I have dated a man for the last two years.....we started out as the best of friends, with some pretty great conversations, good times "hanging out". My shoulder was there for him to cry on when his girlfriend left him, totally ripped his heart out. I moved out of state for 6 months for work, and we talked every day, IM'd and video-chatted, he came to visit me and I came back twice in that 6 months to stay with him. When I moved back, I moved in...but right before I came back, his ex girlfriend came back into his life, and he slept with her. Technically, at that time, we were not together, so I let it slide...until she told him in December that she thought she was pregnant. Which was a lie...even if she was pregnant, there is no doubt (medically) that it was not his. So here I am, living in his home, and he's got this hanging over his head. So, I told him he needed to take care of it and moved out. But I was still there for him, to talk to, etc, which he did. Then, he told me it was over with her on 12/26/06 and we got back together on New Year's 2007. I found out that night that he did sleep with her one more time, between these two dates, and it kind of wrecked me. Our relationship went downhill from there...communication stopped. We spent all our time together, but he was already in that "comfortable, I have someone here with me" stage, and I was still in the first stages of the relationship, needing affection, communication, etc. It didn't get any better, and the friendship deteriorated as well, until November of this year (yes, I tried). I got fed up, and I talked to him, laid it all on the line. He told me he loved me, he cared for me, but he was not IN love with me...and I know I deserve more. He'd also stated that he would never get back with his ex....and our relationship has improved tremendously. We talk more, we have more fun, I call him on his **** now, not so diplomatically as I did before...and now he's also talking to his ex. I honestly believe I can be just friends with him, but what we had in our relationship colors how he thinks of me, and he doesn't understand that I feel more free and open with him now. Can we really be "just friends" which is my wish, and his fervent desire, or should I just get the hell out?