Mother in law rant!

[Char0987]

25weeks today and feel soooooo bloody emotional, it's my daughters first Xmas and I'm the only one who seems to be trying to get things sorted. Mother in law her partner and grandad are coming round and they have said there coming 'early' but I want to open my presents without them there in the morning as my mum goes over board for all of us at Christmas on me and my boyfriend. And mother in law is the type to get offended as she dosnt have a lot of money she dosnt buy for her son but my mum has. Basically am I wrong to ask them to come around at 12 when they have to leave by 2 to get back to see other family. As they always moan when there round ours normally it's to hot for there dog or its to cold for them. I'm making myself angry thinking about it!! Also have asked them to contribute towards veg and she said they don't have enough money so have to do everything. Also my sister in law said that there only coming because we asked grandad to come and he can't drive! Am I over reacting , cause if I got asked to go to someone's first Xmas I would be so excited especially her first granddaughter!! And want to help a little bit!

[Char0987]

My boyfriend dosnt agree with the way she's being either she's now decided she's not coming at all as her partners son is going round at 4pm so now have a 10lb turkey for three of us! And  she's blocked us all on Fb and not answering her phone.

[RockRose]

I agree with the others,  and want to tell you that if you spend your life comparing your mother positively to your boyfriend's mother,  and put a  lot of "shoulds" and "you'd think she woulds" you'll make yourself and your boyfriend very unhappy.  

Not everyone is focused on their adult children and grandchildren.  

You asked her to bring a vegetable side dish and she refused?  I think maybe in the future just know that she doesn't intend to contribute.  The more gracious you are with her,  the happier your boyfriend will be.

[specialmom]

Okay, honest truth?  I had a baby at Christmas.  Infant.  In all honesty, babies could CARE LESS about Christmas.  One year olds don't get it either.  Save your money.  Now that I have older kids and are scraping together money for x box one system, games that are 50 bucks apiece, etc. . .   I long for the days that they were 'unaware'.  It's a waste of money to go too crazy on babies at Christmas.  :>)  Said from experience.  Save your cash for people that care.  Unless someone is saving you money providing things you might need for the baby, it's  not really all that important.  just my 2 cents as a mom myself.  good luck

[medicmommy88]

Maybe save presents for you and him until after they leave? Let them come early and watch your daughter open presents.

[aaliyah_denisee]

I think Yaull should keep it to where only the babies gifts is the only thing she witness being open. She doesn't have to know that your mother bought her son anything. She's not coming to see you and your boyfriend open gifts she's coming to see the baby