Marriage

[K1990]

I would just like to know at what age did you get married and how has the marriage gone?  I am going to be getting married at 19 and all I have heard lately is that young marriages don't last and I think that is why no one is giving me the respect I diserve when I tell them I'm engaged...  I know that this is going to change my life but it is going to be the most wonderful thing in the world.  I have been through a lot as a teenager that has made me realize what life is really all about and I have had to grow up pretty fast and I know that I am deffinantly more mature for my age and I do feel like at this time in my life I am ready for this.  I have known my fiance for a really long time and we started as friends and then turned into best friends before we ever even became involved and by doing that we have no secrets, we have nothing to hide and we are completly open about everything.  There isn't anything that I don't tell him and I am so comfortable with him and can tell him anything and everything.  I honestly do feel like I have found my soul mate and the love of my life.  I feel like in life you only have one "true love" and many people wait a really long time to find theirs but for me... I already found him, why wait if you have your true love because some people wait and wait and it never comes or they passed it up.  I know in my heart that this is all right and everything that I want, and I don't need to convince anyone because I know but it is frustrating how everyone looks at this.  Like I'm not old enough to know what I want or to know exactly what I'm doing.  Why do young marriages have such a bad name, just because some work and some dont... that happens at any age.

[jutov05]

i was 22 her was 25, was 23 when i had our daughter, first year was a bit hard financially after that everything has gone well, happiest as can be

[2boys1princess]

we waited three years to have our first baby.  i was 22...
i think waiting to have a baby was the best thing we did for our marriage!  :-)

[heatherlynn22]

my df and i are getting married this year....he's 23 and i'm 22. we've been together for over 2 years and are expecting our 1st baby (we were already planning a nice small intimate wedding, i get nervous in front of large groups of people so we were forgoing the 350 + person wedding everyone expected and getting married next month) even through the past 2 years we've had our ups and downs but we've gotten through them. we know how to "coexist" with each other peacefully and what to do when the other is mad and are very happy. (he's more so now that i'm pregnant....lol) as long as you're happy, in love and can see yourself with this man for the next 60, 70 or 80 years...go for it!!! sure a lot of young marriages don't work but if you feel you have the mental stability and maturity for it....then that's all that matters!!!

best of lucky to you and congrats on the engagment!!!

[heatherlynn22]

my df and i are getting married this year....he's 23 and i'm 22. we've been together for over 2 years and are expecting our 1st baby (we were already planning a nice small intimate wedding, i get nervous in front of large groups of people so we were forgoing the 350 + person wedding everyone expected and getting married next month) even through the past 2 years we've had our ups and downs but we've gotten through them. we know how to "coexist" with each other peacefully and what to do when the other is mad and are very happy. (he's more so now that i'm pregnant....lol) as long as you're happy, in love and can see yourself with this man for the next 60, 70 or 80 years...go for it!!! sure a lot of young marriages don't work but if you feel you have the mental stability and maturity for it....then that's all that matters!!!

best of lucky to you and congrats on the engagment!!!

[dove3053]

I do think 19 is to young to get married. But in your case you sound mature so I wish you the best. When people tell you that you are too young, I would say that I expected you to wish me the best because I'm not asking for your approval.

Good Luck,

Dove

[babywillowmae]

I got married in June of 04 at 18, miscarriage in July of 06 and we now have a 4 month old daughter.  I got married very young, and my marriage is great, but I will be the first to tell my friends to wait.  It was very hard, and still is.  At 18 you still have no idea who you are, even at 21 I'm still trying to figure that out.  People change, and maybe you'll change and discover that you are not on the same path in life, or want the same things as your spouse.  Why don't you try just living together for a few years, get used to each other, and then make it "legal".  After all, marriage is just a piece of paper, and waiting a few more years won't hurt anyone.  

How old is your fiance?  My husband was 24 when we got married.  Men mature slower than women in most cases, so just keep that in mind.  While he may love to be a boyfriend, being a husband, even though not so different, carries a stigma of a ball and chain.  He may feel tied down.  

I would also wait to have a baby.  Have fun being young, and don't rush.  After my miscarriage we had planned to wait a few years, but accidents happen!!!!  Now that we have her, I wouldn't change it for anything, but it is a huge step in your life.  I am the same about wanting to have kids young, but even if you wait till your 22 or 23, you will still be very young by the time they leave home.

The decision is yours alone, and I wish you the best.  Young marriages can work out, and I would do it again in a heart beat.  But everyone is different.