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What are mens reasons for doing this?
Hi,
Just this past Saturday, I had a man in another country write me a nice e-mail & send me hearts & kisses. I had to translate the letter from French to English but, I got the general idea. He's not from France though. He added me a few months ago on Facebook. We had NOT talked since meaning, no real communication. He did "like" my links on there when I posted music videos from YouTube but, that's it.
Anyway, the letter was very, very sweet. He even told me that the heart he sent was for his true affection (using his own wording). Then, he sent me 4 kiss icons.
What I'm writing to ask is WHY did he do this?
1) Was he just being "nice"?
2) Is he potentially interested really in me or does he have some sexual fetish thing?
3) Is he being cruel, heartless, by creating this fascade as a ignorant joke?
What do I do now? I am not anticipating or expecting anything but, it sure felt REALLY good as a woman to be desirable, attractive & "wanted" b/c it's been a LONG time yet, I am unsure why men do this?
Where do I go now from here? Please, any suggestions?
Thank you! :)
Just this past Saturday, I had a man in another country write me a nice e-mail & send me hearts & kisses. I had to translate the letter from French to English but, I got the general idea. He's not from France though. He added me a few months ago on Facebook. We had NOT talked since meaning, no real communication. He did "like" my links on there when I posted music videos from YouTube but, that's it.
Anyway, the letter was very, very sweet. He even told me that the heart he sent was for his true affection (using his own wording). Then, he sent me 4 kiss icons.
What I'm writing to ask is WHY did he do this?
1) Was he just being "nice"?
2) Is he potentially interested really in me or does he have some sexual fetish thing?
3) Is he being cruel, heartless, by creating this fascade as a ignorant joke?
What do I do now? I am not anticipating or expecting anything but, it sure felt REALLY good as a woman to be desirable, attractive & "wanted" b/c it's been a LONG time yet, I am unsure why men do this?
Where do I go now from here? Please, any suggestions?
Thank you! :)
Hey everyone....
Ok, here's even more complication related to this. Just last evening, he sent me 2 more Kiss icons. Then, we talked in FB's chat-service. From there, we went onto MSN's Messenger. That was a pain in the butt though b/c, I had to download it, etc. & it seemed he was frustrated w/ my slowness of downloading. That's tough though.
Anyway, we talked so long (NO sexual or love talk though) that I even missed/skipped dinner. However, the end of the conversation ended w/ him asking me if I was leaving for work. I was like, "what the heck"? He didn't even say thank you. Our conversation though, consisted of him talking about his past relationships. I was the one too, that asked all of the questions. I felt like I was digging for information. He even stated he would continue sending me kisses & Ihearts but, he is not looking for anymore "bit#%&s" to quote him....
Call me naive or stupid but, seriously, what does he want from me. I'm not all whiny, complaining on the FB site about being single, turning 36 this month, alone either. Just to clarify. I'm upbeat, positive & just give minimal details.
Furthermore, just last night, I joined ACTUAL REAL-LIFE groups. I joined Meet-Up.com. I found 4 groups so far that have interests in common with mine. One man even "greeted" me this morning in an e-mail so, I'll see what's happening.
As for this French-speaking dude, seriously....he's not going to scam me or I won't look like a fool to him yet, I just don't know his intentions....we'll see w/ about that & these Meet-Up.com's groups...
Ok, here's even more complication related to this. Just last evening, he sent me 2 more Kiss icons. Then, we talked in FB's chat-service. From there, we went onto MSN's Messenger. That was a pain in the butt though b/c, I had to download it, etc. & it seemed he was frustrated w/ my slowness of downloading. That's tough though.
Anyway, we talked so long (NO sexual or love talk though) that I even missed/skipped dinner. However, the end of the conversation ended w/ him asking me if I was leaving for work. I was like, "what the heck"? He didn't even say thank you. Our conversation though, consisted of him talking about his past relationships. I was the one too, that asked all of the questions. I felt like I was digging for information. He even stated he would continue sending me kisses & Ihearts but, he is not looking for anymore "bit#%&s" to quote him....
Call me naive or stupid but, seriously, what does he want from me. I'm not all whiny, complaining on the FB site about being single, turning 36 this month, alone either. Just to clarify. I'm upbeat, positive & just give minimal details.
Furthermore, just last night, I joined ACTUAL REAL-LIFE groups. I joined Meet-Up.com. I found 4 groups so far that have interests in common with mine. One man even "greeted" me this morning in an e-mail so, I'll see what's happening.
As for this French-speaking dude, seriously....he's not going to scam me or I won't look like a fool to him yet, I just don't know his intentions....we'll see w/ about that & these Meet-Up.com's groups...
jojo is right, "I wouldn't give him any personal info". Too many predators preying on lonely women.
No one can read his mind, hun. Like Judy said, be very cautious about ANYONE you meet on the internet. I wouldn't give him any personal info or anything like that. It's so much easier for people to be predators on the internet than in person because on the internet, you can be whoever you want. Just be careful and try not to read to much into it.
Jojo
Jojo
It's really hard to know this mans reasons. He might be a romantic at heart and just say what women want to hear and then move on to the next one. He might be having a little fun, or who knows what he is thinking, we really don't know, but I just don't want you to put your hopes us with someone who speak, "Je t' aime beaucoup (I love you very much)" the romantic language and turn out to be an opportunist. He does it, because he is on the right website and enjoys messing with women. Who knows what he's thoughts and intentions are, that's why you have to proceed with caution. Hugs...Judy
Hey Judy,
You're right in your thoughts regarding this. I'm extremely cautious & cynical when it comes affairs of the heart.
However, I'm still pining though the questions above in that, why did he do this? What are his thoughts & intentions do you & others think?
Thanks & have a good one!
You're right in your thoughts regarding this. I'm extremely cautious & cynical when it comes affairs of the heart.
However, I'm still pining though the questions above in that, why did he do this? What are his thoughts & intentions do you & others think?
Thanks & have a good one!
Use caution with this guy. I was in Lourdes France and Paris in August 08. To be honest, I don't see a stable relationship coming out of this, because his literally lives around the world in another country.Don't let the, "Comment allez vous, je suis tres bien" fool you with the romantic tone. He might seem nice, but you don't really know him. Do not be trusting, because you feel alone, you can be victimized easily, but I think you know it. There has to be a better way for you to a meet potential mates than on these internets, again, just my opinion. Judy
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