I understand Your concerns based on Your history and experience but, that (don't we all?) a sensitive, caring partner - but it sounds like He meets that criteria.
I fail to understand Your fear of being "too tight". You are a mature Woman who has had Children. You cannot be "tighter" than an "original" virgin who has never had Children, So, if You have a loving, caring, M A T U R E partner, who knows and understands Your concerns, then I see nothing short of a Wonderful and Beautiful Union. With onset of menopause be prepared to use a Vaginal Moisturizer such as "Replense".
Go Forth and Enjoy!!
Hi there. I agree. I don't think you will have physical barriers to sex. I would make sure that you have some artificial lubricant as menopausal women can at times need this 'help'. (just now seeing that tink above also mentioned this! sorry for the repeat).
Good luck and glad you are 'trying' again. I hope that you've had some therapy after the last abusive relationship.
Thankyou for advice. I read about the tightness and thought it strange. My new partner knows my history and know I dont like being thought of as a victim. I have never sought counselling, just done a lot of reading, reflecting and evaluation. My partner knows I am nervous and has booked a weekend away so that we can concentrate on each other without kids, pets, phone calls.
Thanks again. I think life is amazing.
Your partner is sensitive and caring - that's #1 - so, we've got that covered.
#2 Menopause can create a "difference" as the walls of the v a g i n a can become "thinner" at that stage of our lives. So, "arm" YourSelf with a nice little product by KY - it's called "replense" and You will be fine!! (don't put it under Your arm, put it "you know where".
I'm happy for You!!