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Is she pregnanat? or not?
Hello all...i'm really really worried here.
Just yesterday I got this text from a girl who is saying she is two months late. understandably i am freaking out. I am NOT ready for a kid and neither is she. We had sex twice now and i've used a condom every time (some nights we did it twice but always protected with a new condom each and every time). I thought i was safe. It appeared that none of them broke I only ejaculated once in her and when I threw the condom out it did not appear to be broken and appeared to be containing sperm.
The weird thing is is that shes saying its totally not my problem and is "2 months late" but hasn't even bothered to get the test done yet.also, when she suggested that the condom may have broken i acknowledged that might be true, and also told her that it looked like it didn't break, but she immediately came back with some "micro hole" story or suggested the whole Pre *** story and how a "tiny amout of semen might have been in there" (even though I have never penetrated her without a condom on). I just find it highly unlikely that shes pregnant. And I dont really know what to believe.
Another weird thing is that she had sex with me after her first missed period (our sex was far enough apart so its doubtful she hadnt noticed her lateness before our second time...we first had sex on feb.20th) ...who does that? she also told me shes had 8 partners before but now tells me "im the only guy in 6 months and the last one in two"
This girl used to be very caught up with me...she would text me every day all day and had slowed down recently, until last night when she out of the blue told me she was 2 months late. is she doing this to get my attention/affection?
-whats your take on this? Is she late due to some weird reason and overreacting?
-is she really pregnant? she is saying that if she is pregnant that "it will be taken care of" (i assume she will not have it)
-why did she not get tested when she first missed? why did she have sex again when she knew she was late? (assuming her story is true)
-what do i do? I definitely need to tell her im not ready for this baby. I cant be a father right now. i'm monetarily unable and not emotionally ready. I feel like an ******* second guessing her like this. but this all seems a lil fishy to me...especially when she lives an hour away and i have not seen her since.
Just yesterday I got this text from a girl who is saying she is two months late. understandably i am freaking out. I am NOT ready for a kid and neither is she. We had sex twice now and i've used a condom every time (some nights we did it twice but always protected with a new condom each and every time). I thought i was safe. It appeared that none of them broke I only ejaculated once in her and when I threw the condom out it did not appear to be broken and appeared to be containing sperm.
The weird thing is is that shes saying its totally not my problem and is "2 months late" but hasn't even bothered to get the test done yet.also, when she suggested that the condom may have broken i acknowledged that might be true, and also told her that it looked like it didn't break, but she immediately came back with some "micro hole" story or suggested the whole Pre *** story and how a "tiny amout of semen might have been in there" (even though I have never penetrated her without a condom on). I just find it highly unlikely that shes pregnant. And I dont really know what to believe.
Another weird thing is that she had sex with me after her first missed period (our sex was far enough apart so its doubtful she hadnt noticed her lateness before our second time...we first had sex on feb.20th) ...who does that? she also told me shes had 8 partners before but now tells me "im the only guy in 6 months and the last one in two"
This girl used to be very caught up with me...she would text me every day all day and had slowed down recently, until last night when she out of the blue told me she was 2 months late. is she doing this to get my attention/affection?
-whats your take on this? Is she late due to some weird reason and overreacting?
-is she really pregnant? she is saying that if she is pregnant that "it will be taken care of" (i assume she will not have it)
-why did she not get tested when she first missed? why did she have sex again when she knew she was late? (assuming her story is true)
-what do i do? I definitely need to tell her im not ready for this baby. I cant be a father right now. i'm monetarily unable and not emotionally ready. I feel like an ******* second guessing her like this. but this all seems a lil fishy to me...especially when she lives an hour away and i have not seen her since.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Yes. A woman that thinks she is pregnant is not usually out planning her next party adventure. Even if she is an immature 18 year old. I suspect she is messing with you and not pregnant at all. At your first opportunity, go buy a home test at the local drug or grocery store and go see her. Make her take it right then and there. I'm guessing you are worrying for nothing. (and I hope so!)
well I was suggesting an abortion yes. I mean adoption is a good middle ground. but it does involve her carrying it to term. but you're right we may be jumping the gun here.
COMMUNITY LEADER
You don't even know if she is pregnant yet. Don't get ahead of yourself. I doubt she is!
are you suggesting an abortion to her? or adoption? try to stress how putting the child up for adoption would be best. let her know that being so young and not financially stable or in a stable relationship isn't good for a baby and that there are tons of couples who would love to adopt that can provide the loving and stable environment the child needs.
Now i'm really freaking out. I talked to her and she still hasn't taken the test but by the sound of it she's seriously considering keeping it if she is pregnant!!! im turning 19 next month and she's 18 this is basically the worst possible thing that could happen to me right now. I cant take care of this kid and neither can she but she seems to have some crazy idea that she can. I told her how i felt and said that I think having a kid this young in our lives would be a bad idea. and now shes telling me that it's none of my decision!!! somebody help me!
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