My mistake - or boyfriends?

[shenanigans87]

The background first:  We've been together just under 2 years.  We moved in together a little over a month ago.  We have had a rocky history but have justified it with the passion we have in between fights.

Recently he suggested we consider a threesome to try and spice things up (we had both always been interested in sexual experimentation).  I wasn't really in love with the idea, but figured I'd look into it a bit before I ruled it out.  I made a post on craigslist, just hoping to feel out what type of people are out there and if any seemed "normal".  A few of the replies seemed nice enough so I replied with a couple basic questions and a G-rated picture of us together.  I told my boyfriend when he got home, and he got really mad at me.

Granted, I know it was a stupid mistake on my part to send the picture.  Hell, it was a mistake to even make a post on craigslist about something that I wasn't 100% comfortable with.  But now my boyfriend is extremely pissed at me.  He has called me stupid, slutty, a piece of s#$@...  you get the idea.  I know I screwed up, but I really don't think I deserve this language.  He's also making me sleep upstairs because he doesn't want to be near me.  I'm just really crushed that lately he has found it okay to say such derogatory things to me.  This isn't the first fight where it's happened.

I love him, but cannot think of a way for him to realize how much he is hurting me short of breaking up with him.  I do not want to end this relationship even the slightest, but it is making it really hard to live with him.  Does anyone have any advice for me?

[shadowserpent]

its actually not true. threesomes dont all turn out bad and can be quite enjoyable if the people in it really want it and espiecilly are secure enough in there relationship to understand its a fling and not get emotionally attached to the third person. this is more common than most people care to beleiev, but there are tons of folks enjoying a threesome and then going on there very normal lives with relationships strongly intact=)
im guessing and agreeing he freaked on you not because you were researching but because he had someone in mind already. which in my mind says something bad about him. usually if they already have someoen in mind and arent willing to let you take a word into the whole "picking out" process than his feelings for this woman may be more than just lust.
him delegating you to another room show signs of a guilty consience! watch him well!
most guys who have been crazy happy that you actually took his sexual fantasy seriously... the fact he wigged out shows somethings wrong with him. not you.

[Can_U_Help]

Oh...now I get it. Sorry guess I was a little slow catching on to this (LOL). But it does make sense, he got mad because he had already been scoping. He knew who he wanted to partake in this sexual experimentation and he was probably just scoping you out to see if you would even entertain the idea before he through out the name of his secret obsession. Or could be he didn't have anyone in mind and was just considering it and wanted to get your reaction. But I've thought about this a little more and if your very honest with yourself, do you really think that if you have qualms about this, a little nervous or whatever that maybe you really should take a little more time to really consider if this is a sexual exploration that you REALLY want to try out. Seems to me if your first instinct was no, you must have some moral or something that doesn't want you to do this. Sorry I mean no offense I just have no desire to and would never do anything that would jeopardize my morals within myself, it has nothing to do with anyone else it's all about me, but I sure mean absolutely no disrespect to those who do, to each his own.

[msgorgeous]

ive never been in a threesome but from my really good friend i know they dont turn out to be threesomes you end up getting left out and then the other two began to see each other more and more etc. its just a way to get the other girl that hes been wanting to have sex with and if you agreed to the 3some then you basically giving him permission

[treazzure007]

oh, now i get it!  after a few moments i realized that it's a possibility that he didn't want YOU scoping out anything.  he's already got the girl in mind

[treazzure007]

im confused
did he want the darned threesome or not

[jo929]

sorry i thought you said you sent some pictures, and i still think 2 is a couple and three is a crowd, anyway all in all ,it does not sound like he wants you around, also you say he makes you sleep elsewhere, no one can make you do anything you dont want to do, and if he does not want you around leave and good luck  jo