Is My Girlfiend Pregneant or Is It Natural?

[liamwalker2004]

hi

im not sure this is the right section but please i need relationship help. and very fast sadly.

iv had sex with my girlfriend, and i think she pregneant and this is our first time. we used a condom and made sure we were protected but her period was meant to be the other day and its really late now for it.

im not ready for a baby and please don't judge me im only 15.
please i dont know if its natural for her period to be late after sex or if she is pregneant. we dont want a test at this moment in time.

and i dont want to leave her as she is the one special person for me.

thanks if u read this and please help me

-liam-

[barn babe]

I don't want more studies but thanks for posting what's here already. When I have a chance, I'll take a look at them.

You are certainly entitled to your opinions, BearHitch, and it looks like it's always just the two of us in a discussion : ) but what I want to know is why you would discount the decision a woman makes to HAVE an abortion. If in fact a woman goes to one of these "counseling" centers and is told what her options are, and she still decides to have  an abortion, why would you possibly discount that?  In essence, you are saying that a woman really can't make her own decisions about her. own. body.

That's the problem I run up against with the anti-choice  crowd. There  are probably millions of women whose lives were saved, psychologically, economically and socially, by having an abortion. But you appear to be telling me that they are extremely f*cked up even though they say otherwise?

The other  HUGE issue I have is that you people want to fight to abolish abortion. (I'm talking about the States, here, not some other country.) If you are against abortion, then don't have one! But why do you insist on taking away the option of abortion for women who DO want it?  

And BTW, I am one of those women who had an abortion and was not "psychologically or emotionally damaged" by the experience. I was in law school at the time, and there  was no way I was going to have it. It was a huge relief for me, and I am fortunate that I live in a state where abortion is still safe and legal. Because, as we all know, the anti-choice crowd is making that less and less possible.

I guess my biggest issue is, if you are "against" abortion, don't have one! But stop trying to legislate it out of existence for others. You folks are really not about "live and let live, though."

[liamwalker2004]

in relation to mami's comment

i thank you for your comment
and yeh, iv already asked her about gettin a test before i get there so we can know sooner but she has no money and her parents wont give her any coz they'll ask why

so sorry about that

[barn babe]

". . .there(sic) lives will be over if this girl was pregnant is just the wrong stance to take."

When teenagers become parents, studies have shown that they are significantly compromised in terms of their future economic earning potential. Fewer teenage parents graduate from high school and attend college. More teenage parents than any other age group of parents live in poverty. Male teens generally aren't economically advantaged enough to provide child support, so child support payments are iffy at best in these situations. We already live in a society that is cutting back on social programs for the poor and economically disadvantaged. How would becoming a parent IMPROVE this girl's economic situation, in her present and in her future?  How would it do that?  And, in turn, how would it be an advantage for the child?  

Again, I ask you, how is that in the best interests of the child? I see "best interests of the fetus" all over this forum, but I sure as sh*t am not seeing any arguments about the advantages of a teenage mother becoming a parent. But you tell me - do you think liam is going to come through as a source of child support for this girl? This kid can barely spell his way through an on-line message forum in complete sentences. His level of emotional maturity about this seems lacking.  He sounds  defensive and insecure and appears unable to grasp the enormity of the situation he may be thrown into, including his responsibilities as an economic provider for this child. And, as I stated, studies have shown repeatedly that teenage parents are poor providers of child support, clearly putting  the mother and her child at an economic disadvantage.

"i dont think people should be telling this impressionable boy that abortion is right for teens, what if he takes your advise(sic) and goes on to tell her he wants her to abort? i think they should definatly(sic) talk to an adult to dicuss their options, because like i said before, the last thing a scared pregnant teenage girl needs is her boyfriend comming(sic) to her saying that her life is going to be over, and she should abort. . ."

Yes, that is your opinion. Mine is that a scared impressionable pregnant young girl needs to know every option available to her, including abortion. The last thing she needs is somebody telling her that her life will be peaches and cream if she decides to have a child and that there. is. no. alternative.

[mami1323]

There are tons of arguements about abortion on this forum.  Let's just agree to say it's a heated arguement any which way.  Why don't we not talk about abortion with this young man any more.  He doesn't know whether his girlfriend is pregnant yet so this debate isn't necessary yet.  We all have our own opinions regarding abortion and whichever way this girl chooses to go is up to her.  

Liam, a girls period could be late for a number of reasons.  She is still young and her body is still going through changes.  It could be late because she is very stressed regarding possibly being pregnant, it could be late because of hormonal changes during puberty.  Is she always regular with her cycle?  At 15 is she aware of how many days her cycle is?  Maybe she didn't ovulate this month, than she wouldn't get her period.  If she's a few days late go get a pregnancy test and have her take it.  This way you won't have to keep guessing.  It's not that expensive and it only takes a minute or so to find the anwer.

[BearHitch]

I decided I'd go ahead and take our discussion to its own post if you care to continue discussing abortion- that way this thread can get back on track.

[liamwalker2004]

thanks

and yeh she is regular usually and can predict when its coming but this month she has had alot of stress not jsut from this but other stuff. her parents are constantly arguing and she has to find a job soon becuase shes a school drop out. do not take that the wrong way though. she had to drop out of school because of anxiety issues not becuase of lazyness.

i keep telling myself that it is stress thats causing the lateness but deep down i have a huge fear she is pregneant.

im not an irrespoinsible teen if thats what anyones thinking jsut the average teenager gettin Bs and As at school nothing out of the ordinary.

and if she is still not on her period by saturday (when i next see her) were going out to buy a test so we know what position we are in and what move to make next