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can you love 2?
I am 20 years old and have a boyfriend of 4 years who has a little girl. I also have a best friend who is also an ex and says he still loves me. We broke up when we were younger because he had to move. Now I love my current boyfriend but I'm afraid our relationship in not changing. What I mean by this ishis mother an ex call the shots. His mother always tries to control us and wants us to do everything she says of course I say nothing cuz his daughter is not mine. Also the mtoher is the same way she has a hard time sending her kid with nice clothes to school and yells at us for stupid reason on top of that my bf does whatever she tells him too. I feel like he being controlled and when I talk to him about it he says nothing. He never expresses emotions when I ask him things. I told him how i felt the other day and he did not say a word. He doesn't seem to realize that he is very close to losing me not because I don't love him but because he is not appreciating me or valuing my opinion. My best friend on the other hand listens to what i have to say and supports me. He said he will be here whether I break up with my boyfriend or not. He's been the best even before i told him i might be breaking upwith my bf. He doesnt know any specific problems. I don't know what to do? I am torn between the one I've loved for 4 years and the one I've loved for 8 eyears and yes I do love my friend but I tried to move on?I don't want to leave my current life but I'm not sure I could stay in it for my own sanity???Help
I do knwo what is right for me but it's not easy to leave a 4 year relationship and I am giving him the chance to change some things but I won't wait forever for thinngs to change...
I think you know the answer to this post,in your heart you know what is right for you and what is wrong with the relationship now, and if you are having doubts wait awhile and see what is going on with both of the guys if you have any doughts always wait luck jo
Yeah I was thinking of basically not sleeping over during the week while I was in school and staying mostly at my mother's while he is working. I have stepped back majorly from situations with his daughter as I felt I had gotten myself to attached and worried about things i shouldn't be worrying about. I have him make all the decisions for his kid. I still take care of her when he is at work but thats where I've drawn the line. I thought I was ready for this family stuff and I don't think I am ready to be smack in the middle of it. So I have taken a step back not alienating the child but having him take care fo his own responsibilities and that part he does well I might add I just need him to stand up for me and if he can't then I don't know what to do because I need soemone who can stand up for me and take my side nce in a while. I need a support system which I do not have....As for my ex we still talk as friend and I have established that with him...He is going away to school at the end of the month so that he does not stand in the way of anything he said he does love me but if I am happy with the guy I have then we will stay friends as we always have....I am worried though that by the time I make up my mind that he will have found someone else...
tough one. leaving one for another never really ends good. deal with the one ur with now, see if things can get better. if u think u tried everything them maybe its time to leave. take some time to urself dont just ran back to the ex. u will need time to sort out thru baggage from the last relationship. then see if u still want the ex.
ive been in this situation before and i have regretted making the decision that i made. i left a long term rel ship cuz an ex of mine spent a year trying to get me back on and off. eventually he convinced that he cant breath w/o me. i listened. and guess what? we broke up in a month. so it was all for nothing. and it turned my life upside down. so that i wouldnt do again.
u are only 20. its very unlikely that u gona marry either one of these guys. but hey u never know. and despite what other people might say im pretty sure if u decide to break up with the guy ur with now u will run to the ex same day. just be careful. make decisions like that slowly. its ur life not theirs.
i hope everything works out for u one way or the other ;)
ive been in this situation before and i have regretted making the decision that i made. i left a long term rel ship cuz an ex of mine spent a year trying to get me back on and off. eventually he convinced that he cant breath w/o me. i listened. and guess what? we broke up in a month. so it was all for nothing. and it turned my life upside down. so that i wouldnt do again.
u are only 20. its very unlikely that u gona marry either one of these guys. but hey u never know. and despite what other people might say im pretty sure if u decide to break up with the guy ur with now u will run to the ex same day. just be careful. make decisions like that slowly. its ur life not theirs.
i hope everything works out for u one way or the other ;)
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