Wow, I didn't know there was a specific term for that. I have an ex that use to do that with me. I enjoyed it, if he didn't try to thrust it all the way down my throat. Ask her if she enjoys it or only does it to please you. If she's open about things then it shouldn't be hard to talk about this.
ask her what she would like maybe. use that as an opener to how does it feel when i.... etc.
Perty - haha. I had to look it up too - it sounds like oral is more "active", and this is very passive. But basically the same thing.
For Feeling Sorry - If you feel guilty, I think you should just tell her how much you know that can't be the best part of sex for her, but it sends you to the moon, and you really appreciate how giving she is to treat you like that, and you think she's the sexiest woman alive. Because I think all that's true.
I think that's why most women do that - I don't think many women actually enjoy it. They do it because they know it makes their men wild, and it's kind of a gift.
She wants to do it, to make you happy. ;D
how is it different than just plain ol oral sex??
well, unless your wife's face is beared you wouldn't mistake it for a vagina, especially with the crosswise slit.
anyway, yours is a very odd thing....but i like it and probably i would even try it someday.
Could it be guilt? The worst thing I would ever want to find out (in the bedroom) is that something I like doing to my partner makes them feel uncomfortable, objectified, etc.
I had to look up the word, btw - didn't realize there was a specific term for it, lol. In pornography irrumatio is seen as an aggressive and possibly quite demeaning act. Although you don't feel that way about it, because it's portrayed that way might be where these feelings are coming from? (just a suggestion) Sometimes we do like to do things to our partner that we genuinely find pleasurable, but because society tells us it's deviant, that baggage/idea that it's somehow wrong/disrespectful can keep us from enjoying it. e.g. some people like to tie up their partners to keep things spicy - doesn't mean it's necessarily wrong so long as it's mutual.
If it's bothering you, I would still try to talk to her about it. Tell her you're worried how she feels, if she's really comfortable, etc. Ideally she should be able to recognize that you're looking for reassurrance that it IS mutual and that she enjoys being able to give/share that pleasure with you.