I was stuck

[melmel41]

It wasn't that I was lonely I didn't have anywhere else to go. I was living with my sister with my daughter and she(her husband) and my bf was paying the bills. I was going threw medical problems at the time as well and didn't have any help .Now that I'm in my own place I had to have help from them again cause of on going med problems. But my sister and bf are gone but he keeps apologizing and my sister hasn't even said sorry .I just can't seem to get passed it 'cause I want answer's I want to Know why,I want an explanation,I can care less if I ever see them again I just want to know why.  and I want to thank you all for your advice cause I have no friends or much of a family who wants me to forgive her again which I told my parents they would never see me talk to that thing again in life.I just feel that I don't need anyone sister or not in my life anymore.But for my question is for him, everytime I see him and he apologizes I get in revenge mode and get every dime I can from him and what ever else I can I want to burn them so bad I see it in my sleep. I can't rest until i get both of them. I feel like I'm losing it and can't afford to see a doctor. what is your advice

[mslkpage]

You'll never find out "why" this happened. Even if your sister sat down and you hashed it out, nothing she says would really answer this for you. And wanting revenge is only going to hurt you in the end- you need to let go of that negative energy. Look into what counseling resources are in your area. Call your local MHMR and they can point you in the right direction. If there is a college or junior college in your area, they often have graduate students who provide therapy free of charge.

[megochick101]

Like i said in your other post, cut the ties! Get them out of your life. if you need money really badly try welfare and get food stamps just do whatever you can but get them out of your life! I know you want to know why but sometimes there is no answer the that question. Some people are just horrible and are selfish and just do whatever they want whenever they want regardless of the fact that they may be hurting others. Go to a free health clinic in your area and ask them for any information on a counselor who can help you based on your budget, you may even be able to find a forum/group based therapy online or in your neighborhood for people who have been cheated on. If you are seriously thinking of hurting both of them you need to keep them away from you before you do something you'll regret later(i know it may not seem like you'll regret it now but you will). if you can't find a counselor go to a church in your neighborhood and talk to a priest/pastor. Just talk to someone about how your feeling and it should make you feel better. Don't focus on the why(it'll be hard not too but you must try) just get away from these people fast!! And be thankful that these horrible people are no longer a part of your life. You need to surround yourself with better people.

The best advice i can give is to do all of the above, but IMMEDIATELY get these people out of your life!!! No matter how you do it, you need to separate yourself from them!

[Judy246]

Also, you can't move forward, it you stay in the past. The reason the were unfaithful to you is lack of respect, control and opportunity. He is no good for you...please accept that and revenge will get you no where! Do not lower yourself to their pathetic level....let it go and start new. You need to find help with other people that are not those two trators...so, LET IT GO!   Judy

[Judy246]

Oh...you are the person that wrote "Stupid". Please go back and read the advice that was given to you. You must let them both go. No "if" or "but" about it...they both have to go immediately. Make your health a priority at this point, but there is no way around this one....your boyfriend is a jerk and has been playing you for quite sometime and your sisters actions are unforgivable at this point.  Don't walk....RUN and don't look back....Judy

[Judy246]

I'm sorry, I don't understand....did your boyfriend and sister cheated on you? Are you in need of ther financial support? What happened between your bf and your sister?  Thanks, Judy

[heatherlynn22]

i don't think anyone can give advice if we don't know what the problem is.