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im sorry its long but i would be so so appreciative of any advice...
Last year i always used to see this lad around town and i was just inlove, he was absolutely gorgeous and everytime i saw him id get butterflies, anyway, later on in the year me my friend and her boyfriend starting hanging around with eachother, and the boy id always liked started with us aswell, we'd always hang around and do everything together just us 4, then as the year ended we all went our seperate ways and the boy i liked ended up in a relationship.
Just under a month ago he split with his girlfriend and when i heard i wasnt really bothered, the feelings had gone cause it had been like 6/7 months, anyway, last week he asked my friend for my number and we started texting, id be up till 2/3 in the morning texting him and id never been happier, however, my friend told me he liked me, now heres the twist...
Ive never had a relationship (ps. i am straight its not like im uncomfortable like that) ahah, the thought of a relationship made me feel sick to the stomach with fear, but i kept texting and the feelings came back. He told me he had a surprise for me (the saturday just gone we were both attending the same party) when i arrived he was shy and i never did get my surprise, later on that evening my friend told me what it was, he was going to kiss me, and i felt a warm feeling and butterflies it was amazing anyway, she asked if id ever get with him and i said i couldnt, not because its him but because of my general fear of relationships, so anyway, when i went home i waiting up till 1 in the morning thinking he'd text and he never, and now ive spent 3 days constantly checking my phone to see if its him but its not and ive just got this dying feeling inside and i just want to cry. i really want a relationship with him but i know as soon as it starts ill probably end up running away, i just want to text him and see if ive upset him but i feel like a ***, ive never felt like this before and i really dont know what to do
i will be grateful of any form of advise, thank you!!!
Last year i always used to see this lad around town and i was just inlove, he was absolutely gorgeous and everytime i saw him id get butterflies, anyway, later on in the year me my friend and her boyfriend starting hanging around with eachother, and the boy id always liked started with us aswell, we'd always hang around and do everything together just us 4, then as the year ended we all went our seperate ways and the boy i liked ended up in a relationship.
Just under a month ago he split with his girlfriend and when i heard i wasnt really bothered, the feelings had gone cause it had been like 6/7 months, anyway, last week he asked my friend for my number and we started texting, id be up till 2/3 in the morning texting him and id never been happier, however, my friend told me he liked me, now heres the twist...
Ive never had a relationship (ps. i am straight its not like im uncomfortable like that) ahah, the thought of a relationship made me feel sick to the stomach with fear, but i kept texting and the feelings came back. He told me he had a surprise for me (the saturday just gone we were both attending the same party) when i arrived he was shy and i never did get my surprise, later on that evening my friend told me what it was, he was going to kiss me, and i felt a warm feeling and butterflies it was amazing anyway, she asked if id ever get with him and i said i couldnt, not because its him but because of my general fear of relationships, so anyway, when i went home i waiting up till 1 in the morning thinking he'd text and he never, and now ive spent 3 days constantly checking my phone to see if its him but its not and ive just got this dying feeling inside and i just want to cry. i really want a relationship with him but i know as soon as it starts ill probably end up running away, i just want to text him and see if ive upset him but i feel like a ***, ive never felt like this before and i really dont know what to do
i will be grateful of any form of advise, thank you!!!
Agree with SM and NG.......this is WAY too intense for a 17 year old. I am not sure why teens insist on having these types of relationships.
I would say focus harder on school and activities that DON'T involve a "guy."
Your username is pretty crude. I hope you aren't considering yourself to be that. If so.....that's sad.
I would say focus harder on school and activities that DON'T involve a "guy."
Your username is pretty crude. I hope you aren't considering yourself to be that. If so.....that's sad.
You have awfully intense feelings for someone who you never had anything but a few conversations with, and spent a LITTLE bit of time with (in group settings). You didn't even get past the starting line with this guy, so while you may have been smitten with him, he's not worth so much of your time and emotion.
There will be plenty of other boys who give you butterflies. I saw your status where you state you lost the only boy who ever did that to you...you never really "had" him to lose him, and again, he's not the only boy in the world. Your feelings and reaction are out of context for what you describe you had with this guy.
Be careful as you continue to seek boys to date, you seem to be a little obsessive in your thinking, which is normal in some respects at your age, but you're taking it a little too far, it's not healthy. Concentrate on YOU and spending time with your friends...at 17, that should be your main focus! Enjoy your youth!
Good luck to you dear.
(Also, just an FYI, I don't care for your username...I don't like words like "bimbo", not to mention someone calling themselves that! Sure hopwe you don't look at yourself like that! Just saying hon)
There will be plenty of other boys who give you butterflies. I saw your status where you state you lost the only boy who ever did that to you...you never really "had" him to lose him, and again, he's not the only boy in the world. Your feelings and reaction are out of context for what you describe you had with this guy.
Be careful as you continue to seek boys to date, you seem to be a little obsessive in your thinking, which is normal in some respects at your age, but you're taking it a little too far, it's not healthy. Concentrate on YOU and spending time with your friends...at 17, that should be your main focus! Enjoy your youth!
Good luck to you dear.
(Also, just an FYI, I don't care for your username...I don't like words like "bimbo", not to mention someone calling themselves that! Sure hopwe you don't look at yourself like that! Just saying hon)
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Hi there. First, I'd like to tell you that we do have a teen forum you may be interested in. You'll get advice from your peers.
Getting to know someone is not a relationship sweetie. Talking to him and going on a date does not mean you'll be in a relationship with him or that you need to fear anything. Who knows what will happen.
Are you in highschool? I guess I'd just say live for the moment without taking it all so seriously. And if it doesn't feel right---- don't do it. No one says you have to date yet if you aren't ready emotionally and that kind of sounds like the case.
good luck
Getting to know someone is not a relationship sweetie. Talking to him and going on a date does not mean you'll be in a relationship with him or that you need to fear anything. Who knows what will happen.
Are you in highschool? I guess I'd just say live for the moment without taking it all so seriously. And if it doesn't feel right---- don't do it. No one says you have to date yet if you aren't ready emotionally and that kind of sounds like the case.
good luck
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