My fiancée's family

[4EVERDK]

I just became engaged to the love of my life and the man of my dreams.  We have been dating for a year and 2 months and have been wonderful, close friends for over 4 years.  I was hospitalized and very sick for over 4 months about 8 months ago and it was then that I really realized that life wont go on without him.  Anyways i'm having a really hard time being around his family.  His parents speak spanish at home to him and his three brothers and only speak english to me.  I understand that his parents want to speak it at home because it's their background but I hate it because I have no idea what they are ever talking about and I know my fiancée would tell me if it was anything about me or whatever but I hate it.  I have only eatten dinner with them once and don't want again now because I sat there and ate while they all talked but I had no idea what was said and then all of a sudden when they wanted to talk to me they would switch to english then go back to spanish.  We are going to Mexico for Christmas this year and I am not looking forward to it at all because I will be excluded like always.  I am only doing it and sacraficing my holiday for my fiancée because I love him and we wont be able to go back for a while because we will be starting a family soon and he hasn't been in several years.  I just dont know what to do about this, do I tell my fiancée how I feel eventhough he gets upset or what?

[mami2karina]

LMAO at you girls!  I think we scared her off!  And your right 2boys1princess!  If she had any clue about their culture and heritage she'd wanna be Mexican too!  Sometimes I wish I had the opportunity to have grown up there.  It's a wonderful country and I enjoyed my time there very much.  I'm hoping to go back soon.  One day I'd love to live there.  And peek that's hilarious!

[peekawho]

I think she now believes that she's the only white girl on Medhelp!  

[2boys1princess]

your previous post was written beautifully!!   :-)   more power to you!
that's right! nothing wrong to be mexican... soy muy orgullosa de ser Mexicana!!! es mas, si supiera el valor que tenemos, hasta ella quiesiera ser Mexicana (in fact, if she only knew the what a mexican is worth, you'll want to be Mexican, too.)

hmmm... i wonder why she hasn't responded... could it be that her b/f is not legal after all?? did she send him off to Mexico??   LOL!

[mami2karina]

Thank you, thank you.  And I'm just a "white girl".  So that goes to prove that learning Spanish can be done.  I have NO Mexican roots what so ever and it amazes people when they hear me speak!  And be proud of your race!  There is nothing wrong with being Mexican.  This is an arguement I have frequently with my family.  I do not want my dd or my ds on the way to be ashamed of the fact that they are Mexican, it's something to be proud of!

[TMB1975]

That was awesome!!, Unfortunately I doubt that she will even take the time or initiative to try and figure it out. ** Me da gusto que mucha gente respondio a este post de esta nina, por que eso quire decir que mucha gente en este pais no son de mente cerrada.** I take pride in the fact that I was born in the United States and have the opportunity to take advantage of all that  this wonderful country has to offer! But I also take pride in the fact that I am mexican and even though I disagree with little miss know it all, that does not mean that I do not like this country and that every now and then when I run into ignorant people like her it will certainly not be enough to make me want to"back to Mexico" as she clearly advised we should do. Ladies thank you for being such wonderful, open minded human beings. I know that we judged this young lady (4everdk) on her ignorant remarks and statements, but she will eventually learn the hard way. This will be my last post regarding this issue . Till then ladies talk to you on another post.  

[mami2karina]

Thanks hun!  I'm a youngin'.  I married my ex-dh when I was 17.  But anyways.  4everdk you are a very closeminded person.  First of all if he truly is the "love of your life" as you keep stating what does his legal status have to do with it?  Are you going to love him any less if you find out he is illegal?  That's just stupid.  I'm probably gonna get **** for that, but seriously if you love him it shouldn't matter one way or the other.  Now for a Spanish lesson and a life lesson all wrapped into one.  Eres MUY ignorante.  Tu novio merece una mujer MUCHO mejor que tu.  Que mereces, pues no se que mereces.  Pero el hombre que tienes debe de buscar otra mujer, y PRONTO.  Vienes a preguntar por ayudar pero no quieres escuchar lo te dicen.  Eso quiere dicir que tienes la mente cerrada y no eres madura.  Supuestamente eres un adulto que puede hacer lo que quiere.  Pero no te importa en la felicidad de tu novio.  Tu quieres lo que tu quieres cuando tu quieres y no importas si estas haciendo dano a tu novio y su familia.  Y otra cosa, si le haces tomar una decision-tu o su familia, vas a perder pendeja!  La familia SIEMPRE viene antes de la mujer.  Si sabias algo de su cultura ni preguntaras eso.  Okay, I'm done for now.  You seriously if you wanna know what it says, ask your fiancee or a member of his family, you might be pleasantly surprised as to their reaction!  Un reaccion de felicidad porque van a saber exactamente lo que eres!