Ex getting Married

[zestyclean]

I am very confused, I am 23 and i was in a 6 yr relationship 2 yrs ago. He was my 1st love and my lst for a lot of things. We went through alot together, high school, college, long distance, death. We fought alot and i was turning 21 and decedided I wanted to have fun, he had his turn when we first went to college. I dont know what happened but we just started to hate each other and we broke up and he went to the coast guard. When he came back he said he changed and he wanted to LOVe me like he never did. I had started seeing someone else and just didnt believe him. Now he has been in a relationship with a new girl for 4 months and just asked her to marry him. When I found out I just started crying hysterically and hyperventilating. I cried for 3 hours and I cry every day now since I found out. I just have so many questions, its crazy that we were together 6 YEARS and we always talked about us getting married and our kids and that is what keeps running thru my mind right now. How can I help myself get over this? It is eating me alive. I love him and always will becuase he was my 1st love.

[Laura79]

I was with my ex for about 4 years on and off, he never took me seriously we had a baby boy, during my pregnacy he wasn't really there for me, he was always going out with his friends then I found out he was cheating on me, he said he was sorry and left this woman but then after six months he left me to be with her then like 5 months after got married. I don't want him back either but it just hurts that he thought this woman was wife material and married her so fast, while when he was with me he always used to laugh when someone used to ask when we were getting married, I just feel sometimes I was not good enough to make him happy.

[Winner7878]

I found out that my ex got married and has a little boy now but it didnt seem realy to me untill I found her myspace page and say them.  It's really messing with me.  We had a grat relationship but she wanted to get married but I thought we where to young and that we should wait.  After sometime it hurt her to much so she broke up with me.  So now 7 year are past and I runinot this stuff and it's totaly through me for a lop.  I'm hurting so much.  I should of married her when we where together.  I'm hurting so much.  I thought I was over that very hard break up for me and for us but now its just as bad as the day it happend.  I still love her so much I want to change this but there is nothing I can do to get her back and I know its worng for me to even talk to her sense she has moved on so I havent and I wont but I miss her so much.  rrrrrrr

[Haremiliana]

How's everything I hope that all are doing great  :)

[vsentz]

i think you are not hurting.......or at least your heart is not the one hurting....is you EGO....

are you in a competition????? no.....altho, i think you sound like you feel in one! you said it hurts that he got engaged first....and beat you! ok....so, just ask yourself, do I LOVE him?? or do i just wanna see him 'behind' me all the time? why do you wanna beat him?? if you are super in love with your super boyfriend,........then focus on him and your relationship....not on 'who does first what' with your ex.

That's just my opinion....


Good luck

[Haremiliana]

Ur most welcome, only a person who went thru what u've gone thru can understand hope that you'll find the happiness that you're looking for. All the best for your future...

[zestyclean]

Thank you so much for you comment, i think that is the best advice anyone has giving me! Thank you!