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Hi ladies, I've been reading some of the stuff on here. That brings up a couple of questions I'm not sure I understand. What is considered longterm relationship? I guess I would be consisereed ancient relationship. LOL
Also with all these people giving advice on very sensative topics, I'm not sure who to trust. Does any of you have therapy or medical certificates and qualifications.
One more note: I posted on here a while ago and things with my wife are somewhat improved. The meds I take put me into a depression sometimes. She loves me. She loves me not. She loves......Thank You
Also with all these people giving advice on very sensative topics, I'm not sure who to trust. Does any of you have therapy or medical certificates and qualifications.
One more note: I posted on here a while ago and things with my wife are somewhat improved. The meds I take put me into a depression sometimes. She loves me. She loves me not. She loves......Thank You
"ummk ok,, i dontnthinkl it was me whi u had to answer,, but thanx"
Not many of us here do unintelligibility, LAMUNECA.
Did you want to throw those letters onto the table again and try to construct another sentence out of them? Pretend you're playing Scrabble or something. Yikes.
Not many of us here do unintelligibility, LAMUNECA.
Did you want to throw those letters onto the table again and try to construct another sentence out of them? Pretend you're playing Scrabble or something. Yikes.
So what are you here posting for? What kind of "advice" were you looking for? Sounds like you've made your bed, so to speak.
News for yoos. Everything I have said here is the truth. Sometimes I can get pretty testy. So can she. She takes no **** from me. I know she is worn to a frazzle. I know she is tired of my moping around felling like poop. She is damned sure tired of having me griping about how bad it gets. Sometimes she just doesnt want me around. Two years of these mood altering meds and I'm a looney bin. I dont blame her in the least. It is so very hard for me to watch all this happening. I cant even put up a logical fight because I cant remember what we are spatting over. I never win, its not fair. Lately its been pretty bad. I'm brain dead and belly up. She leaves me feeling like its all my fault, yet she knows its all the chems. I am done with treatments on 10Aug07. She said the sweetest thing to me this AM. She said if the hepCrud returns she can not carry me again. My heart sunk like a brick. She then said,"We will hire a good lawyer and fight for SocSec."
So you see Lamuneca. Fight as we will, it all boils down to respect and trust. Ive been almost my entire adult life with her and I have learned one very important thing. Just stick with those two little words I uttered so long ago.....
No not "I DO" but Yes Ma'am
So you see Lamuneca. Fight as we will, it all boils down to respect and trust. Ive been almost my entire adult life with her and I have learned one very important thing. Just stick with those two little words I uttered so long ago.....
No not "I DO" but Yes Ma'am
I don't think his intent was to question our advice or our right to be giving this advice. I believe his intent was to understand who he was talking to, and I don't blame him for wanting to know that information.
i think long term would be anything over a year. it's all variable depending on the couple
as for professionals, some people here have medical background, but even so we can't exercise anything more than opinion here. take it with a grain of salt. if you NEED a medical opinion you need a doctor or even going to the patien-doctor forums may help. if you need life experience and opinions from people not involved in the situation here we are. :)
i noticed in previous posts you talk of having hep c and your 25 year marriage falling apart. i hope you called a support group. another option there could be to look for a mental health facility that works on a sliding scale. many do and will treat you for little to nothing.
i know you feel outnumbered by girls here, but if you take the time to get to know most of us you'll learn that we are a pretty open minded bunch, for the most part. we are also outspoken. the guys who have been spoken to in harsher manners were no saints though. i personally don't think i tend to be gender biased on my opinions.
heck, i even kinda like boys sometimes!(j/k)
i really hope your relationship improves, but, we aren't psychiatrists or psychologists(at least not here). we just have advice to offer.
as for professionals, some people here have medical background, but even so we can't exercise anything more than opinion here. take it with a grain of salt. if you NEED a medical opinion you need a doctor or even going to the patien-doctor forums may help. if you need life experience and opinions from people not involved in the situation here we are. :)
i noticed in previous posts you talk of having hep c and your 25 year marriage falling apart. i hope you called a support group. another option there could be to look for a mental health facility that works on a sliding scale. many do and will treat you for little to nothing.
i know you feel outnumbered by girls here, but if you take the time to get to know most of us you'll learn that we are a pretty open minded bunch, for the most part. we are also outspoken. the guys who have been spoken to in harsher manners were no saints though. i personally don't think i tend to be gender biased on my opinions.
heck, i even kinda like boys sometimes!(j/k)
i really hope your relationship improves, but, we aren't psychiatrists or psychologists(at least not here). we just have advice to offer.
BB, what are you doing on your sabbatical? Anything earth shattering? I somehow can't imagine you reading trashy novels and eating bon bons.....
OP
None of us claim to be experts. We are people who live life and often have a differant perspective than the poster. Most of us have had hard times and have come through them a little scared and a little wiser. Sometimes what is posted is helpful, other times it is not. Take from the forum what you like, ignore the rest. No one can emasculate you if you are a confident man anyway.
Long term....I guess anything over a year.
Personally I am a theatrical agent in the film industry, so I spend much of my time propping up huge egos. I feel like I am a mother to hundreds.....
Maybe I need a sabbatical.
OP
None of us claim to be experts. We are people who live life and often have a differant perspective than the poster. Most of us have had hard times and have come through them a little scared and a little wiser. Sometimes what is posted is helpful, other times it is not. Take from the forum what you like, ignore the rest. No one can emasculate you if you are a confident man anyway.
Long term....I guess anything over a year.
Personally I am a theatrical agent in the film industry, so I spend much of my time propping up huge egos. I feel like I am a mother to hundreds.....
Maybe I need a sabbatical.
We are here to give advice I think everybody on this forum is awesome they helped me.... I wouldn't even know what to do without them...
"Maybe I need a sabbatical"
I highly recommend it. : ) Sounds like a stressful gig you have.
I'm undergoing a whole-house remodel so I'm overseeing that and trying to stay out of the dust. : ) The workmen move me around as necessary. I'm doing about 10-15 hours a week of pro bono work, mostly as a housing advocate, and I'm doing some editing for a friend who is writing a book on constitutional law, but I had to put boundaries on my time with him, so it's not a huge amount of time. My partner and I have been trying to get away here and there for 2-3 day trips, but it's difficult with his schedule. Trashy novels...does Stephen King count? I like the spooky stuff. Mostly I read nonfiction, political and law-related stuff. (surprise!)
I don't eat any carbs, so the bon-bons are out. But fix me a juicy ribeye cooked rare, and I'm there! :P
I highly recommend it. : ) Sounds like a stressful gig you have.
I'm undergoing a whole-house remodel so I'm overseeing that and trying to stay out of the dust. : ) The workmen move me around as necessary. I'm doing about 10-15 hours a week of pro bono work, mostly as a housing advocate, and I'm doing some editing for a friend who is writing a book on constitutional law, but I had to put boundaries on my time with him, so it's not a huge amount of time. My partner and I have been trying to get away here and there for 2-3 day trips, but it's difficult with his schedule. Trashy novels...does Stephen King count? I like the spooky stuff. Mostly I read nonfiction, political and law-related stuff. (surprise!)
I don't eat any carbs, so the bon-bons are out. But fix me a juicy ribeye cooked rare, and I'm there! :P
I agree with everyone here. None of us are trying to come off as experts - just enjoy getting and giving some good ol fashion advice. I feel like this forum has helped me because I think we are all able to give advice to others, however, it's really difficult to see our own blind spots.
I am off for parts of the summer now. I am a school counselor with a mental health background and seriously contemplating the Phd, but this doesn't mean anything to the forum - other than I greatly enjoy the support of my anonymous group members here and have a great interest in human behavior and relationships! And of course, there are some really great minds on here, and I enjoy reading their responses! In addition, some of the best advice I see on this forum comes from people's life experience. I know Triggertime, some posters don't always get the benefit of the doubt, but you can always always comment and present the other side. It gives us all something more to think about... and continues the discussion in a new direction:)
I am off for parts of the summer now. I am a school counselor with a mental health background and seriously contemplating the Phd, but this doesn't mean anything to the forum - other than I greatly enjoy the support of my anonymous group members here and have a great interest in human behavior and relationships! And of course, there are some really great minds on here, and I enjoy reading their responses! In addition, some of the best advice I see on this forum comes from people's life experience. I know Triggertime, some posters don't always get the benefit of the doubt, but you can always always comment and present the other side. It gives us all something more to think about... and continues the discussion in a new direction:)
I don't have a certificate or anything like that either, and as the other posters said, just give advice based on personal experience. I like posting on this site though because of that- doctors aren't always right anyway, and I like to hear a variety of opinions, which you certainly get here. I only work part time so as others said, I have the free time and feel like posting on here is somehow using it somewhat wisely... maybe wisely is the wrong word. That I'm being useful.
No barn babe I didnt say my wife wouldnt have sex with me. What I meant to say is we had a few communications breakdowns as of late. Hey she has been my best friend since 1976 and married since 1982. Like I said "ancient relationship". If you check out some of my posts in the hepatitus forum I hope you can understand. Even when we fight we are part of each other. Nothing can change that, right up to deaths door. The large amount of meds that I take throws me into crazy mood swings. I cant remember very much, in the short run. She has always picked me up and kept me going. I can and do count on that. She knows that I would do the same for her without hesitation. When my boys (men now) were very young she fished bass tournaments all over the country. I would stay at home with the boys while she travelled and fished. How many men can say that? Ive seen her beat many a gal and has won many awards for doin it. I taught her to shoot and hunt. More than once we returned at the end of the day dragging her game, when I had none. I've heard more than once from my friends that I am a lucky man. They only wished that thier wives would hunt and fish with them. In my weakend state right now from the hepCrud, she drives me to the hunting grounds or fishin hole.
We may fight and say things that hurt us, but we still have a good laugh when we can. Im glad shes my friend. I hope I didnt misrepresent her in my first post.
We may fight and say things that hurt us, but we still have a good laugh when we can. Im glad shes my friend. I hope I didnt misrepresent her in my first post.
i think you should read your previous post again. you made it sound like you were ready to end everything and she was done with you.
OMG ladys why are you taking the time to answer this man,, first of all ,, mr ur your the one who is reading our posts,, so why dont you take ur time and fix your problems urself since you dont trust any of us.,,, I agree ladys we dont have degress of certificates but we have our own expiriences to give adavice,, so lets focus of the people who acctualy care about our advice and not someone who just like to bother people for no reason
LA MUNECA
LA MUNECA
Yes, this is a patient-to-patient forum, we have no certifications here. Our advice is based on opinions and life experiences. We answer the ones that we believe we can help with and we don't the ones that leave us saying..huh. You don't have to take our advice, it's here for you if you need it and we are support systems for a lot of people. I came on this board when I was having trouble conceiving a baby. It has grown immensely since then and there are a ton more forums to look through. Some of these people have been just the ears I needed (or eyes), when I was dealing with a difficult situation. Sometimes it's tough to talk to our friend's because they either haven't experienced it or would later on judge us. Here are people who don't really know you and can give their insight. Although, I have to say that I wound up making some friends. One of them I actually exchanged email addresses with and we keep in contact that way.
The others are right. You can take or leave the sh*t you read here because we aren't mental health professionals. I'm a lawyer on sabbatical from my job, so I also have a lot of free time.
What's given me my insight into relationships? Failing at them.
What's given me my insight into relationships? Failing at them.
I am not a doctor nor do I claim to be one. I have no certificates or any qualifications to give anyone advice. I only do this because I'm at a very boring job and need to do something with myself. I do have some life experience which is what I try to impart on people. As for my advice, Take it or don't take it, it's your choice.
Personally I have been helped by the people on this forum. It's good to get other's opinions like this because they are not emotionally involved with me or the situation. If they see something I don't, I want to hear about it.
As for long term relationship, I would consider a relationship older than 2 yrs to be long term. Otherwise, it's short term to me. That's my opinion and has no scientific basis whatsoever.
Personally I have been helped by the people on this forum. It's good to get other's opinions like this because they are not emotionally involved with me or the situation. If they see something I don't, I want to hear about it.
As for long term relationship, I would consider a relationship older than 2 yrs to be long term. Otherwise, it's short term to me. That's my opinion and has no scientific basis whatsoever.
Whether or not any of us have any professional qualifications is a void issue in the Patient-to-Patient forum. The purpose of these forums is to get advice, suggestions, or feedback from whoever responds. Trust who you want, or just take the posts with a grain of salt. It's up to you.
Professional opinions can be found in the Doctor-to-Patient forum.
As for long term relationships, IMO, I define this as an intimate relationship between two people who, married or not, are committed to each other and love each other in the best of times and the worst of times.
I believe a marriage is a promise to the significant other that you will love them and stay with them "In sickness and in health, till death do us part." I don't like divorce and try to never recommend it, except for extremely callous, unfaithful, or abusive situations.
Glad to hear your situation is improving, and I hope it continues to do so. :-)
Thanks for the quick response. It's just nice to air whats bugging me. Still scares me though, Ive seen some poor fellas get down right immasculated here.
Professional opinions can be found in the Doctor-to-Patient forum.
As for long term relationships, IMO, I define this as an intimate relationship between two people who, married or not, are committed to each other and love each other in the best of times and the worst of times.
I believe a marriage is a promise to the significant other that you will love them and stay with them "In sickness and in health, till death do us part." I don't like divorce and try to never recommend it, except for extremely callous, unfaithful, or abusive situations.
Glad to hear your situation is improving, and I hope it continues to do so. :-)
Thanks for the quick response. It's just nice to air whats bugging me. Still scares me though, Ive seen some poor fellas get down right immasculated here.
Whether or not any of us have any professional qualifications is a void issue in the Patient-to-Patient forum. The purpose of these forums is to get advice, suggestions, or feedback from whoever responds. Trust who you want, or just take the posts with a grain of salt. It's up to you.
Professional opinions can be found in the Doctor-to-Patient forum.
As for long term relationships, IMO, I define this as an intimate relationship between two people who, married or not, are committed to each other and love each other in the best of times and the worst of times.
I believe a marriage is a promise to the significant other that you will love them and stay with them "In sickness and in health, till death do us part." I don't like divorce and try to never recommend it, except for extremely callous, unfaithful, or abusive situations.
Glad to hear your situation is improving, and I hope it continues to do so. :-)
Best wishes to you!
Professional opinions can be found in the Doctor-to-Patient forum.
As for long term relationships, IMO, I define this as an intimate relationship between two people who, married or not, are committed to each other and love each other in the best of times and the worst of times.
I believe a marriage is a promise to the significant other that you will love them and stay with them "In sickness and in health, till death do us part." I don't like divorce and try to never recommend it, except for extremely callous, unfaithful, or abusive situations.
Glad to hear your situation is improving, and I hope it continues to do so. :-)
Best wishes to you!
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