Hello again. I recently posted a question on this board about a month ago:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Relationships/New-guybut-Im-skeptical/show/1592763#post_7235971
I'm still seeing the same guy, and we've been dating now for over 2 months. Things have been progressing, and we've finally started meeting each other's friends. I talked to him about the planning issue, other things I explained in my previous post. Since then, most things have gotten better, and I can tell he really is trying to make a better effort towards our relationship.
However, now I'm wondering what's going on with him sexually. I admit I felt we moved things a bit fast in the beginning and I suggested we slow things down. Things didn't really slow down much initially but now they have. His work schedule has really calmed down, and we've been spending more time together during the week/weekends. In the beginning, we were really only sleeping together on the weekends, because we didn't see each other much during the week. Yesterday, he texted me while I was at work, and asked to meet him for lunch so that I could meet his best friend. We had a great time - he was also pretty affectionate in front of his friend. We hung out at his place last night, and he was super affectionate...more than he's ever been with me. We've been intimate usually about 2 - 4 times a week, but the past 3 weeks or so, I feel I've had to initiate more often. I voiced my concern this past weekend, and he said that when we do have sex, it's never a short session (which is true) and sometimes he's really tired at work the next day, but said he's always in the mood. He has sleep apnea, and just had a sleep study done last week so maybe that's part of it? I know he's not a heavy sleeper like me, and sometimes he doesn't sleep much at all.
Every time we do have sex, it's incredible and he never has problems staying erect or finishing. Sometimes, we do it more than once a day. We've stayed together 4 nights since last Thursday, but the past 2 times we've stayed together we haven't had sex. I thought for sure last night it would happen, since he was kissing me and touching me more than usual, and it seems the relationship is progressing in other ways. He cuddled/kissed me for a long time last night before falling asleep, but I still felt frustrated. When I got up to leave this morning, he said "I wish you didn't have to go to work so much earlier than me."
When we do sleep together, he wants to cuddle the entire night - whether we have sex or not. He said he'd be offended if I rolled to the other side of the bed. He also told me if I initiate sex, he'll never turn me down, but I want him to initiate sometimes too. I know that he was a virgin until he was in his mid-20s. He's 34 now, and his last relationship lasted a year, and he told me he never slept with her. Before we slept together, he told me he would much rather cuddle, and connecting on that level is just as important as sex. He also told me he's had several relationships without sex, and he would still be dating me if I had decided not to sleep with him.
I don't know what to think - I'm really not sure if he's having some kind of medical issue, or if he's trying to take things a little slower, but I wish he would've talked me about it first. I'm glad he's not just with me for sex, but it's a little strange when he just starts withholding for some reason. Why would he do this while becoming more affectionate and wanting to hang out more often?
Some people rather be dominated in bed then be the one dominating. He has already shared with you about how he is and has been about sex in the past.
Combined with Sleep Apnea and a work schedule, I am surprised you all are having sex as much as you have had. Does he use a CPAP for his Sleep Apnea? Patients with Sleep Apea suffer from daytime drowsiness alot. Combined this with long sessions of "hot sex" almost every night, hmmmm, I think you get the point.
My husband was the same way, however, we didn't get intimate until 4 months into our relationship. I just accepted how he was. Over time it seemed my husband was more "in the mood" in the early morning hours vs. night. So, perhaps you could try switching up the time of day keeping in mind your work schedules of course.
I think he is just so comfortable with you to be who he really is.