arguing advice

[michelle8118]

Hi im17 and my boyfriend is 18 i love him so much words cant explain but i just have one problem i argue with him so much because of my jealousy he gets mad because im so jealous like he wants to talk to girls and everything and i just don't like it because i start to think negative about him all the time and sometimes i just don't trust him or the girl ..but he has never cheated or done anything behind my back...but i just don't trust him sometimes..i wanna feel like i could trust him when he talks to girls or hangout with them at school..do you think its okay for your boyfriend to give out his number and talk to them on the phone.when he was doing that i guess thats when my hole trust came down and i started to think negative about him..i just need advice with my jealousy i dont wanna lose him because ofmy arguing..  

[mami1323]

I have the same advice here as I had in your other post.

[teko]

You are 17 and he is 18. Very unlikely that this is one of those forever relationships. However, if he is wanting an exclusive relationship with you, (I am assuming he does if you call him boyfriend), then he should not be handing out phone numbers and carrying on like he is available to date. That is disrespectful to you. If he thinks there is nothing wrong with it, then give your number out as well and call them and talk all the time.  If he is sincere, it will not bother him at all. Or do you think he would get jealous as well?  One thing is certain. Arguin will end the relationship anyways. You need to put guys on the backburner and enjoy being 17. You should be having fun, dating, concentrating on being the best you can be, and enjoying life.

[specialmom]

Hi,  relationships when you are young are tough.  I think that keeping everything in perspective is important here and that he will have a social life with and outside of you.  That is what highschool is all about, really.  The other side of the teenage years is finding out what you are all about yourself.  What do you like to do? What are your passions?  What do you want to do in the future?  You should be spending time with your boyfriend as well as friends to develop your whole self.  And I'd say the same for him.  Guys don't give us our whole being and shouldn't be the biggest focas in our life in our teen age years.  This is just my opinion, of course.  I know how important this relationship is to you-------  but it will go better as will everything else in your life if you work on the things that are within your control.  That is you.  Good luck!!

[Judy246]

Hi, you jelousy and insecurities are justified when he is giving out and accepting phone numbers from other girls. It's ok to have friends both male and female and the only way he can develop good friendships at times is by exchanging phone number or hanging out, but he is in a relationship and needs to be more sensitive to your feelings. Men think differently than woman. I'm sure he doesn't see anything wrong with the exchange, but if he is in an exclusive relationship with you and this behavior is of concern then it's important that you communicate and discuss the issues without them escalating into a fight or ugly argument. Tell him how his behavior is effecting you and what can he do to address this issue and any other issues that is bothering you. Put it on him to address and resolve. I also feel that you are suffering from low self esteem and insecurities that you need to address within yourself and not feel threatened by anyone. A confident person radiates and it's contagious...people tend to want to socialize with someone who is confident and knows how to carry herself. Good Luck, Judy