Anybody out there tonight

[Sad&Confused]

I'm new to this forum . . . I just need someone to chat with.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

You teach people how to treat you....

Stop letting this man walk all over you.

Get the phone records and confront him.

He is having an emotional affair.

[sparkeler]

Why in the world are you acting like it's not that serious?  He is talking with another women.  Probably sharing intimate & private details of himself to her when he should be sharing it with you.  I wouldn't want a husband like that.  I would kick his ass out.  He is walking all over you & your letting him.  Stop being a door mat.

[otot_mu_bahu]

i agree, it can really get deeper...

[PlateletGal]

"He doesn't and won't admit that he talks to her on teh phone and thinks he's got me believing that he has no contact with her".

So this man is deceiving and lying to you ? I can tell you one thing... it is best to SLAM your foot down now rather than later. His behavior is unacceptable and he needs a serious wake-up call.

It isn't good to wait on this... because his relationship with this other woman will get even deeper.

Good luck !

[otot_mu_bahu]

oh i see...

i really do not know what to say... but have you told him about how you feel? you know, if he is giving her the help, so are you..

[otot_mu_bahu]

oh i see...

i really do not know what to say... but have you told him about how you feel? you know, if he is giving her the help, so do you..

[Sad&Confused]

My husband has been talking on the phone with another woman - out of state.  He waits until I'm asleep to call her and then they talk all hours of the night.  I know that it initially started out as a "you help me I'll help you out of a ditch" -  but it was all online in a chat type room that both he and I were members of.  Now they taken it to another level.  He doesn't and won't admit that he talks to her on teh phone and thinks he's got me believing that he has no contact with her.  

I don't know what to make of it.  

[Sad&Confused]

I have asked him who he's talking to at those hours of the night and he says it's a family member - I just don't understand why he feels he needs to lie to me about.  the more he lies, the more upset and concerned I become that what he's got with her is something I should be worried about.

he won't come clean about who he's talking to.

[otot_mu_bahu]

i really couldn't throw the stone to him, you know... coz i myself has done it too.

and of course, now that it's coming from the person like you, i know how much pain it has been causing you...

mind if i ask?  if you're loosing much communication like talking serious issues, have you denied him of sex, affection, or are you both lacking time for each other?

[Sad&Confused]

I'm here - feeling bummed out about things that have been happening in my marriage lately.

[otot_mu_bahu]

your name says it all. why, is there something you want to share?

[otot_mu_bahu]

still awake ey?

[Sad&Confused]

I'm so sorry - just realized my name is similar to yours - hope it doesn't create confusion.