someone you love and care deeply for. I say all this because I use to be one of those girls. I never lied about being pregnant, but I lived through a childhood of being ignored, tossed aside, abused, and uncared for by all of the people who surrounded me. I bounced around from one home to the next, and all the while, felt like no one wanted me. I watched as my dad brutally beat my mom until she was uncontious, and listened as he reminded her constantly that she was stupid, ugly, and unworthy of love by anyone. I began to believe this for myself as well, and came to the belief that I too was nothing more than a waste of a human being and couldn't expect to be treated any differently when I became a woman. I went through one very bad marriage after having a baby at 16, and later met the most amazing man (who I am still married to today) who treated me like gold. I couldn't trust that his intentions were real though, because I had never witnessed a man treating a woman w/ that much respect and adoration. For the first year or so, I did everything under the sun to test his love for me. This included lying about things, being dramatic about everything, accusing him of cheating on me, threatening suicide, and even getting up in his face and hitting him on multiple occasions just to see if he would do what every other man I had ever known did, and hit me back! But, it never happened. He continued to be the calm, patient, and loving man that he had always been, and still is to this day! That was when I finally realized that I was the one w/ the issues of insecurity and disfunction, and that it was the abusive and screwed up people from my past that had cause those issues. This all came to me when I was at had reached my absolutel rock bottom after my now husband (bf at the time) told me he was leaving me, and w/ a tear rolling down his face, walked out the door as I laid sobbing on the entryway floor. At that moment I decided to make a change within myself, and went to get psychiatric help. I somehow managed to convince him to give me another shot (although I certainly didn't deserve it) and I showed him through hard work that I was 100% dedicated to making a change for the better and doing whatever it took to gain his trust and commitment back. I am so happy I did that, because we have been married for 6yrs now, and couldn't be more deeply in love! Good luck to you on everything, and keep is posted!

[imanaddict]

It's hard to say. She could very well be lying, but if you had sex with her, it's also a very real possibility. Ask her to take a home pregnancy test in front of you. If she refuses, then you will have your answer. If she is in fact pregnant, get a DNA test to confirm whether or not you're the father.

It's a really good thing that you had her get tested before doing anything with her, but apparently the risk of pregnancy didn't factor in. Be very careful in the future and wear condoms even if the girl says she's on birth control. Good luck, and I hope it all works out for you.