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How long should I wait?
I've been dating my live-in boyfriend for two and a half years. Recently we have been talking about marriage as close friends of ours are planning their wedding.
He says that he regards our relationship as a long term committed relationship, but he says he thinks there is only a fifty fifty chance we will end up married. He says that he can't know what jobs or opportunities might come up in the future. Am I wrong in thinking that if you want to commit you choose to make situations work instead of waiting to see what the future holds?
He is the man of my dreams, but I don't know how long I should wait before I decide to move on to someone who is interested in marriage eventually. How long should I wait?
He says that he regards our relationship as a long term committed relationship, but he says he thinks there is only a fifty fifty chance we will end up married. He says that he can't know what jobs or opportunities might come up in the future. Am I wrong in thinking that if you want to commit you choose to make situations work instead of waiting to see what the future holds?
He is the man of my dreams, but I don't know how long I should wait before I decide to move on to someone who is interested in marriage eventually. How long should I wait?
Nobody knows what jobs or opportunities await them in the future - that doesn't stop people from getting married. Yes, timing is a huge consideration, but it sounds like your boyfriend is waiting for his life to be 100% set before committing to you. For most people that just isn't the case. In your situation, that could be his excuse forever. I would say you're not wrong - all relationships reach a time where both people will NEED to make it work. Life situations don't always support relationships on their own. Good luck!
If he's not willing to commit at this point and uses the lame excuse of ' I can't know about x opportunity' without viewing you as a part of that life...then you really need to look carefully at your options. Two and a half years is enough time for him to know one way or another...
You aren't wrong, no...it is ****** up that he still, after so long, looks at the situation as though it were temporary. Start considering how best to sever the relationship and get on with your life, because he's only thinking about himself.
But this is only my opinion.
You aren't wrong, no...it is ****** up that he still, after so long, looks at the situation as though it were temporary. Start considering how best to sever the relationship and get on with your life, because he's only thinking about himself.
But this is only my opinion.
It depends on how old you are, Abigale. If you're over 23, enough is enough.
There is no right or wrong, he's wrong, you're right, or vice versa.
If you want to get married and have a family, I think you need to tell him it's time to decide, at this point.
Honestly, if you are interested in marriage and a family, moving in with him was probably counter productive. He has 100% of what he wants, with no strings.
Best wishes.
There is no right or wrong, he's wrong, you're right, or vice versa.
If you want to get married and have a family, I think you need to tell him it's time to decide, at this point.
Honestly, if you are interested in marriage and a family, moving in with him was probably counter productive. He has 100% of what he wants, with no strings.
Best wishes.
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