keep dreaming about my ex

[writingzombie]

I broke up with my fiance about two weeks ago. We were together for over a year. He's in military and I'm in college so we were in a long distance relationship. We only could get to see each other during my school breaks.
When he was in Iraq, he used to email me every single day.. although we couldn't talk on the phone, I felt we were talking all the time. After he got stationed in Texas, he got so busy and he stopped emailing me.
I happened to buy a phone card first so I always call him. I called him like 3 times a week since I was busy with school and my part time job, too. And after I spent three weeks with him this summer, I sensed something is weird. He emailed me more often than before but it was always so short. And he never buy that phone card I asked him to. He was always drinking with his friends at night and pass out. Whenever I call him, he was playing video games with his friends. He sometimes gets on MSN and he doesn't answer me right away. It seemed like he was never there although he WAS online and still talking to me. And whenever I tried to talk about something, he took off saying he needs to go to bed. It continued for a while and I felt miserable and lonely more than ever.
I wanted to talk to him about how lonely I feel lately but he refused to talk about our "relationship" or "feelings" So I tried not to be too needy or moody. And one day, I passed out on the street and I was taken to ER and my best friend called my SO and I was expecting him to call me that night.. but he never did. When I got home, I received an email saying he didn't have any money to recharge the phone card I gave him and his best friend was out of town so he couldn't borrow any money from him. I was devastated. He said he would be online till I get on and he was. I broke up with him that day. He said I'm too demanding. I told him how me wanting to talk to my fiance far away from me could be too demanding. I just can't believe how easily our engagement got broken. I planned my life with him. The thing is.. I keep having dreams about him almost everyday after the breakup. In my dreams, we're together and do things we used to do, having good time. He doesn't know we're broken up but I know. Few days ago, I had a dream about him getting lost in the woods during his PT or something. I feel like I'm being haunted even in my dreams. I feel emotionally drowned when I wake up. Anyone can give some good advice on this?

[specialmom]

Two seperate things going on in your post.  The easy one which is why you are dreaming about him--------- well, he is on  your mind and that often enters into our dreams.  Most dreams are meaningless and not a sign of anything.  I often dream of George Clooney but know I love my husband and while I'm sure George would drop everything to be with me . . . I don't take those wonderful dreams too seriously.  That is an exageration, but you catch my meaning.  You are dreaming about him because this is fresh on your mind, you are hurting and your subconsious is trying to work it out.  He'll pop into your dreams once in a while for a long time.  

The second issue in your post is that you are getting over a break up.  That takes time and you'll go through different phases with this.  You didn't break up with him, right?  But you were mad.  It seems you were on the end of things of always wanting more out of him.  He couldn't give it.  Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise.  You can find a man that is more attentive to you and more equal with you in terms of feelings.  You also have time to reflect to see if you are indeed to needy (big turn off to most men) and fix that about yourself if you feel you are even a little bit like that.  I know it hurts and hopefully you can stay busy and lean on some friends and family.  Good luck

[quebrasi]

I'm sorry to say this but you need to forget him.love cant be forced.For someone to love you they do the little things that matter to you even if they dont necessarily want to.Its about being selfless.It hurts but you need to move on.

[Kimmi1565]

It'll pass in time.  I had a similar situation with an ex of mine.  We weren't engaged but we've been friends for 9 years now and dated for 2 of those years(in 2 segments).  I broke up with him the second time, the first time he ended things with me.  If you need it, there's nothing wrong with going to the doctor and asking for an antidepressant.

The most important thing is to remember that all wounds heal with time.