Should I let go

Question

I am 20+ and had been dating my best friend for close to four years now.really she is all I wanted but recently she complains about almost all things.she demands a lot than usual ( though I succumb to some) she is ashame of  telling her friend about me though I am highly respected and loved when i come in contact with them.she goes angry unnecesarily ..................for this, I felt she just want to be alone or try someone else. do you think i should let her go b'cause that is what i have in mind to do though I really love her and cannot afford to lose her cause she has great part of me...Any advice or what do you think i do.

mami1323 · Answer

It sounds to me like she is pushing you away for some reason.  Maybe she is stressed about school, maybe she is venturing else where and is interested in someone else.  There really isn't way of knowing what's going on in her mind.  Try talking to her about your issues.  If it seems that she's not really caring how you feel then I think your only option is to take a break.  Maybe that's what she needs right now as well but doesn't want to say it.  Look, if it's meant to be it will come back to you but frankly what kind of friend is she if all she does is yell at you.  Plus, hiding your relationship is not a good sign either.  If she loves you she wouldn't care if people knew, she would shout it from the rooftops.  Good luck and I hope you get the strength to do what's right for you.

jo929 · Answer

It sounds like you are smart enough to know that she is using you, and i do beleive that you are smart enough to know that this relation ship is going nowhere, , you will leave if she does not leave first there are lots of woman out there that will not take you for granted and treat you better, you sound a little immature ...work on your self esteem and let her go. I know that you think you love her but hormones will rage, until reality hits you   lots luck  jo

truehelp · Answer

I think you are right by saying she knows i can do anything to keep her and greatly,I must say thank you for telling me to work on my confidence b'cause this was how she got to know that I can do without her.i will put your advise to practise and will see what comes out of it but do pray for me meanwhile whatever comes up can i trust you to be my listening friend?

mayflowers · Answer

I can't really tell you if she will come back or not.  Some people move on and want someone new while others realize what they have lost and come back.   From what you describe, it sounds like she knows she has you and you'll do anything to keep her.  Maybe try working on your confidence so that she can't push you around so much.  She may start respecting you more and treating you better.  

To be honest, I don't know what she will actually do in this situation b/c it could go either way right now.

truehelp · Answer

thanks and this is exactly what i mean to do but do you think If i let go she will come back later b'cause she wasnt like this before she got to her third year in university meanwhile she is in har finals now.We had really come a long way and this is why I said she has a great part of me

mayflowers · Answer

You need to talk to her and find out her intentions about the relationship.  It sounds like she doesn't care but you'll never know unless you ask.  One sided relationships are usually going to end at some point.