Should I keep it?

[havemercyplease]

I met a guy in late Nov. he was a really great guy except he had a girlfriend. He told me that upfront. I would ask him about getting to know me better, he told me he didnt see me that way. I would constanly beg him to come over, he would always tell me no. OK one night he was drunk he came over, we had sex. He told me it was a mistake, and he was wrong for being there. i told him not to worry, that i was on the pill and i wasnt trying to have kids with him. i have two kids already.

I found out i was pregnant. i told him that. he begged me to not have this child. I told him that i liked the way he begged. I also told him that i was with someone new yrs eve and someone after i got with him.  i want to have this kid but he is begging me not too. i told him i would have the abortion, i then changed my mind and now hes freaking out. i always wanted a son. i joked with him and said if he would marry me i would have the abortion, he didnt think that was funny. he was talking about committing suicide and i told him if he did that i would be at his funeral to get his DNA so i could get my money. he never lied to me about his relationship and he didnt dog me out. i told him he didnt use me, and my intentions were to sleep with him to get him to leave his girlfriend. he doesnt call me anymore, and the third guy i was with changed his number.

whenever i do talk to him he sounds so disgusted to talk with me, i guess because he has no choice in the matter, and i told him that based on my past experiences i dont care about mens feelings. he doesnt have any kids either so this would be his first.

what do you guys think?

[chellybeans]

you sound absolutely insane. you cannot use sex to manipulate people. you knew he was involved, you knew he was not interested and yet you moved in when he was in a weak minded state and tried to steal him from someone he loves. yes, he is at fault to. bet he wishes he had lost your number long ago. before you went "fatal attraction" on him!

i feel really bad for your children as they are learnng from everything you do. they are like sponges soaking in all of this nasty behavior. you ARE toying with this man's mind and his life.

in my opinion, which is all i have to give you on a forum, this baby should be placed up for adoption. you do not sound at all mentally stable and capable of parenting in any sound manner.

i will pray, but for your children. they had no choice in this situation you seem to think is fun to force on people.

[pertykitty]

if you have a 14 yr old child you definatly have issues. this is the way a teenager might behave not a 30something yr old. having a child so you wont be lonely is rediculous. get a puppy or a cat. i dont think you should spread yourself too thin,,, i dont think it would work well for you.

[bip]

I agree with you I didn't even think of that give it up for adoption. I  have 2 handsome boyz and they are my number 1 I try my best to take care of them. They are bestfriend would not to know what to do without them. I just hope she makes the right choice I think if you don't want  kids don't have sex  the safest way to go.

[havemercyplease]

Yeah i know i just turned 34, and i have two daughters. I shouldnt have played with his mind. I think he lost his job from stressing over this. I just dont know what to say to him. My  due date is 0ct 16th and it doesnt point to him, i am just afraid to call him because i know he is really upset, thanks for your words

[peekawho]

This is what I mean, ya'll.  There ARE worse things than abortion.

[bip]

Just don't worry about him. Worry about  you and your kids. Your kids come before  anyone. Ihave 2 boyz and married and believe me I take them over him.

best of luck