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Is this normal
Okay, This may seem weird but my husband and I went on vacation last week ( as many of you know, we suffered through an emotional affair three years ago) and we had a wonderful time. Things have been very stressful for us over the past three years. His infidelity, two special needs children, work and so on. Any way vacation was amazing! We really reconnected, he even told me the second night we were there that he really felt like we were reconnecting, one night we went out to a Jamaican eatery. We had a great time and met some really nice people from all over. Well one of the couples was from Russia, before we knew it we were all out on the dance floor having a blast. Then next night we went to meet up with them again but they had to cancel so we went alone. My husband ( who can not dance ) wanted us to go dance again. I was really not feeling it b/c in the past it usually led to trouble for me so it is something I have only done once or twice with him and not in a club type atmosphere. Well, he ordered a few drinks and before I knew it I was out there with total strangers. NOT GOOD! I really do not recall alot of what happened seeing I do not drink even occasionally so..... But I do recall some not so good dance situations my question comes in here. My husband was totally turned on by this! I would be so angry if the shoe was on the other foot. I do recall two men ( I should say boys - mid 20's) approaching me and I had to tell them I was married. I guess I still danced with them and with one very suggestively. Now, whenever we are intimate, My husband brings it up. He said it makes him feel good. But that is not who I really am. I try to explain that was vacation.
lol. I wish he would be a little jealous! Freaked me out a bit but he knows me well enough I think to know I would could never stray. I say that b/c even if tempted I would never be able to live with myself if I did. He is jealous when it comes to the kids though. And with reason. I did push him to the side for the first few ( 10) years but got the message three years ago lol. Now, if we could just work on how to agree on raising them ( posted in my journal) things would be great!
I do NOT have one of those men. LOL. Mine is actually insanely jealous of any man even looking at me. I wish he was more open minded in that sense but it is who he is and can't change him. Glad you had fun lovemykids...sounds like you and your husband are rebuilding your relationship. Happy that you are in a much better place :)
Well, we have been home a week now and still going strong! I am so thankful for a husband who is so caring and compassionate as well. Been tough week. Daughter in and out of the hospital, I have been down w/ bronchitis and dealing with our son but my husband has been a great help through it all. There were a few times I thought " oh, no here we go, back to the bickering and complaining". But we were able to work through it. We realized our life may not be normal but we do not need to let it tare us apart. It took this crazy vacation and a few crazy nights to realize we can still let go and let loose at times and be good parents.
We had fun, I guess just b/c I was a wild child and he was the good one, when we got married I really settled down but as he hit his 40's he started to act like a kid and I was settled into the mom and wife role. I know once in awhile It is good to let your hair down, but some of the things he said to me really freaked me out. Hoping it was just the alcohol talking! I will say it has really spiced things up for us since we have been back home.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I think most men find 'other' men envious of them to be very flattering. If they were groping you and you were loving it------ and he wanted them to grope you again, that would be weird. But that you are a good dancer and other's admired you was probably a turn on for him. so, yes, normal.
I think that allure of vacation mode in which we let our hair down and throw caution to the wind is 'fun' verses our usual serious self. I'd be guilty of that too and when I do 'let it all hang out' --- my husband gets a kick out of it.
So, I think what you describe is okay and not your husband desiring you to be with another man if that was what you were worried about. He's just got a hot babe and feeing good about that! All his!! (ps: glad you had fun on vacation!)
I think that allure of vacation mode in which we let our hair down and throw caution to the wind is 'fun' verses our usual serious self. I'd be guilty of that too and when I do 'let it all hang out' --- my husband gets a kick out of it.
So, I think what you describe is okay and not your husband desiring you to be with another man if that was what you were worried about. He's just got a hot babe and feeing good about that! All his!! (ps: glad you had fun on vacation!)
So normal? Because I feel like a fool lol! Glad I will never see these guys again. One even approached my husband and apologized for the things he said to me, but told him he was lucky and not to screw it up. But I do not want that to be all he thinks about when we are together.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hm. Well, do you think what he liked was the image of you being sexy and sexy enough for other men to want you BUT they can't have you as you are his????
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