We broke up.... :(

[LittleTiny Me]

So a few days before our 4 year anniv. we broke up. (I had previously posted a Q regarding this situation, just yesterday) well some events lead to me making this hard decision out of no where.

Wed. my ex bf's dad took away his cellphone and keys (like he always does to try and control a 24 yr old man) so I didnt get to see him. I went pretty much all day without any communication with him. I arrived home around late 12pm from a dr. appt. Stood home for a few hours. Then left again. Around 4pm he calls me. I stood quiet finding it weird that his dad had taken away his phone yet he was calling me. I thought it might be the dad you know. I picked up staying quiet, heard the dad saying: Does she want me to go to her house and talk to her!? I thought wtf is going on? Next thing I know we are talking about how I supposedly sent his sister idk what on myspace talking **** about her. Of course I became upset of being false accused by his father. & the thought that a 27 year old grown woman with kids would call her dad & tell him I was talking about her on my myspace page when I clearly dont even have her added & my page is on private. (the thought of her "stalking" my page was upsetting me more) I told my ex: tell your dad to come to my house and see whats going to happen to him for threatening me saying hes going to come over and speak to me. The 3 minute phone call was just pretty much me cursing him out like crazy since I was so upset. He then says ok & clicks. A few minutes later I get a message from him online stating how he called his sister and bitched at her. How he finally stood up for himself. I said its too late. Ive had it. It took this issue for you to realize your sister is one to cause fights on purpose. One thing lead to another and I made the decision to break up with him yesterday.

Im still in shock and dont believe its true. How can I have done this after nearly 4 years? Occasionally I feel like pouring down into tears but Im trying not to...

[Princessa745]

It will get easier as time goes on. Time heals all wounds.

[Judy246]

I recommend that at this point, step back and let "the ocean settle" .. The best thing God did was create one day after another, so for now, step back and let this unpleasant moment pass. Only you know if anything was posted or not and if you are not guilty of anything, then hold your head up high and the truth will eventually come out.

A parent no matter how old his son is will step in to control situations that are beyond their children if necessary.

Stop the treatening,cursing, arguments and confrontation and at the right time, agree to meet to "communicate" the issues like the adults that you both are.

If the relationship is fixable, then try to work it out, if not, leave it alone, work on coping skills and move forward. Breakups are very difficult. It's a loss of a loved one and you will go thru the grief process, just like a death (a loss), in order to heal and move forward, this will take time and support from friends and I recommend that you write to us when you need to.  Let us know how you are coming along...Judy

[mami1323]

We spoke in the other forum and well, you did what you had to do.  You had reached your limit with the family's interference.  Just be thankful that you aren't married with kids and had to deal with them the rest of your life.  It's going to take time and the emotions are going to be up and down but if you are serious about moving on, you need to stay strong and stick to your guns.  If he wants to get back with you then he will need to set his family aside and focus on fixing this relationship.  Good luck.

[vmvnpv]

Wow.  I'm sorry it's happened and you're upset but it sounds like it's for the better.  You don't want that much drama in a relationship and if your ex can't stand up for himself he won't ever stand up for you.  You're better off without him.  (((hugs)))