Hubby's ex hunt me down :(

[hotmama78]

I meet my Hubby 8 years ago when he was in a relationship with other woman.. we become friend as I am not into man after my 1st broken heart my high school. But make it short we fall for each other badly and since he not so in love with his Gf, he decided to walk out from the relationship.. we date nearly 5 years before  officially be husband & wife. After 3 years waiting we now finally waiting the arriving of out 1st angel May 2012.. the problem here.. his ex who already married with 2 kids none stop hunting me down. After changing phone number, the latest way she does is attacking me in Facebook... sending all annoying inbox.. funny questions.. making my other friends find difficulty to search me in fb bcos of the privacy setting super excellent :( I ignore her most of the time but now I am preggy this is very disturbing.. my hubby is aware of this and we have treating her that he might telling her hubby if she not stop but somehow its not works :( she still messy up my world... I and hubby being describe by friends and family as a prefect lovely couple and we still so in love to each other dearly. What can I do to get this crazy lady out from the picture..???will I lost my patience specially now I am expecting.
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[hotmama78]

Thanks for all the advise... I know I make a mistake by get close to my hubby during that tim but I not planned what had happen.. it just happen!! I know its lame excuses but I was really thought she move on life bcos she married year plus after that drama of life... but her act prove to me I was wrong... :(

[specialmom]

Hm.  How did people keep in touch before facebook?  I don't have facebook and yet have all of my friends involved in my life.  I have their emails and through this I can find other ways to create albums of photos to send them.  Look at what other options you have and be creative.  

While it isn't fair, the reality is that you have someone semi stalking you.  She may have found life wasn't fair when you came into the picture and her boyfriend left her for you and changed her life dramatically.  I'm not condemning you for that, it happens.  But it is part of the big picture that life just isn't fair.  

Another option for you as you seem quite attached with facebook to be the only way to keep in touch with people is to contact facebook directly and expain the situation.  Perhaps there are rules she is breaking by stalking you and they can track her computer address/s like they do here at med help..  Maybe they can offer suggestions and stop things like this from the other side.  good luck

[kelsebby92]

It makes it so there is no option to message you unless you are there friend!

[kelsebby92]

It makes it so there is no option to message you unless you are there friend!

[kelsebby92]

I deleted my Facebook acouple months ago it was too much drama. But I do believe now that I think about it you can make it so people can only message you if they are your friend! play around with the settings somemore I never figured out how to do it but I know people who did do it. So I know there is a way! That should solve your psycho x problem. Good luck and I hope you figure out how to do it!

[hotmama78]

Thanks dear... I did then she create one after another new ac and keep sending me an inbox :( will see what her next move since I deleted all the friends that I only so so close.. left my relatives family and BFF setting to all only friends.. some of those I delete even sent me an inbox why I deleted them.. some redo and add me again.. poor things but yeahhh I will consider police report if I reach my limit... I just hope there is better way to do.. she ask me for amount of cash but I feel silly if I pay... I believe she will keep asking if I give for the 1st time... blurr.. this lady really the 1st in her kind I ever seen...!!

[hotmama78]

Thank you so much... police report will be my last option and is not bcos I enjoying the way she did but I pity her children's... I just wonder did she love them dearly??? Why she doing this to her angels??? Instead of throwing all the time she has towards me don't it be nice she spend it with them :( I once change my fb profile picture to my baby 12 week scan picture.. she sent me an inbox... I pray hard you get girl, so someday people can play her too just like her dad did to me!!! Its been 8years... I suppose she move on since she married with 2 kids but then poor kiddos has an insane mom... I just hope she can open her eye and her heart.. appreciate her hubby and children's and just forget about me... she very hate me that I manage to guide my hubby be a better person. Successful business man and be loving hubby and devoted son... she always tell me I not deserve it.. she forget one thing this man only earn very little salary.. poor in manage his time... and live life with no direction when I 1st meet him... but when I say I love someone I meant my words and from day 1 I date him I already tell him... you need Makeover... hahahaha ... she very angry for that bcos all she wanted to see its he left me for other woman.. she tell me that over and over.... she truly insane right??? Don't she??? Ermmm...

[teddybears4ever2]

Like Kelse said you can block her if she is making your life hard.  That is the best thing to do in this situation, and you can also go to the police and say she is bugging you.

[kelsebby92]

Block every account she tries to make or messages you from, if you don't want to lose connections with your other friends. And math even go to the police and tell them this lady is harrassing you.

[hotmama78]

I did block her after i realize that was her... but then... This crazy lady even create an fb AC under one familiar name and add me with some of my friends.. end us having mutual friends :( then she become friend of friend of mine.. I change all my setting to only friends... the problem here I am Malaysian currently settle down in Jakarta follow my hubby as he was transfer here... I have friends from Aussie.. Germany.. Malaysia.. Bali...Philippines and they are excited to see via album in fb my new life here and the progress of my pregnancy. Do I really need to disconnected with them and go old time ways just for this crazy person??? Phone calls a gonna be very costly :( their are really true friends of mine.. we BFF for very long time now and I think I cannot be so selfish for one particular person that I never know I sacrifices my great amazing relationship with my real friends :( but I agree she is truly annoying.. thanks for advised dear... let me think it thru...

[specialmom]

Well, she's messing with your facebook situation.  Is facebook everything?  No.  I don't even use facebook and have a full life with friends and family.  Shut down your facebook account for a while.  Take time off and communicate with good old fashioned email with your friends that matter.  You can even email those on your account telling them that you are taking a break and that if they want to know what is going on with your life to contact you directly.  

I'd continue to ignore her.  And when you do go on facebook-------  block her proactively ahead of time so that when she searches, she can't find you.  And then do not accept friends unless you know exactly who they are.  

good luck

[lonelyperson]

Put a restraining order on her annoying @$$