sonds to me like you think to much of yourself and not enough of others , remember you married him, and no the grass is not greener on the other side every thing is exciting for a while and then the new wears off of the Chrystal chandaliers.
but in the long run i beleive that both of you would be happier if you got a divorce, just my opinion, but it is your decision to make jo
This is what I get from your post:
* Married for 4 yrs.
* Significant age, life experience and maturity difference (16 yrs.) (Red flag)
* Husband "rescue" you from bad relationship (Rebound!)...(Red flag)
* What you are feeling is "gratitude" to your husband (Red flag)
* No sex for 1 yr. (Red flag)
* Financial incompatability and responsibility....(Red flag)
* You love him (care & friendship), BUT are not in love with him (Red flag)
* You have committed adultery by thought, lust and interest for another man
because you are married. (Red flag)
There is definately an age and maturity difference and you felt gratitude when you met him for helping you get over a past relationship. That's a poor excuse to marry someone and now you have met someone else.
I recommend that you either seek marriage counselor or a priest to sort out the problems in your marriage, but if you are no longer in love with the man (I don't think you ever where!), then file for a divorce. He doesn't deserve to be cheated on when all he did was be good to you. Also, remember, what goes around comes around, I hope this infidelity doesn't backfire on you. The grass is not always greener on the other side, but do him the favor and give him a divorce.