Boyfriend Question !

[Rlm114]

So one of my boyfriends best friends is leaving for the military at the end of this month, and my boyfriend of 2 years (also my baby's father) wants to go to the strip club with him and a few friends before he leaves .. I'm not sure how I feel about this , I know you can't touch on them and stuff, but  I don't know how I feel about a girl shaking her a** all in his face ... How would you ladies feel about  your boyfriend/significant other going out to the strip club ?

[jordyvi0824]

See here's the thing for me he informed you about it he could have easily just been like oh were going to dinner and gone behind your back! I would let my fiancé go and I know he probably will for his bachelor party and I'll definitely be going for my bachelorette party!! Lol it's up to you if it makes you uncomfortable then don't let him go. But unless you go out with them you are going to have no way of knowing if he goes or not

[oliviachae]

I think if he decided to just go alone or randomly go with a friend then that's different but since his friend planned it as his going away party that's obviously what his friend wants to do. I don't think you should make his friend and everyone change their plans to going somewhere else just because you are not comfortable with it. You say that you trust him so I would say just suck it up for one night and trust him to make the right choice and have a good time before his friend leaves.

[ciaramarieg]

I trust my boyfriend, but no i wouldnt let him go lol

[DiamondBee]

I wouldn't let it happen

[karencitax3]

Its crazy how many of you girls accept this. I definitely will not allow my man to go to any strip club. I don't care for who or for what. Its so disrespectful smhh

[MommyOfMandA]

I completely agree with the respect issue if he were going by himself. If he's going by himself, it means he is the one who wants to do it and you know he would be only there for the women, but if it is with a group that contains single men, I feel it is different. In a group, he may only be going to spend time with the group and the night will be focused on them. I know my husband would not go to the strip club alone, but if it is for a group and is planned by single men or to celebrate a single guy, it's makes sense. A lot of single men haven't calmed down and settled down yet so that's what their idea of fun is, especially if they aren't old enough to go to a bar like the poster said. But as I said in my other comment, you need to talk to him about it because you probably want to know how he feels about it.

[BSny20]

I don't see how some of you ladies think it is a trust issue? It's more of a respect issue. I would not allow my husband to go to a strip club. Nor would he even ask. Strip clubs are for single people! Not for those married or in a relationship. It's wrong to me.

[MommyOfMandA]

I have let my husband go to the strip club before. Once was for his friend's 18th birthday and another time for some other celebration. I don't have a problem with it at all, but on both ocassions, I had him call or text me every hour or so. First of all, I agree with many of the comments. If he was going to cheat, he would not need your permission, and it would not have to be at a strip club. He could cheat with any girl anytime so thinking he will cheat at a strip club is not too different from thinking he will cheat at work or when he says he's at the store. If you don't think he would, then why would he there? Also, if he told you about it, I doubt he would cheat. I feel like if he was planning on doing that, or even considering it, he wouldn't have even told you he was going there. I think either way, you should sit down with him and have a calm conversation telling him why you're worried and see what his side of it is so you two can decide together so neither is mad at the other.

[ash060115]

I don't even know of stripclubs near me... but reading all the comments I see you've a tough decision.
I can't comment on strip clubs because I dunno what they like.. but I'll tell you this... if your boyfriend would cheat he will cheat wethr its a strip club or arranged over Facebook it will happen. If he's loyal he will be loyal everywhere.

[oct3014]

I agree it's a whole trust thing, if ppl are so worried that their man will give into that temptation that is thrown in their face then that's a trust issue. I would let my man go I would also go with him but it couldn't be no run down place with sloppy girls lol. As for strippers they are not all bad like a lot of you are making them seem like. Some of them are like you and I just trying to put food in their kids mouth and pay bills the quickest way they know how. We dnt know their story so technically no one can judge them. Yea there are some who are out there and will do anything (groupies), but they aren't all like that some just see it as a "9 to 5" just like us.

[vaniazarate]

I personally don't let my husband go.... to me it's very disrespectful.... why not just do things like that with me? Like he can give me the money and I'll dance for him lol....

[zahra_n]

I would never let my husband go. Of course I trust him, but you never know what will happen and he only brings himself closer to temptation and therefor your relationship ay risk. Next to that my husband and I are against paying any amount of cash or attention that is about exploitation of a females body or attributes.  basically the purpose of strippers is to bring men in temptation, and men love it, or else they wouldnt go.
And you can be sure he will have certain thoughts about her during that night and maybe others.
I couldnt live with that thought. you chose to be with one women, than dont fantasize about or touch others.
If he wants to look at ladies, he can do that on the streets as there are enough with shorts that look nice but they will be no threat,, but strippers are whole other level.

Just do as you please and do what feels best for you, dont allow it iut of guilt, you will only regret.

This is just my opinion, not judging

[DesireeBocanegra]

At the end of the day the bigger thing is trust. If he has your trust let him do this one thing ifhe lost your trust in the past for something then yo have all  right not.to let him

[MrsAmySanchez]

Lol see, cause strippers arnt exactly women with boundaries..and when men are in those types of environments they tend to think with the "wrong head" ha..I try not to be but im a jealous type anyway so when we were dating he couldn't even smoke a cigarette outside alone lol

[titan_nation]

If you can't trust him, then you shouldn't be with him. Men are gonna look at other women whether it's in a strip club or on the street. Let them have their space. A cheater is gonna cheat with or without you giving him the room to. Let him have fun and enjoy being with his friend. His friend especially deserves it.

[OctoberBaby5]

Some strippers will actually slep around with anyone just for the hell of it.. I know at least two friends whose bfs cheated at the stip club they left with the stripers lol

[MrsAmySanchez]

I can't believe how many women are ok with that lol I would never allow that..but my husband and I are Christians and we raise our kids in a Christian household which includes mommy and daddy staying out of strip clubs..even before we gave our lives to Christ I would of flipped if he even asked me, thats not a place for a married man or a father..just my opinion

[Layapooh18]

Well I would let him go and if you think he'll do all that extra stuff with the ladys then you guys need a stronger relationship. With trust!

[Shansmoon]

My husband is still allowed to go to strip clubs and stuff I allow it cause I know I'm the only girl he wants

[DesireeBocanegra]

Compromise . .let him go but dot let him spend a bunch so he dowsn have enough forthwith back rooms have him text you or Cal you eery so often.and have him home at a reasonable time

[Monicaaa_romeo]

I would not let my husband go to a strip club. No matter who and why they are going i don't care. They can just go to a simple dinner or anything else.

[MommaD11]

Agree ^

[BabyEzzy]

I wouldn't want my boyfriend to go. I think it's very disrespectful. But it's your decision. And if you decide to let him go, but are constantly worrying and wondering what's going on while he's there then that isn't going to be good for you or baby. And he should be understanding of that. There's plenty of other things they can do before he leaves.

[tattedmommy2be]

Ask him if that's really what he wants to do while you're at home pregnant with his child & feeling disrespected