Should I have any hope?

[mr.lucky66]

I met a lovely woman last spring after just moving to cen. Fl We are both middle aged, she being 6 years younger. We had both been single for years before getting together and quickly became inseperable and I was sleeping over most nights. After about 3 months I did something that she couldn't accept and she broke  it off. She also did some things I didn't like but we had what I thought was true love. We still talk and even get together for lunch once in a while as we both go to the same church. She says for me not to think of us going back together but I can't help it even though I think I've accepted it. One beginns to doubt how many more chances one will have in the 50's and that's why I ask what all you people think.

[mr.lucky66]

I thank you for your responses and think you both are correct. It was great for a while but there were some serious problems. We still are freindly and I'm glad about that. She was a very strong willed dominant woman which is good in some ways, but I think it was a problem. I just am sad that I found someone who was really attractive to me and we got along most times but there were quirks or we both had baggage. Who doesn't by middle age? I hope to fing someone else in 08' and am worried because I aging am will loose my appeal in these next few years. I know, there no rush but I don't want to wait as long for the next opportunity as I did for this one. all the best

[slow_healer]

As people get older they tend to acquire more baggage - I think we can all agree on that. Whatever it was you did, she may have decided long ago from an entirely different experience that this was a dealbreaker. Unfortunately for you, that means no second chance. Unless she's willing to re-think her opinion on this, leave it as her baggage and don't let it become yours. Whatever happened use your own instincts to determine whether or not it was forgiveable, and invariably, move on. Mayflowers is right in that once a person has made up their mind, it's unlikely to go back anyhow. Good luck!

[mayflowers]

I do believe that love can be found at any age...and 50's are young these days. Happens all the time actually.  From the sound of it, and since she has said that you shouldn't think there is a chance of getting back together, you are better off moving on and finding someone else.  Once a person has made up their mind that someone is not for them, it rarely ever goes back the other way.  Just save yourself some time and move on to another lady.  You don't want to waste your energy and time on someone who doesn't want to date you.  That's just foolish.  There are other women out there....just position yourself to meet them.  Good luck!