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Okay everyone heres a question I'd like to know what you all think.
My daughter as most of you know is in kindergaten this year. I put her into the public school system. Not the best of choices I have discovered.
Heres what is going on. A couple of 5th graders are picking on her. I am pretty sure it is due to the fact that she is blond hair blue eyed, and thin. These other girls have seemed to pick my daughter out and decided to start giving her a hard time. I found out about this and told my daughter to tell a teacher if it happens again. Well she did, and the teacher did nothing except tell her we need to all be friends. Again these girls are in 5th grade and mine is 5 years old.
We ended up going to a private school this afternoon to see about putting her in there. I am 99% sure that we will do this on Monday. The school she is at has a bullying problem and even the school counselor told me that today when I talked to her.
My question is am I over reacting about this?
One other problem is my daughters teacher is 25 years old, going through a bad divorce and works a night job too. I feel she has too much going on and I don't want it to be at my daughters expense. Then there is also a little boy in her class that has had to switch classes at the school twice this year so far due to behavioral problems. Last thing he did was hit a little girl in class. Good thing it wasn't my daughter.
Alright, so let me have it ladies. Should I put her in the private school where I know there won't be so many problems with bullying. Or should I wait it out and see?
For all that don't know private Christian schools cost about 5000.00 a year where as public is pretty much free. Which my family can handle (no more going out to eat as often though).
My daughter as most of you know is in kindergaten this year. I put her into the public school system. Not the best of choices I have discovered.
Heres what is going on. A couple of 5th graders are picking on her. I am pretty sure it is due to the fact that she is blond hair blue eyed, and thin. These other girls have seemed to pick my daughter out and decided to start giving her a hard time. I found out about this and told my daughter to tell a teacher if it happens again. Well she did, and the teacher did nothing except tell her we need to all be friends. Again these girls are in 5th grade and mine is 5 years old.
We ended up going to a private school this afternoon to see about putting her in there. I am 99% sure that we will do this on Monday. The school she is at has a bullying problem and even the school counselor told me that today when I talked to her.
My question is am I over reacting about this?
One other problem is my daughters teacher is 25 years old, going through a bad divorce and works a night job too. I feel she has too much going on and I don't want it to be at my daughters expense. Then there is also a little boy in her class that has had to switch classes at the school twice this year so far due to behavioral problems. Last thing he did was hit a little girl in class. Good thing it wasn't my daughter.
Alright, so let me have it ladies. Should I put her in the private school where I know there won't be so many problems with bullying. Or should I wait it out and see?
For all that don't know private Christian schools cost about 5000.00 a year where as public is pretty much free. Which my family can handle (no more going out to eat as often though).
I would love to be able to move. The problem with that is the housing market. We wouldn't be able to sell our house, there are about 4 or 5 houses for sell on our street alone.
My husband works in another town that is 20 minutes from where we live. We want to someday be able to move up there because their public schools are great. Their ISTEP scores are about 85%. The issue with that right now is they are going to be building another high school there because people are moving there for the schools, and the schools are over crowded right now. They have the new school going up right now.
Hopefully the housing market will change in a year or so that way we can move. Our house will probably sit for sale and we would have to pay two house payments, and we sure can't do that.
My husband works in another town that is 20 minutes from where we live. We want to someday be able to move up there because their public schools are great. Their ISTEP scores are about 85%. The issue with that right now is they are going to be building another high school there because people are moving there for the schools, and the schools are over crowded right now. They have the new school going up right now.
Hopefully the housing market will change in a year or so that way we can move. Our house will probably sit for sale and we would have to pay two house payments, and we sure can't do that.
Laura, can you move? I live within easy driving distance of about 5 school districts - and each has a very different "flavor" to them. If we moved to a different district, it would cause my husband 15 or so more minutes drive time to and from work, which is nothing when you consider the change you would be making putting her in private school.
Are you in a situation like that? She's still so young she'd adjust well, and you have another one coming right up too. Now is the time to look around and find a better district for their school careers. Are there better districts near you?
Are you in a situation like that? She's still so young she'd adjust well, and you have another one coming right up too. Now is the time to look around and find a better district for their school careers. Are there better districts near you?
The board of education already knows about the problems at hand. They actually fired the old super attendant and brought a new one in because of the troubles.
They are looking into fixing things, but the agenda they have is for the next 8 years. So far I have seen nothing being done.
Actually the super attendants children go to the same school, and I thought for sure it would make it better WRONG!
Our school system is made up of 18 elementary schools, 12 middle schools, and 8 high schools. More then half of the are about to loose funding due to the problems at hand.
It is all over the newspapers all over news that something needs to be done, half the schools scores are so bad that parents are able to send those students to other schools out of their district without having to sign a statement for working mothers.
I am sure the new super attendant will get things straightened up, but gotta say I'm not going to let my daughters education be messed up while we are waiting.
Understand though that we as a family have are going to shut off cell phones, and stop going out so much so that we can afford to put our daughter in this school. We are by no means wealthy, I am a stay at home mom, my husband will pull an extra day over time each month also.
They are looking into fixing things, but the agenda they have is for the next 8 years. So far I have seen nothing being done.
Actually the super attendants children go to the same school, and I thought for sure it would make it better WRONG!
Our school system is made up of 18 elementary schools, 12 middle schools, and 8 high schools. More then half of the are about to loose funding due to the problems at hand.
It is all over the newspapers all over news that something needs to be done, half the schools scores are so bad that parents are able to send those students to other schools out of their district without having to sign a statement for working mothers.
I am sure the new super attendant will get things straightened up, but gotta say I'm not going to let my daughters education be messed up while we are waiting.
Understand though that we as a family have are going to shut off cell phones, and stop going out so much so that we can afford to put our daughter in this school. We are by no means wealthy, I am a stay at home mom, my husband will pull an extra day over time each month also.
Laura - it does sound like you're in a bad school. In our school system, bullying is OUT and you can get suspended for the littlest amount of good-natured teasing among friends.
We are working with a program called Rachel's Challenge that goes even further than to disallow bullying - it teaches kids to look around and actively find ways to be kind. And it's working.
When I was in school, bullying was horrible. I wasn't a victim, I was one of the nameless rabble of silent kids.
Have you seen Christmas Story - about the boy who wants a bb gun? That's the was schools were when I was little, there were bullies who blackened people's eyes regularly and nothing was done about it.
I do have some concerns about private schools. She won't have friends in the neighborhood - she'll be kind of a lonely island of a kid as she grows up. Not in school, but in her neighborhood. I sense you're a big "joiner" - I am too - and she won't grow up with neighbor kids. Maybe that's okay, and maybe you're not heavily invested in your neighborhood.
I did go and look at your picture - and she's a cute little girl. But if she's dressing very differently from all the other little girls - if most of them wear shorts and t-shirts and play shoes, and she is dressed in a very different way, that will make her stand out.
Best wishes. We really have the best of both worlds here - a public school system that rivals private schools.
We are working with a program called Rachel's Challenge that goes even further than to disallow bullying - it teaches kids to look around and actively find ways to be kind. And it's working.
When I was in school, bullying was horrible. I wasn't a victim, I was one of the nameless rabble of silent kids.
Have you seen Christmas Story - about the boy who wants a bb gun? That's the was schools were when I was little, there were bullies who blackened people's eyes regularly and nothing was done about it.
I do have some concerns about private schools. She won't have friends in the neighborhood - she'll be kind of a lonely island of a kid as she grows up. Not in school, but in her neighborhood. I sense you're a big "joiner" - I am too - and she won't grow up with neighbor kids. Maybe that's okay, and maybe you're not heavily invested in your neighborhood.
I did go and look at your picture - and she's a cute little girl. But if she's dressing very differently from all the other little girls - if most of them wear shorts and t-shirts and play shoes, and she is dressed in a very different way, that will make her stand out.
Best wishes. We really have the best of both worlds here - a public school system that rivals private schools.
Even though you are taking your daughter out of that school, if all what you are saying is true, and I have no reason to doubt you, you as well as others need to bring this to the Board of Education. You also need to write your Congressman and Senator about this. Principals and teachers who look the other way need to be replaced or at least get a warning.
What was done to the parents whose 7 year old brought the gun on the school bus? The parents ARE responsible for that. Guns should be locked away when there are little children living in the house.
The problem is to many people don't complain to the appropreate places, but take their kids out of school instead. I'm NOT blaming the parents for doing that, but trust me it would NOT end there with me/us. The Board of Education would hear from me/us. Remember we taxpayers pay for these schools.
As for the "F" word like I said I heard that many times when I walked by that Private School close to our house which is a Catholic School btw. Cussing you can hear in any school.
If the Board of Education is not notified, this mess will keep on going, and other kids will be hurt in the process because these teachers and principals are to lazy, to afraid, to wimpy to do anything about it. Like I said if they can't handle it then look for another job, there are plenty of teachers and principals who could handle it. It would not be the first Public School who got a turn around because a NEW Principal came in and cleaned it up, but if parents stay quiet and don't bring it to the attention of the Board of Education AND to the Congressmen and Senators this stuff will go on. These Politicians want to get elected or re-elected, and you have no idea what power and influence they can have, but they have to be TOLD, in writing. Forget e-mails, they can easily get deleted either on purpose or by accicent, forget phone calls you don't know if your message will be erased or forwarded should you talk to a live person. Send a letter "certified" this way you KNOW somebody signed for it, and that person who signed for it KNOWS she/he better give it to the Senator/Congressman and the appropreate person at the Board of Education.
Complaining and taking kids out of school (the latter I do not blame the parents for) will not get anything accomplished. Parents will keep on taking their kids out of that school, and only kids will be left who either the parents absolutley don't give a damn or kids whose parents just cannot afford a Private School, and these kids have to stay in that school with spineless teachers and principals who are to afraid to say or do something.
What was done to the parents whose 7 year old brought the gun on the school bus? The parents ARE responsible for that. Guns should be locked away when there are little children living in the house.
The problem is to many people don't complain to the appropreate places, but take their kids out of school instead. I'm NOT blaming the parents for doing that, but trust me it would NOT end there with me/us. The Board of Education would hear from me/us. Remember we taxpayers pay for these schools.
As for the "F" word like I said I heard that many times when I walked by that Private School close to our house which is a Catholic School btw. Cussing you can hear in any school.
If the Board of Education is not notified, this mess will keep on going, and other kids will be hurt in the process because these teachers and principals are to lazy, to afraid, to wimpy to do anything about it. Like I said if they can't handle it then look for another job, there are plenty of teachers and principals who could handle it. It would not be the first Public School who got a turn around because a NEW Principal came in and cleaned it up, but if parents stay quiet and don't bring it to the attention of the Board of Education AND to the Congressmen and Senators this stuff will go on. These Politicians want to get elected or re-elected, and you have no idea what power and influence they can have, but they have to be TOLD, in writing. Forget e-mails, they can easily get deleted either on purpose or by accicent, forget phone calls you don't know if your message will be erased or forwarded should you talk to a live person. Send a letter "certified" this way you KNOW somebody signed for it, and that person who signed for it KNOWS she/he better give it to the Senator/Congressman and the appropreate person at the Board of Education.
Complaining and taking kids out of school (the latter I do not blame the parents for) will not get anything accomplished. Parents will keep on taking their kids out of that school, and only kids will be left who either the parents absolutley don't give a damn or kids whose parents just cannot afford a Private School, and these kids have to stay in that school with spineless teachers and principals who are to afraid to say or do something.
rockrose -
I wasn't really wanting to go here with this conversation, but you know what you state about little girls not finding younger girls to pick on isn't facts.
What these girls are doing is seeing my daughter with fancy nice pink bows in her hair and that she is well dressed and it's almost like its a jealousy issue with these girls.
I have stated that I have seen the access the school gives these older kids to the younger kids, in fact I watched it yesterday during popcorn time.
I talked to the cafe teacher and she was saying what a nice pleasant well mannered little girl my daughter is. She then stated that the "problem kids" have started picking on my child and that it happens alot with the little kids just because they are little.
The thing is I am only 29 and I don't expect to realize how bad the school systems are getting because they are worse then 10 years ago.
I wasn't really wanting to go here with this conversation, but you know what you state about little girls not finding younger girls to pick on isn't facts.
What these girls are doing is seeing my daughter with fancy nice pink bows in her hair and that she is well dressed and it's almost like its a jealousy issue with these girls.
I have stated that I have seen the access the school gives these older kids to the younger kids, in fact I watched it yesterday during popcorn time.
I talked to the cafe teacher and she was saying what a nice pleasant well mannered little girl my daughter is. She then stated that the "problem kids" have started picking on my child and that it happens alot with the little kids just because they are little.
The thing is I am only 29 and I don't expect to realize how bad the school systems are getting because they are worse then 10 years ago.
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