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Should I keep it?
I met a guy in late Nov. he was a really great guy except he had a girlfriend. He told me that upfront. I would ask him about getting to know me better, he told me he didnt see me that way. I would constanly beg him to come over, he would always tell me no. OK one night he was drunk he came over, we had sex. He told me it was a mistake, and he was wrong for being there. i told him not to worry, that i was on the pill and i wasnt trying to have kids with him. i have two kids already.
I found out i was pregnant. i told him that. he begged me to not have this child. I told him that i liked the way he begged. I also told him that i was with someone new yrs eve and someone after i got with him. i want to have this kid but he is begging me not too. i told him i would have the abortion, i then changed my mind and now hes freaking out. i always wanted a son. i joked with him and said if he would marry me i would have the abortion, he didnt think that was funny. he was talking about committing suicide and i told him if he did that i would be at his funeral to get his DNA so i could get my money. he never lied to me about his relationship and he didnt dog me out. i told him he didnt use me, and my intentions were to sleep with him to get him to leave his girlfriend. he doesnt call me anymore, and the third guy i was with changed his number.
whenever i do talk to him he sounds so disgusted to talk with me, i guess because he has no choice in the matter, and i told him that based on my past experiences i dont care about mens feelings. he doesnt have any kids either so this would be his first.
what do you guys think?
I found out i was pregnant. i told him that. he begged me to not have this child. I told him that i liked the way he begged. I also told him that i was with someone new yrs eve and someone after i got with him. i want to have this kid but he is begging me not too. i told him i would have the abortion, i then changed my mind and now hes freaking out. i always wanted a son. i joked with him and said if he would marry me i would have the abortion, he didnt think that was funny. he was talking about committing suicide and i told him if he did that i would be at his funeral to get his DNA so i could get my money. he never lied to me about his relationship and he didnt dog me out. i told him he didnt use me, and my intentions were to sleep with him to get him to leave his girlfriend. he doesnt call me anymore, and the third guy i was with changed his number.
whenever i do talk to him he sounds so disgusted to talk with me, i guess because he has no choice in the matter, and i told him that based on my past experiences i dont care about mens feelings. he doesnt have any kids either so this would be his first.
what do you guys think?
I think the guy is a user and he dosen't want no responiblity of his child. I think if men don't want a child don't have sex cause it's a chance of getting a girl pregant. Any guy ever told me to get abortion I would never ever talk to them in my life and when I have the baby I would make them support there child. That's a baby. doesn't he understand you would be killing a baby. some reason he wants his way out. You do the best for you and your baby. You can do it without him. I know you were saying you have other children. Im sure your a good mom. Get rid of him you don't need a guy to tell you to get a abortion. That must hurt your feelings. please make the right choice keep the baby and tell him to go.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!
I told him that i was going to have the abortion, but i then changed my mind. Then he started freaking out. I told him that i have had an abortion before. He tells me that i am playing with his mind. But i dont really care about his feelings, i dont even know him that well.
we had casual conversations before, and he told me of how he wanted a normal family and no kids out of wedlock and things of that nature. like i said he didnt lead me on to believing that he would be with me. I knew what i was getting into. I told him that i want to have this kid so i would never be lonely. he begged so much for me not to have this kid, he didnt try to force me, i just really didnt care about what he said. i told him he didnt have to be involved and for him not to tell anyone. i also told him im used to men not being there. my first kid i cheated on my boyfriend and got pregnant by someone else, and my second kid the guy had a girlfriend that i knew about and i got pregnant by him too, so this isnt new to me. its new to him because he doesnt have any kids and has never gotten anyone pregnant. he shouldnt have came over my house drunk lol.
this is a joke. not a great one either. nobody can be this....well i hope there are no rabbits around this acorn!! maybe its vato's girlfriend.
no actually its not a joke, i am just trying to make light of this situation because i am really confused. I just hate that i am in this situation again. i really dont know what to do. please dont judge me.
I think what you should do just have this child and get rid of. I know it's easy said than done but the guy sounds like a loser. Please don't have the abortion you will regret this for the rest of your life. Im sure your smart.
Jesus Christ!!!! Have you ever seeing a psychiatrist? Do not get offended by this. It's just that, in case you are telling the truth, this is not a normal behavior. Why would you want to get yourself into that type of situation?
." i told him i would have the abortion, i then changed my mind and now hes freaking out. i always wanted a son. i joked with him and said if he would marry me i would have the abortion, he didnt think that was funny. he was talking about committing suicide and i told him if he did that i would be at his funeral to get his DNA so i could get my money. "
does this sound like a sane person to you???? its only part of the crazyness you have said. i cant imagine any man saying he would commit suicide over this, but hey maybe you two were made for each other. i think rather than a public forum you need a mental health hosp. normal people just dont act this way.
does this sound like a sane person to you???? its only part of the crazyness you have said. i cant imagine any man saying he would commit suicide over this, but hey maybe you two were made for each other. i think rather than a public forum you need a mental health hosp. normal people just dont act this way.
I can't belive it I just read your post again you had a abortion before. How could you do that to yourself? That is why this guy is saying this to you he thinks you will have a abortion again. Don't tell guys you had abortion. I hope you think twice and keep this baby it is not the babies fault this happened.
Okay, first of all, yes, keep the baby and don't have an abortion. Abortion is murder (although I know certain others will strongly disagree...barn babe, you around? :-) ).
Now, I just have to get this out--sorry if it's harsh. You sound like a real piece of work, havemercyplease. You have two children by two different fathers, and now this one, with yet different man. Have you no respect for yourself, your kids, and men? Anyone?
You desperately try to get a man that's taken and has no interest in you, then you take advantage of him when he's drunk (I'm in no way defending him, but you posted this, so this is about you). Then you go and tell him that you slept around with, what, two other guys, so you don't even know if the baby is his?
I don't care how stupid this guy was to get himself involved with you; the fact that you say stuff like, "i liked the way he begged," "i joked with him and said if he would marry me i would have the abortion, he didnt think that was funny," "i would be at his funeral to get his DNA so i could get my money," that's all manipulative and shallow on your part.
If you're used to men letting you down in life, and you don't trust them, you don't care about their feelings, and you expect them to not be there for you and your children, then why on earth did you tell this guy you were pregnant and then mess with his emotions? You could've just never told him...what difference would it make with you?
And another thing--you want another kid so you'll never be lonely? Well, where are the two kids you have now? On top of that, you want a son?! You don't respect or like men, it sounds like, and you want a son? Why--so you can use and manipulate him when he gets older? Of course, if he's raised under your care, I suppose he'll be used to conniving, manipulating women that will treat him with the utmost disrespect in his future.
You don't want to be judged? Get some decent morals, for your sake and your children's. You all deserve better, and it starts with you. I don't know what your story is for playing with men's emotions, but for goodness sake, get a grip, wake up and realize that men are just as human as you are, emotions and all. Start treating them with respect, along with yourself by no longer putting yourself in these "abandoned by men" positions anymore, and your life will start looking up.
Do this for yourself and your three children. Like I said, you all deserve so much better, and it starts with you.
Now, I just have to get this out--sorry if it's harsh. You sound like a real piece of work, havemercyplease. You have two children by two different fathers, and now this one, with yet different man. Have you no respect for yourself, your kids, and men? Anyone?
You desperately try to get a man that's taken and has no interest in you, then you take advantage of him when he's drunk (I'm in no way defending him, but you posted this, so this is about you). Then you go and tell him that you slept around with, what, two other guys, so you don't even know if the baby is his?
I don't care how stupid this guy was to get himself involved with you; the fact that you say stuff like, "i liked the way he begged," "i joked with him and said if he would marry me i would have the abortion, he didnt think that was funny," "i would be at his funeral to get his DNA so i could get my money," that's all manipulative and shallow on your part.
If you're used to men letting you down in life, and you don't trust them, you don't care about their feelings, and you expect them to not be there for you and your children, then why on earth did you tell this guy you were pregnant and then mess with his emotions? You could've just never told him...what difference would it make with you?
And another thing--you want another kid so you'll never be lonely? Well, where are the two kids you have now? On top of that, you want a son?! You don't respect or like men, it sounds like, and you want a son? Why--so you can use and manipulate him when he gets older? Of course, if he's raised under your care, I suppose he'll be used to conniving, manipulating women that will treat him with the utmost disrespect in his future.
You don't want to be judged? Get some decent morals, for your sake and your children's. You all deserve better, and it starts with you. I don't know what your story is for playing with men's emotions, but for goodness sake, get a grip, wake up and realize that men are just as human as you are, emotions and all. Start treating them with respect, along with yourself by no longer putting yourself in these "abandoned by men" positions anymore, and your life will start looking up.
Do this for yourself and your three children. Like I said, you all deserve so much better, and it starts with you.
Youre absolutely right. i should not have said anything to him. i just really did not know what to do. the third guy changed his number and i have not heard from him. the guy in question does not call me and if i do talk to him he sounds utterly disgusted with me. he keeps beating himself up for getting involved with me. he was really a happy person until this came about. my children are with me, one is 5 the other is 14 and she will be leaving me soon, so i know if i have another one i will always have someone around. i was just being sarcastic when i said those things, even though it wasnt the best thing to say at the time especially since he hasnt been thru anything like this before in his life. i was just trying to make him laugh or feel better. i really thought i could get close to him thru sex, but that didnt work. he is a nervous wreck... just pray for me please
I will pray for you. I sincerely mean that.
Have your baby and get some help.
God bless,
-AJH
Have your baby and get some help.
God bless,
-AJH
Please just do the right thing for you, your kids, and the baby I didn't mean to be cruel to you I just can't stand when people have abortions. Promise me keep this baby and try to get everything straighten out. Im here for you if you need to talk. how many months are you? I hope everything goes well for you.
you sound absolutely insane. you cannot use sex to manipulate people. you knew he was involved, you knew he was not interested and yet you moved in when he was in a weak minded state and tried to steal him from someone he loves. yes, he is at fault to. bet he wishes he had lost your number long ago. before you went "fatal attraction" on him!
i feel really bad for your children as they are learnng from everything you do. they are like sponges soaking in all of this nasty behavior. you ARE toying with this man's mind and his life.
in my opinion, which is all i have to give you on a forum, this baby should be placed up for adoption. you do not sound at all mentally stable and capable of parenting in any sound manner.
i will pray, but for your children. they had no choice in this situation you seem to think is fun to force on people.
i feel really bad for your children as they are learnng from everything you do. they are like sponges soaking in all of this nasty behavior. you ARE toying with this man's mind and his life.
in my opinion, which is all i have to give you on a forum, this baby should be placed up for adoption. you do not sound at all mentally stable and capable of parenting in any sound manner.
i will pray, but for your children. they had no choice in this situation you seem to think is fun to force on people.
if you have a 14 yr old child you definatly have issues. this is the way a teenager might behave not a 30something yr old. having a child so you wont be lonely is rediculous. get a puppy or a cat. i dont think you should spread yourself too thin,,, i dont think it would work well for you.
I agree with you I didn't even think of that give it up for adoption. I have 2 handsome boyz and they are my number 1 I try my best to take care of them. They are bestfriend would not to know what to do without them. I just hope she makes the right choice I think if you don't want kids don't have sex the safest way to go.
Yeah i know i just turned 34, and i have two daughters. I shouldnt have played with his mind. I think he lost his job from stressing over this. I just dont know what to say to him. My due date is 0ct 16th and it doesnt point to him, i am just afraid to call him because i know he is really upset, thanks for your words
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