ok - whether or not he tells her, he may or may not still do it again. i'm not saying he DEFINATELY will. as for being sincere, we will never know. only he knows that. he should be allowed to make up for his behavior if she gives hima second chance - sure. BUT - the way i see it, if you truly loved someone, you wouldn't have done it in the first place. that everyone makes mistakes bit is a little too overused imo. a mistake is like, oops, i picked up the wrong kind of juice at the store or oops - thought you said dinner was at 7:00, not 6:00. ya know? i can't see cheating as a "mistake", especially if your married. its not like their 14 and he kissed another girl at a party. i think he should absolutely tell his wife and if she chooses to give him a second chance - good for him, i hope he makes the best of it. if she chooses to leave him - then good - he deserves it.
I wondered when you were going to show up
Once a cheater is always a cheater.....
That's okay. I thought maybe my post was confusing.
Heck I feel sorry if my husband cheated on me in real life, I know how I get mad at him when he cheats in my dreams. hehehehe
Whether he tells his wife or not he could still cheat again, just because he tells her does not mean he will feel he has a license to continue cheating. He does seem sincere in his desire to change his ways. Shouldn't he be allowed to make up for his hurtful behavior as best as he can? People make mistakes, some worse than others. And yes marriages can survive and thrive even after infidelity but it takes work. If you truly love someone it is possible to look past your own pride and forgive although it takes time and is very hard to do.