Is sex in our future?

[Annegal]

I have been dating a wonderful man for a little over 6 months.  He is nearly 50 and I am 41.  We share a wonderful emotional connection and a close connection physically.  The problem is that he isn't really interested in sex.  I've had little experience in this arena but deeply want this type of connection with him.  He has been diagnosed with low testosterone recently and just started taking medication for this issue.  We discuss this issue openly and I do think he has some anxiety about being with me (his first marriage was very difficult and I am the first person he has seriously dated since then.   He is hoping that the medication does improve his testosterone production and thus enable him to become more interested in sex and to maintain an erection.  I'm trying not to pressure him about this issue as I know it will only make things worse.  I'm trying not to be impatient but I feel myself getting disappointed by this at times.  I'm wondering how we should proceed and if it will probably happen for us at this point. I adore him either way and am not looking to end this relationship at all.

[teko]

It sounds like you two have a great relationship. Sex however would be the icing on the cake, so to speak.  With a low testosterone level, he has little physical desire for sex I take it.  Has he asked about medications that cause an erection? If you are going to continue this relationship, you will probably have to resign yourself to a less than desirable sex life.  I would think he would want to take other recourse to satisfy you regardless tho. Have you spoken to him about that?

[iam1butterfly]

I recently dated a man for 1 year... with no sex!
I learned a lot from this relationship. I discovered that while I could, in fact,
live without sex... I don't want to!
My ex would always say that his thinking "is above the belt-line!" But, it didn't
take long for me to figure out that, in truth, he was pretty much "dead" below
the belt-line for a variety of medical and emotional reasons. The lack of sexual
intimacy wasn't the deal breaker in our relationship; but, I honestly think that,
eventually, it would have been.
We all need to bond and feel totally "at one" and accepted by our partners in
an emotional, mental, spiritual and physical/ sexual way.
Continue to give your guy the wonderful support that you described; but, don't
ignore your own needs.