Well hopefully you all do not laugh at me....I discussed this situation with my best friend last night and I am still torn. There is a guy that I have been dating for all most a month now. We have hit it off well and I am happy about that. On our first date, he told me he liked me. I was so happy to hear that, because I wanted to hear confirmation from him before I told him that I liked him. He stated that he liked that I tolerated the some what bad dinner he made me as well as the fact that I laughed at his crummy jokes : ). He stated to me that he is looking for a drama free relationship and women that are not psycho. His ex whom he may have a child with (he is waiting for the results of the parternity test they took this month, which he should get next month). He told me about the situation with the baby and his ex before we even had a first date. I was glad that he did not hide this info from me and was honest. Any how, he has stated to me that he like me and will not hurt me or leave me and I do believe him. Because we have been dating and talking to each other for a month via phone, email, in person, ect and he has not lied to me yet, well at least I believe that. We were suppose to hang out yesterday, but he blew me off to spend time with his possible baby mama and the baby. He wanted to spend time with me but she was there with the baby and he did not want me to come over. I sent him some text that day, and I guess his phone was not near him and she saw the text I sent him. One in particular she got mad about was sensual in content, from a conversation we were having the day before. He state that he wanted to have sex with me and I did not. I sent him a text in return stated that hopefully he can survive with out having *****, lol. Well she saw the text and he sent a text to me back stated that "she was over at his apartment and that she saw the text and jumped his ****." I apologized for the text and that it made his ex mad, but my best friend said I should have not even done that, because I did nothing wrong if he has totally moved on with is life. I apologize because I did not mean for him to get reamed on or for her to be "jumping his ****." I do not know if he has told her that he has moved on with his life and is dating again or what. My whole thing is, if he is dating what does he care what she though of the text he should have stated to her that that was his business and not hers and that it was a joke. Well I am understanding that even if the child is not his, he wants to act as the childs father, because the baby's mother was raped while they were together. He has been there from day one with this child and most men would not be at our age (I am 26 he is 27) or older. He siad that he wants nothing to do with her outside of the baby, but she was at his house all day and I am afraid to say anything because we are dating/hanging out, I don't live there, and I do not want to seem as though I am monopolizing his time and telling him who he can and can't see. I like him and just do not want to make any mistakes with him, which I stated to him when I text him last night. I can't eat, sleep, function, because I am so confused and stressed right now. I just do not want to be a third wheel and want to find out from him is he ready to move on without his ex. And lets say the baby is his, does he want to resume a relationship with her, knowing all that she has done to him-accused him of beating her, filed false police reports against him, accused him of cheating, ect. And even though she did that to him he paid for her to go to school, bought her a new car, bought her maternity clothes and essentials for the baby, let her live with him for a brief period of time, paid all the bills, so she would not have to work and could stay at home - **** that most men would not do. The baby is 6mos now and he is attached which most men would be that have invested that much time in making a perfect home and who wants to be a parent. I am just wondering what should I do or think, I want us to continue building our friendship/relationship and see what happens. I am not ready to cut ties with him yet,I like him too much for that, which I have stated to him too, but I do not want to be a third wheel in this entire situation. I am at wits end with this and I hope he understands where I am coming from, I am not trying to be a thorn in his side but at the same time, I should not settle for being possibly lied to. The next time he is off is this weekend and I am hopeing that we can talk one way or another.