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Hi. Just seeking some advice. I am in a relationship for the past 6 months, haven't had sex or anything like that with this new parnter. Last week while seeing my period, the part between my vagina and anus became tender and sore so i went to the doctor without telling him. While at the doctor she said it looks like herpes (you could imagine my shock) and sent me to do test, I won't get back the results until in the week coming. I was so sad at the possiblity of being infected i had to tell someone so i told my PARTNER, expecting him to run for the nearest exit, but to my shock he said I should stop crying and that no matter the results he would still love me and still be with me( i cried when he said that). I am just wondering if this could be real? Would someone want to stay with someone who's infected and really love them OR is he just saying that because the result aren't back yet?
Is it definitely possible as a simple search on google will demonstrate that hundreds and thousands of HSV-discordant couples exist.
From personal experience, I can also say it's possible -- I've been dated someone for 7 months with HSV-2 and I am HSV-2 negative. That said, I will not say it is easy, nor will I say I am positive I will end up marrying her. But if the relationship is strong enough, I'm sure your bf will stay with you.
To give you some advice: the last thing you want to do is pressure/coerce/guilt/persuade your bf into staying with you. You definitely want to make sure it is his choice. I therefore recommend you give him some space and tell him you'll understand if he does not want to be with you. Otherwise, he may resent you later, and the relationship will fail.
Most likely, if he does truly love you, he will return -- irrespective of your HSV-2 infection.
You also will want to inform him that with (1) Valtrex daily suppressive therapy, (2) no sex during outbreaks, and (3) consistent condom use, the chances of contracting herpes from female-male is around 1-2%/year. If he has HSV-1 (cold sores), the risks are even lower.
Hope this helps.
From personal experience, I can also say it's possible -- I've been dated someone for 7 months with HSV-2 and I am HSV-2 negative. That said, I will not say it is easy, nor will I say I am positive I will end up marrying her. But if the relationship is strong enough, I'm sure your bf will stay with you.
To give you some advice: the last thing you want to do is pressure/coerce/guilt/persuade your bf into staying with you. You definitely want to make sure it is his choice. I therefore recommend you give him some space and tell him you'll understand if he does not want to be with you. Otherwise, he may resent you later, and the relationship will fail.
Most likely, if he does truly love you, he will return -- irrespective of your HSV-2 infection.
You also will want to inform him that with (1) Valtrex daily suppressive therapy, (2) no sex during outbreaks, and (3) consistent condom use, the chances of contracting herpes from female-male is around 1-2%/year. If he has HSV-1 (cold sores), the risks are even lower.
Hope this helps.
It's treatable with the right medication and abstain from having intercourse during breakouts. You will know when you are having a breakout by that feeling of discomfort to the touch and will only last a short time, also bathing in really warm water helps. Have him use a condom, becaused you can easily transmit it simply to the touch. Research it and become informed. You can life a full life, but become educated on the STD....good luck...Judy (Chicago)
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