Is My Girlfiend Pregneant or Is It Natural?

[liamwalker2004]

hi

im not sure this is the right section but please i need relationship help. and very fast sadly.

iv had sex with my girlfriend, and i think she pregneant and this is our first time. we used a condom and made sure we were protected but her period was meant to be the other day and its really late now for it.

im not ready for a baby and please don't judge me im only 15.
please i dont know if its natural for her period to be late after sex or if she is pregneant. we dont want a test at this moment in time.

and i dont want to leave her as she is the one special person for me.

thanks if u read this and please help me

-liam-

[RockRose]

This original post is two years old.  It seems unlikely the original poster is still checking back for comments.

[heatherlynn22]

girls don't miss their periods all the time. sure a younger (teen girl) can have irregular periods but not miss them. if a girl misses her period she's either pregnant or has something wrong with the womanly parts and needs to see her ob.

[BoxingSicilian]

She's not pregnant, girls miss their periods all the time. Stop stressing about it. Happened to me when I was your age. I felt the same way. Cheer up kid and just remember to be safe.

[slow_healer]

That's terrific news! Take a load off and BREATHE now.

I hope this hasn't ruined your relationship with your girlfriend. There scares happen, no matter how old you are or where you are in life. A little bit of reading never hurts, so take the time to read up on birth control. Tell your girlfriend to think about going on the pill. Last thought: don't let this ruin sex for you (especially your girlfriend). Be responsible with your bodies, and this shouldn't happen again :)  Glad to hear it turned out okay.

[liamwalker2004]

hey i know this is a couple of days late its because i was round my girlfriends house


we took the test.



shes not pregneant.
thnkgod


and thankyou to everyone for your help
i hope to never have to do this again but if i did this is my first port of call.

thankyou to everyone for your help and everything now has been resolved

[kathy809]

it is normal if it was her first time having sex, that happened to me i was almost a month late.
remember her body experiensed something new, so dont worry!!

[marra]

hi mate, they usually give the details out at school and have posters at your gp surgery .do a google search on family planning clinics and you can do a location search .even if she comes on still go and get some contraception free anyway and they will help you ! we are always here for any help you need along the way .if you cant find any search info ,try nhs direct on 08454647 . good luck mate x x x

[taysmommy]

ok we both agree they need options, i didnt choose to read the rest of your post because its probably restating what you said in all the other posts, if you are so pro-choice you shouldnt get so defensive when one disagrees with yours, i should have said shame on you, so i apologize, im done with this now

[barn babe]

"we have family planning clinics here and they will test you free and give you condoms and maybe give her the pill. You dont need an appointment and you dont have to tell your parents."

Now that's a family planning policy I can get behind.  Thanks for posting this, marra.  Good luck to you and your girlfriend, Lima.

[liamwalker2004]

hey marra

how do i find out where the nearest clinic thing is?

[marra]

hi liam, i am uk too ! wow you got some debates going ,i dont think she is pregnant if you used contarception chances are she is late with stress of  gcse  coming up and stuff you mentioned too  . we have family planning clinics here and the will test you free and give you condoms and maybe give her the pill . you dont need an appointment and you dont have to tell your parents .good luck mate x x x

[liamwalker2004]

haha ok then il keep that in mind
but i dont want to be a teenage parent anyway


well thanks everyone for you help to this stage and i will definately post on here the results from the test and hopefully wont ask for anymore help

thanks so much for your help

and lets hope wen i next inform u on something its all clear and good

[barn babe]

Well, it's a relief to know you are in the U.K. I don't know anything about the abortion laws over there, but I would imagine you folks have better laws on the books than us Amerikans. Also, you have some social safety nets so that her baby can be taken care of, like nationalized health insurance. We here in Amerika consider national health insurance a "communist plot," so we don't provide socialized medicine.  For that, you should be thankful you're not in the U.S., Liam.

Consider yourself lucky. Being a teenage parent in Amerika is the worst possible situation you could find yourself in.

[mami1323]

no problem Liam.  Just keep faith that everything will be ok no matter what happens.  Keep us posted.

[liamwalker2004]

in relation to mami's comment

i thank you for your comment
and yeh, iv already asked her about gettin a test before i get there so we can know sooner but she has no money and her parents wont give her any coz they'll ask why

so sorry about that

[liamwalker2004]

really really bad

and uspet
she wants to start her period now

i think the stress of having to be on it might be making it prolong
but thats based on the fact that stress can prolong it

all we want is for her to start and know she isnt


and about yur comment about pulling yur hair out
its already happening im afraid




btw before u mention if u were going to mention anything else about American law changing and stuff i would like to say i live in the UK jsut north of london so its not gona help me im afraid

[mami1323]

Liam, stress can really change a cycle but if you were using protection than I would think that she is not pregnant.  Can she go buy a test herself and do it when you are not there?  I know she would like you there for support but if she wants a quick answer than that's what she should do.

You don't sound irresponsible Liam, you just sound young.  We are not placing judgement against you as a person, we just want you to know that sex is something that feels really good but has a lot of consequences attached to it.  Getting pregnant by accident at age 15 is 100 times worse than getting pregnant at age 26 or older.  Either way if you are not ready for a pregnancy it could be hard to handle no matter what age you are.  We just want you to be safe and not have to experience something like this again until you're ready as an adult.

[slow_healer]

Whoops, Liam you must have posted your reply as I typed up my previous one.

It sounds like you have a plan for getting to the next step of this situation (good!). Don't feel targetted by all the discussion on this thread - there are many strong feelings for AND against abortion. Teen pregnancy is one topic that certainly fuels this debate.

I agree with some previous poster that don't think about these things too much - not until you know she is pregnant. Otherwise you will be pulling out your hair for the next few days. If you can be relatively calm about this, you'll be better off to make smarter decisions.

How is your girlfriend feeling about all of this?

[liamwalker2004]

ermmm not yet

as she lives a couple of miles away

and i can only go there friday nights/saturdays

so im going saturday with her and gettin one then



i understand you cant give a yes or no answer i jsut wanted to know if it is natural or if she most likely is pregneant, but i suppose u cant say unless u know what shes like and stuff.

[slow_healer]

Liam, it seems like you're looking for a solid yes or no answer on this. Many posters have suggested that yes - variation in the menstrual cycle is possible for many reasons. But we can't tell you yes or no if that's what happening with your girlfriend simply because we don't know her or how she's been doing.

Since her period is already late, have you gone to check out some pregnancy tests?

[liamwalker2004]

thanks

and yeh she is regular usually and can predict when its coming but this month she has had alot of stress not jsut from this but other stuff. her parents are constantly arguing and she has to find a job soon becuase shes a school drop out. do not take that the wrong way though. she had to drop out of school because of anxiety issues not becuase of lazyness.

i keep telling myself that it is stress thats causing the lateness but deep down i have a huge fear she is pregneant.

im not an irrespoinsible teen if thats what anyones thinking jsut the average teenager gettin Bs and As at school nothing out of the ordinary.

and if she is still not on her period by saturday (when i next see her) were going out to buy a test so we know what position we are in and what move to make next

[BearHitch]

I decided I'd go ahead and take our discussion to its own post if you care to continue discussing abortion- that way this thread can get back on track.

[mami1323]

There are tons of arguements about abortion on this forum.  Let's just agree to say it's a heated arguement any which way.  Why don't we not talk about abortion with this young man any more.  He doesn't know whether his girlfriend is pregnant yet so this debate isn't necessary yet.  We all have our own opinions regarding abortion and whichever way this girl chooses to go is up to her.  

Liam, a girls period could be late for a number of reasons.  She is still young and her body is still going through changes.  It could be late because she is very stressed regarding possibly being pregnant, it could be late because of hormonal changes during puberty.  Is she always regular with her cycle?  At 15 is she aware of how many days her cycle is?  Maybe she didn't ovulate this month, than she wouldn't get her period.  If she's a few days late go get a pregnancy test and have her take it.  This way you won't have to keep guessing.  It's not that expensive and it only takes a minute or so to find the anwer.

[barn babe]

". . .there(sic) lives will be over if this girl was pregnant is just the wrong stance to take."

When teenagers become parents, studies have shown that they are significantly compromised in terms of their future economic earning potential. Fewer teenage parents graduate from high school and attend college. More teenage parents than any other age group of parents live in poverty. Male teens generally aren't economically advantaged enough to provide child support, so child support payments are iffy at best in these situations. We already live in a society that is cutting back on social programs for the poor and economically disadvantaged. How would becoming a parent IMPROVE this girl's economic situation, in her present and in her future?  How would it do that?  And, in turn, how would it be an advantage for the child?  

Again, I ask you, how is that in the best interests of the child? I see "best interests of the fetus" all over this forum, but I sure as sh*t am not seeing any arguments about the advantages of a teenage mother becoming a parent. But you tell me - do you think liam is going to come through as a source of child support for this girl? This kid can barely spell his way through an on-line message forum in complete sentences. His level of emotional maturity about this seems lacking.  He sounds  defensive and insecure and appears unable to grasp the enormity of the situation he may be thrown into, including his responsibilities as an economic provider for this child. And, as I stated, studies have shown repeatedly that teenage parents are poor providers of child support, clearly putting  the mother and her child at an economic disadvantage.

"i dont think people should be telling this impressionable boy that abortion is right for teens, what if he takes your advise(sic) and goes on to tell her he wants her to abort? i think they should definatly(sic) talk to an adult to dicuss their options, because like i said before, the last thing a scared pregnant teenage girl needs is her boyfriend comming(sic) to her saying that her life is going to be over, and she should abort. . ."

Yes, that is your opinion. Mine is that a scared impressionable pregnant young girl needs to know every option available to her, including abortion. The last thing she needs is somebody telling her that her life will be peaches and cream if she decides to have a child and that there. is. no. alternative.